How To Give A Handjob

In the world of foreplay the handjob is a much underutilized technique in my opinion. We seem to concentrate more on oral sex and penetrative sex and forget all about handjobs as an option! Or, we combine a handjob with a blowjob (which is fine) but we oftentimes ignore the possibility or thrill of simply bringing our man to release with only our hands! This is a great way to be extremely intimate, to change up the routine, or, to use at times when sex may not be an option. So, whether you have never given a handjob, or, you just want to add it into the sexual repertoire, read on for some basic tips on how to blow his mind – and his penis – with a great handjob!

Definition: a basic definition for a handjob is when you use your hands to stroke the man’s penis to arousal and, hopefully, orgasm.

1. TREAD LIGHTLY
The first thing that you need to remember about stimulating your man’s penis with your hands is that you need to TREAD LIGHTLY! This means do NOT grab his penis like you are mixing a martini and shake it rapidly. NO! You must go slowly and introduce your hand to his member. If you are starting from a flaccid state, it is especially important. You must go gently and begin to arouse him slowly and timidly.

2. LUBE IT OR DON’T MOVE IT
While it is possible to give a handjob sans lubrication, you may find that it is less satisfying for him, could cause chaffing, or could even hurt! No, the best thing to do is to introduce some lubrication into the mix. You can use spit (literally drooling it onto his cock) but, if you are not giving him a blowjob, this will not last long. Instead, invest in some nice, silicone lubricant or a special hand job lubricant. Be very liberal with it, make sure his penis is slick for your touch. Once you have him all slippery, your hand will move effortlessly around his shaft.

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3. DIFFERENT STROKES FOR DIFFERENT FOLKS
It is important to remember that every man is different in what they like. One stroke method does not fit all. This means you need to pay attention to his reaction and see what he seems to like. If this is your first time giving him a handjob, vary all your strokes. For example, gently grasp the base with one hand and stroke UP, and then follow with the alternate hand. Or, concentrate on the middle of the shaft only, barely touching the head. Twisting your hand around the shaft in slow, concentrated movements is often a great thrill for him!

4. SEXY SQUEEZIN’
While you never want to squeeze your man TOO hard, you definitely want him to feel that you are stimulating him. This means, finding a fair amount of pressure that allows your hand to slide up and down his shaft while stimulating him enough to be felt. You don't, however want to hurt him or cause anything unpleasant.

5. PAY ATTENTION TO THE PARTS
Yes, you are going to stroke his penile shaft, but, you have to remember that he also has balls (that are very sensitive and appreciate gentle strokes or even a little tug). He also has this special little spot between the base of his balls and his anus that can be stimulated too. This is his perineum. When this space is stimulated via stroking or pushing gently can be very arousing, especially when combined with other moves. So, don’t neglect all of him!

Quick Tip: Another special spot that your man may have not even known existed is the area right below the tip of the penis that faces him. When this area is flicked by the tongue, massaged, or even stimulated with a vibrator, it has the sensitivity equivalent to that of your clit. It isn't as sensitive for every man, but for those that do feel it, it's a great way to give your hand (or even your mouth)a break from going hard on him.

6. TEMPTING TRICKS
While it is important to tailor your handjob to the needs of your man, there are some tried and true techniques that seem to be fan favorites. One hot move is to grab his penis with your hand wrapped around it, facing DOWN. You then stroke UP toward the head, with a gentle twisting motion. Another is the "magician” move. You hold his penis in your hand, gently stroking up to the very tip, but you leave enough of the tip exposed so that you can take your other hand and gently wave back and forth over just the tip, barely touching him. These conflicting actions make magic, and will drive him crazy!

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7. COMMUNICATION AND COMPLETION IS KEY
Inevitably, one of the sexiest things about giving a good handjob is communication and enthusiasm! If you are stroking your man and looking up at him with desiring eyes, asking him how it feels, if the pace is right, or if he is going to cum – this can just send him over the edge! If your goal is to give him a handjob to completion you will want to make sure that when he gets closer to orgasm that you DO NOT STOP! The last thing you want to do is bring him to the edge and then halt the orgasm. Pay attention to the cues - his shaft will harden, his balls will tighten, his muscles will begin to contract, and he may tell you he is about to cum! Pay attention and when he is about to explode pick up the pace slightly and continue until he releases. Then, slow down the pace to a gentle stroke. Do not just stop!

Mikayla’s Tip: If your man has a foreskin, there may be a little different technique to stroking him. An uncircumcised man is VERY sensitive on the head of his penis as well as being prone to injury if the foreskin is pulled back too hard. Make sure you are being cognizant of his extra skin and do not hyper extend it.

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