Beginner's Guide To Anal Sex With A Partner
Have you been considering having anal sex with your partner? Are either of you new to anal play? You are likely excited, nervous and even a little bit afraid. These are all natural reactions to having anal sex for the first time. If you have done what most people do when something is new to them and Googled anal sex, specifically, “does anal sex hurt?,” you have most likely read a lot of horror stories about how painful it is, how you will get hemorrhoids, or how you will bleed afterwards. So, let me the bearer of GREAT news – none of this will happen if you follow these important anal sex rules.
STEP 1: Make Sure You're Ready
Just like with any sexual activity, you need to make sure you are honestly ready for it. No sexual activity should ever be embarked upon because you feel pressured, or because you think you will lose a partner if you do not. So, evaluate your feelings on this and make sure that you try it because you are ready and excited to try.
STEP 2: Trust Your PartnerAgain, just like with any sexual activity you have to be able to trust your partner. With anal sex, specifically, you really need to trust your partner. You have to make sure that he is willing to take his time, listen to your bodily cues, stop if you need him to stop. Anal sex is not something that can or should be rushed.
STEP 3: Use LubricationLube, lube, lube and more lube. Good quality, long-lasting lube. Lots of lube. Hey, did I say lube? Listen, the anal canal is not self-lubricating and, in fact, is quite dry and fragile. This means if you do not introduce lubrication to the anal party you stand the chance of tearing the sensitive lining, causing pain, and having a natural drag that is unpleasant to both of you. So lube it UP!
STEP 4: Slow And Steady Wins The Race
I am sure you are both excited. I am even more sure that HE is excited. The tendency to push in fast and furious is tempting, but you need to realize that it takes time to work the penis (or toy) into the anal canal. The canal will stretch to accept the penetrating object, but it doesn’t happen instantly. With lubrication and patience the canal will open. Furthermore, as an exit only orifice it takes time to train the muscles to relax and accept the insertion. Just a little bit at a time – inch by inch – and once it is all the way in, then you can speed the pace.