How to Use a Butt Plug (Plus The Best Plugs to Try!)

Curious about anal play? Thinking about finally trying a butt plug but not sure where to start? You’re in the right place.

Butt plugs aren’t just a “kinky” niche thing anymore — they're popular because they feel amazing, help you relax for deeper play, and can intensify orgasms like you wouldn’t believe.

Whether you’re a total beginner or just looking to explore backdoor fun more confidently, this guide will walk you through how to use a butt plug safely, comfortably, and with zero stress.

By the time you're done, you’ll know exactly what to do, what it feels like, and you’ll have a few staff-approved plug options ready to try if you decide you’re ready to take the backdoor leap.

The 2 Basic Rules Of Anal Play

1. Use Toys Made for Anal Play

Here’s the thing about the butt: unlike the vagina, the anal canal doesn’t have a “stop point.” There are two sphincters (internal and external) and once something slides past both, your body can literally just… pull it upward.

That’s why anal toys need a flared base or a pull loop — it keeps the plug safely in place and easy to remove.
No flared base = emergency room risk, and nobody wants that adventure.

As long as the toy is specifically made for anal, you’re good to go.

2. Never Go From Anal to Vaginal

Anal bacteria and vaginal bacteria are not friends. Switching without cleaning can introduce bacteria and cause infections.

Simple rule:

• If it’s been in the booty, you wash it before it sees the front again.

• Antibacterial soap or toy cleaner works perfectly.

And if you have a vagina, don’t put butt plugs in it — they’re designed differently and have been, well… somewhere very specific.

5 Butt Plug Tips For Beginners

1. Start Small

Everyone wants to jump to the “fun” part, but your booty needs a warm-up.
Beginner plugs are slim and tapered so your muscles can adjust gradually.

If you really want to do it right?
A training set lets you move up in size at your own pace.

Below: This Silicone Anal Plug Kit includes 3 different sizes of tapered silicone butt plugs so you can start with the smallest and work your way up gradually to the largest size! This anal training kit is perfect for beginners who want to experiment with adding anal toys during masturbation or prepare for anal sex with a partner.

2. Lube Is Your Best Friend 

Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn't naturally lubricate — even when you’re turned on — so lube isn’t optional here, it’s essential.

A few key things to know:

• Anal-specific lubes are often thicker and longer-lasting (great for first-timers)

• Some include soothing ingredients like bisabolol or a light numbing agent like lidocaine

• Silicone lube lasts forever (but don’t use it on silicone toys — it can break them down)

• Water-based lube works with everything and is easy to reapply

If you think you’re using enough lube… add more. And then probably a little more after that.

3. Slow, Gentle, and a Little "Push"  

The first time you insert a plug should feel slow, controlled, and relaxed — not rushed.

A tip most people don’t learn until later:
When the plug is going in, gently push out like you're trying to poop. Sounds weird, but it relaxes the external sphincter and makes insertion way more comfortable.

Deep breaths, go at your own pace, and let your body open naturally — not forcefully.

4. Pressure Is Normal - Pain Is Not 

Expect:

• A stretching sensation

• Pressure

• Fullness

• A “new but interesting” feeling

Totally normal.

What’s not normal:

• Sharp pain

• Burning

• Strong discomfort

If anything hurts, stop, add more lube, slow down, or go smaller.
And if you ever see spotting, that’s your body saying, “next time go slower and use more lube.” Let things heal and try again later.

5. Explore Different Plug Types As You Get Comfortable 

There are so many plug styles, and once you find your favorite, you’ll know.

Options include:

• Soft silicone for comfort (great starters)

• Metal plugs for a weighted, intense feeling (and they look sexy as hell)

• Vibrating plugs (amazing solo or couples play)

• Remote-control plugs for teasing and playful power dynamics

Start simple — upgrade as you get curious.

Why People Love Butt Plugs

1. Warm-Up for Anal Sex

Think of a butt plug like stretching before a really good workout — but, you know, a way sexier one.
Wearing a plug helps your muscles slowly relax and open, so when you go for anal play or full penetration later, your body is already like, “Oh yeah, we’re ready.”

It makes everything smoother, easier, and a whole lot more pleasurable — especially your first few times.

2. Stronger, Deeper Orgasms

A plug adds pressure from the inside, which can make clitoral, vaginal, and penis orgasms way more intense.
It stimulates deep pelvic nerves and heightens sensitivity everywhere — so even a little touch feels electric.

People are often shocked at how much it cranks up arousal and orgasm strength (in the best way).

3. Double-Penetration Vibes

Plug in the back + penetration in the front = next-level sensation.

You get that delicious “full” feeling, extra pressure inside, and depending on your anatomy, your partner may even feel the plug through the thin wall between the vagina and rectum — which can be crazy hot for both of you.

And once you’re comfortable? Try a vibrating plug or a curved one designed to hit more pleasure points — it adds a whole new layer of oh-my-god to the experience. 

Final Thoughts

Trying a butt plug doesn’t have to be intimidating — once you learn the basics, it’s honestly just another way to explore your body and find new kinds of pleasure.

Take it slow, use lots of lube, choose the right toy, and listen to your body.
If you're curious, go for it — and enjoy the discovery process along the way.

Ready to try? The plugs below are perfect places to start when you're ready to explore.

Best Butt Plugs To Try:
(Hand-Picked By Our Sex Toy Experts!)

1. Tapered Silicone Anal Plug

This Tapered Silicone Anal Plug has a slim, flexible shaft and tapered tip for more comfortable insertion. This plug is available in four different sizes, making it perfect for any experience level!

2. Cherry's Vibrating Twister Butt Plug

When you want to take the exciting anal sensations to the next level, you can try a vibrating butt plug like Cherry's Vibrating Twister! This beginner-friendly plug is made with flexible jelly material and has an easy to use remote so you or your partner can change up the vibration mode!

3. Pretty Jewel Butt Plug

This Jeweled Metal Butt Plug gives you an erotic look and a more "full" feeling to intensify your orgasm! This decorative metal plug comes in 3 different sizes and colors so even beginners can experience the thrilling sensations of this sensually smooth material!

4. Vibrating Silicone Butt Plug

This Rippled Vibrating Silicone Butt Plug is another great option for any experience level. The rippled silicone shaft feels incredible with or without the powerful vibrations, but the strong vibes will push you quickly to an amazing climax!

5. Silicone Anal Plug With Easy Pull Loop

The Silicone Anal Plug With Easy Pull Loop has a unique design that makes it easy to remove. The narrow, curved stem is perfect for double penetration play or prostate stimulation for an intense orgasm!

Have you ever used a butt plug before?
Let us know about your experience!