How to Use a Butt Plug (Plus The Best Plugs to Try!)


How To Use a Butt Plug. Read our guide for expert anal plug tips and shop the best recommended butt plugs for beginners to try

Are you new to anal play or looking to explore different types of anal toys? Maybe you've never heard of a butt plug, or have thought about trying one in the past but weren't sure where to start. This how-to guide is going to talk about how to safely use a butt plug as well as all the positive and fun things that you can use a butt plug for! By the end of it, you will be ready, willing, and even excited to try out an anal plug. Read on for all the answers to how and why you should use a butt plug!

The 2 Basic Rules Of Anal Play


The first thing to remember about putting ANYTHING up your butt is that you CAN lose it up your rectal canal, so it's absolutely essential to only use toys that are specifically designed for anal play! Your rectal canal is quite long and there are basically 2 sphincters (one external and one internal). If you place an object in and it goes past the second sphincter, it may travel up your anal canal and you will not be able to retrieve it without medical assistance. This is why anal toys will have a special, flared bottom or retrieval mechanism that will ensure you do not lose your toy! So play safe and there will be no worries!


We are talking about butt plugs here, so if you have a vagina you would absolutely not put one in there. But again, just to be safe, I am going to reiterate: once any dildo or sex toy has been in your butt, it does NOT go directly from anal to vaginal play to avoid spreading any potentially harmful bacteria. Even if you are using toys that are dedicated solely to anal play, remember to always clean them thoroughly with antibacterial soap or toy cleaner before AND after each time you use them!

5 Butt Plug Tips For Beginners

If you are an anal newbie, the first thing you need to remember is that size matters! You never want to start with the biggest plug you can find. Instead, you want to look for a thin and tapered toy so you can become comfortable with the sensations. There are a ton of beginner's plugs to choose from. Some sets even have a variety of sizes so you can move up as you feel comfortable. 
Image showing a set of three silicone butt plug kit

This Silicone Anal Plug Kit includes 3 different sizes of tapered silicone butt plugs so you can start with the smallest and work your way up gradually to the largest size! This anal training kit is perfect for beginners who want to experiment with adding anal toys during masturbation or prepare for anal sex with a partner.


The anal canal is not self-lubricating like the vagina, so you have to always make sure you are using lube. Not just a dab of lube, I mean LOTS of lube! You want things to stay really slippery, so make sure you put it on your toy AND on your entrance to eliminate any friction. Anal lubes are usually thicker and longer-lasting for anal play. Silicone lubes would be the preferred lube of choice, as they are longer lasting than water-based lubricants. But if you have a silicone plug, do NOT use silicone lube with it since this can cause the material of the toy to deteriorate over time. Lastly, reapply when needed! If you feel a drag, then add more lube. When in doubt, stop and add more!


This is an "exit" not typically an "entrance" so you need to give your body time to adjust. You will want to push a little at a time and push OUT (yes, like you are having a bowel movement) so that your muscles relax and expand to accept the toy. If you relax, go slowly, use lube, and allow your muscles to expand, it will feel very pleasurable to you! Never push the toy fast just to "get it over with" as this can cause damage and discomfort.


Anal play should NEVER have pain. You are putting a plug where previously nothing has ever gone, so especially during your first few times you will feel pressure. This is completely normal! What is NOT normal is pain or bleeding. This indicates you may have torn your rectal lining a bit. This is common with first time anal players, but it need not happen if you are careful and take it slow. If it does happen, make sure you take time to heal before you try again. If you feel pressure, it is OK to continue as long as you are going slowly and not pushing too fast. Once you get the plug all the way into your rectum, you should feel pleasure.


You need to choose a plug that is right for you. Once you have started to become comfortable with anal play, you can find a toy that fits your needs better. Vibrating plugs can be very stimulating AND fun during double penetration (when someone with a vagina has a toy or penis in each entrance - anal and vaginal - simultaneously). Whatever you choose, always follow the proper rules for insertion and cleanliness to ensure each play time is fun and safe!

3 Reasons to Use a Butt Plug


If you are asking WHY you should use a butt plug the answer is simple: they are fun! Butt plugs can be used to prepare for more intensive anal play. If you and your partner are considering anal sex, for instance, then wearing a plug before anal intercourse can substantially make that experience more comfortable and increase your pleasure! Your anal muscles will already be relaxed and stretched from the plug, so when your partner removes the plug and enters you, you will accept their penis or strap-on more easily.


It is possible to have an anal orgasm! Also, it is common for people with a vagina to have stronger clitoral or vaginal orgasms when they are employing anal stimulation as well. So if you are wearing a butt plug during vaginal intercourse, oral sex, or while you're using a vibrator, your orgasms can be extremely intense! 


Double penetration during PIV sex can be extremely satisfying for both you and your partner. The visual of you having something in your rectum while your partner penetrates you vaginally is so sexy, especially when using a decorative or jeweled butt plug! Remember too, there is only a thin lining between your vaginal and rectal canal, so if you have a plug inside your anal canal your partner will be able to feel it in your vagina! Many people report that this increased "tightness" makes them orgasm more quickly and intensely. Try a vibrating plug that you or your partner can control for added sensations!

Best Butt Plugs To Try:
(Hand-Picked By Our Sex Toy Experts!)

1. Tapered Silicone Anal Plug
Image of various sizes of purple silicone anal plug

This Tapered Silicone Anal Plug has a slim, flexible shaft and tapered tip for more comfortable insertion. This plug is available in four different sizes, making it perfect for any experience level!

2. Cherry's Vibrating Twister Butt Plug

When you want to take the exciting anal sensations to the next level, you can try a vibrating butt plug like Cherry's Vibrating Twister! This beginner-friendly plug is made with flexible jelly material and has an easy to use remote so you or your partner can change up the vibration mode!

3. Pretty Jewel Butt Plug

This Jeweled Metal Butt Plug gives you an erotic look and a more "full" feeling to intensify your orgasm! This decorative metal plug comes in 3 different sizes and colors so even beginners can experience the thrilling sensations of this sensually smooth material!

4. Vibrating Silicone Butt Plug

This Rippled Vibrating Silicone Butt Plug is another great option for any experience level. The rippled silicone shaft feels incredible with or without the powerful vibrations, but the strong vibes will push you quickly to an amazing climax!

5. Silicone Anal Plug With Easy Pull Loop

The Silicone Anal Plug With Easy Pull Loop has a unique design that makes it easy to remove. The narrow, curved stem is perfect for double penetration play or prostate stimulation for an intense orgasm!

Have you ever used a butt plug before?
Let us know about your experience!


  • Bella

    I have been having anal sex for a lot of years. and love it!!! My husband and I started when we were first married. Not all the time and he was very large, so it did take time to relax and enjoy it. We never used butt plugs. I would like to try one.
    Never think that you can start having anal sex for the first time and it won’t hurt. It will, key is to relax and take your time. Always Always lots of lube. It can be very enjoyable. The orgasms are so intense! Always talk about it and try with fingers or a small butt plug first. A lot of foreplay before really makes you more relaxed also. Just my suggestions for what worked for us. Have fun!!!

  • Marge

    One time I put my head up my ass. Boy oh boy, that was something.

  • Marge

    One time I put my head up my ass. Boy oh boy, that was something.

  • Bob

    I love that full feeling in my little butthole.
    I feel like I could cum just thinking about how my lover works it inside me.

  • Bill

    I have been using my 7"butt plug now for two weeks and I love the way it feels inside me but I do have trouble keeping it in when I am standing or walking what can help me to keep it inside me.

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