How to Buy the Perfect Sex Toy for Your Vagina-Owning Partner

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Buying a sex toy for your partner…think of it as a gift for your partner AND a gift for you! If you’ve had fantasies of watching your partner pleasure themselves but you weren’t sure what the perfect sex toy would be, we’ve got ideas!

Have you thought about your partner having fun with a vibrator or dildo? Have you wanted to surprise your partner with the gift of a vibrator that you can control via remote? Does the idea of your partner using a butt plug really turn you on? Sure it does – and yes you have!

We understand that most people are very aware of all the fun little sex toys available out there and they often think about getting their partner a sexy gift, but don’t know how to go about it. What to choose? What would make them happy? No stress! Think about what your partner likes and what toy you can picture them using. Or think about what you guys may have wanted to try together but haven’t gotten around to yet. Here’s an easy guide for picking out a great toy for the sexy partner in your life.

A Few Tips You Should Know First:

This is a quick tip, but an important one. Before buying any new sex toys you need to make sure you know if your partner has any kind of allergies to certain materials. For example, it's possible for people to have allergies to latex, jelly, PVC, vinyl and rubber. There’s nothing worse than having an allergic reaction when you’ve only been thinking about relaxing and having fun.

If you don't know about these allergies and can't think of any way to casually bring it up without telling your partner it's about sex toys, then we highly recommend finding a glass dildo or silicone vibrator as these materials are the most luxurious and least likely to cause an allergic reaction.
Think about what your partner would want in a toy. What are their likes and dislikes in the bedroom? For example, does your partner enjoy it when you finger them during sex? Or do they like clitoral stimulation? And let’s face it, who doesn’t? Dual stimulation? Does sex hurt your partner at any time? Does your partner orgasm easily or does it take some effort? 

These are all very important questions, because the answers will help you to pick out the right toy.

For example, if your partner enjoys being filled by your fingers then maybe a dildo would be a good option. If they orgasm from clitoral stimulation, then buy a clit vibe. If you know your partner may not enjoy a "realistic" looking toy and you know they'd want a pretty, pink silicone vibrator - look for that. If they like having their nipples pulled on, buy a nipple toy. Think about what your partner likes and what they would enjoy based on how they enjoy sex with you.

Buy Them Something To Masturbate With

If you're looking to buy your partner a new toy, without asking them what they want, buying a simple toy that they can use to masturbate with is an amazing way to go. For most vagina-owners, clitoral stimulation is required in order to orgasm. This is a toy that they will ALWAYS appreciate. Imagine the fun your partner could have thanks to your thoughtful gift.

I think that you could seriously give anyone a little vibrating bullet, a wand massager or some kind of clitoral stimulator and they would be happy. Below, I've linked one of our #1 selling clit vibrators that you can think about buying for your lover.
Recommended Product: The Paris Nubby Clit Teaser
Image of hand holding pink nubby clit stimulator

Buy A Toy You Can Use Together

Buying a toy that you can use together as a couple is double the fun! Instead of just thinking of yourself, think of the many ways you could enjoy some toys together. Double the pleasure, double the fun! But if you're reading this article you already know that.

There are lots of couple’s sex toys that you could buy for your partner that the two of you could use together. Maybe look into our bondage items. That might sound intense to you but there are some really light items that you could begin with. Or if you guys aren't into that, buy a sexy board game the two of you could play.

My ultimate suggestion, though, is to buy a vibrator you can use during sex. A great way to do this if you are having PIV (penis in vagina) sex, is to use a cock ring. This way you can stay nice and hard while your partner also gets clit stimulation from a high-quality cock ring. Couple’s toys are great options for everyone, especially if this is a first time buy!
Recommended Product: The Bunny Love Cock Ring
Image of bright pink bunny shaped cock ring with vibrating bullet inside

Buy Something That Enhances Oral Sex

Don't roll your eyes! I'm sure you're just as good at oral as you say you are, but sometimes it can be really fun and sexy to bring in a toy or product that enhances oral sex and takes it to the next level. Buying your partner something that is specifically focused on giving them more pleasure will be so sexy. They will be very happy to have you switch it up.

You can buy a small vibrator to insert while you lick up top, or the other way around. You can buy some flavored lube to make things a bit more sexy. This is something that's a bonus for you too because you get to try a new flavor.
Recommended Product: The Oral Mouth Vibrator

Image of woman's mouth wearing small red oral vibrator

Buy Something To Tease Them With

If you really want to take control and give your partner something that is for their pleasure, buy something that you can tease them with. So, actually this could be a lot of different things. It could mean taking a fuzzy tickler and teasing different parts of the body or it could be putting a blindfold on your partner while you tease them. What my mind went to immediately though, is buying a sexy pair of vibrating panties for your partner to put on. You get to keep the remote control, and surprise your partner with vibrations all night long.

Recommended Product: Remote Control Vibrating Panties

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What Types Of Toys Does Your Lover Like? Let Us Know Below!


  • Donna

    Is there anything for the breast nipples?

  • Lynda

    I must say my man listens to me and buys toys that will help me achieve more and better orgasms. At every birthday, Christmas or vacation he gets something to try. We have tried all kinds of dildos, vibrators and toys. Normally each toy is based on something we have done or I have said. If we like it then it goes in our favorites box. If we don’t like it it goes in the toy graveyard box. Over the summer we were at our beach house and measuring for a large peice of art for a wall. I just mentioned that I wish it were about 8 inches bigger. Saying that totally innocent. Well on our next trip to our beach house he has a treat for me. I open it and it’s an 8 inch vibrating suction cup dildo. He said you wanted 8 inches bigger. I just laughed it off and said it’s too fucking big. So it’s the first toy we have not tried. I must say recently I have been thinking about having it fill me up and I have gotten so wet. I think the next time at our beach house I will try it alone first. If that goes well what I want to do is fuck that monster while I give my man a blow job.

  • Joe

    Ummm Pete, now you know a man(enjoy…..okay maybe obsessed with watching being apart of, heck all of anything that my wife does. To help you understand it, _Being able to be security and being comfortable with yourself. Let me ask you a quick question, does going solo feel better for you or being with another person? It’s quite simple…..we are raised in a modern world telling us we are never good enough (in order to sell us items). Be it that you are worried about a gorilla ex….he is an EX, see how that works? Perspective Pete… are winning, you have the female. Maybe stop thinking so self-critically and maybe review your thoughts of your lady being so shallow because ultimately, that’s what you’re doing…hurting yourself by being so critical and putting her down thinking she is that shallow (HINT: if she is with you and he is a larger packaged male, she ISN’T what you’re judging her as). I hope you take this message as some suggestions that might make you able to open up your mind and enjoy/make life easier for you. I wish you the best.. Take care Pete, DOJOe

  • Angie

    To Pete and other men worried about the same thing: Women get more feeling in their clits. Learn how to go down on a woman really good. Then try a position with deep penetration to send her over the top. a) doggie style b) missionary with the legs over near head c)missionary with legs over head and with a pillow underneath the back to angle d) missionary on side of the bed with the woman having her legs up and where you would be coming up at an angle with your feet on the floor /—— It is not all about size usually but the angle to hit the g-spot.

  • Mary

    To Pete, a man doesnt need to be a gorilla in size. The best tip I can offer is take the time to pleasure her before. Use your hands or tongue to tease that clit, and dont skimp on the time you spend. 3 licks does not equal an orgasm. And get some confidence. She obviouly thinks your hot, or she wouldnt be with you.

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