Anal sex is not something to be feared! A lot of opinions regarding anal sex stem from inaccurate information and poor preparation. I want to dispel a few false rumors regarding this intimate sex act. What are the facts about anal sex? Here are 10 things that I think are most important for you to know.
1. YOU NEED LUBE
I can’t stress this enough. You need to use sexual lubricant during anal sex! The vagina naturally lubricates, but the anus does not. Whether you use lube for vaginal intercourse or not, you need to use lube for anal. The anus is tighter and dry, and it is biologically unfit for penetration. This does not mean you shouldn't do it, it just means you need to take special care to use PLENTY of lubricant to correct the lack of slickness. Use a lot to start and keep it nearby for reapplication. It will be the difference between an awesome experience and a terrible one. Also, hemorrhoids and anal fissures can occur. No one wants that. Help avoid this issue by using LUBE!
2. IT SHOULDN'T HURT
This is a very common misconception regarding anal sex. If you do it right and take your time, anal sex doesn’t need to hurt (even for beginners). No sex act should ever hurt (unless you are into masochism, but that’s different). Many people refuse to try anal for fear of pain, but if you move slow, find a comfortable position, slowly graduate to a larger size, relax your muscles, and use lots and lots of lube, it won’t hurt you. Will it be uncomfortable? It may be uncomfortable for first timers. But there is a big difference between being uncomfortable and being in physical pain!
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3. IT FEELS GOOD
Why are so many people having anal sex? Because it FEELS GOOD! Most couples don’t talk about their anal sex experiences openly, but no one would be having it if it wasn’t any good. For the man penetrating his partner, there are new sensations and it’s extra tight. For women receiving, the anal canal is filled with sensitive nerve endings that typically require only a little stimulation for intense pleasure.
4. MANY COUPLES DO IT
Anal sex is a cultural taboo, but it is not as uncommon as many seem to think, especially among heterosexual couples. It is another satisfying sex act to add to your collection. It doesn’t replace vaginal sex or upset your sex life in any way. You are far from the only one having anal sex or considering it! Even though it’s not a popular social topic, couples are doing it anyway. Don’t let society prevent you from trying something new and amazing!
5. YOU CAN'T GO DIRECTLY FROM VAGINAL TO ANAL
The vagina is not a place any girl wants bacteria, so after anal sex, you need to change condoms or wash before you go to vaginal sex. Due to digestion, there are a lot of bacteria in the anus that would not be at all welcome in the vagina. Improper transition from anal to vaginal can cause nasty infections. Is that the way you want to remember your anal sex experience? Of course not, so be clean!
6. IT'S NOT THAT MESSY
In general, anal sex is not as messy as people tend to imagine, but it can be a little messy. The anal canal is fairly clean and there is a very little chance that you will actually poop during the act, but there might be a little residue. That’s okay – it’s normal and to be expected. Before you get started, you can use the bathroom and clean yourself to reduce any anxiety about accidents. If you are extremely concerned, you can give yourself an enema – but this may cause irritation.
7. IT DOESN'T MAKE YOU DIRTY OR GAY
There are so many heterosexual couples having anal sex – are they all dirty? Do they mourn their innocence? Are the men all gay now? No, because this is about two people coming together and enjoying some mutual sexual pleasure. Look at anal sex for what it is – a sex act. It does not define you. If you are only attracted to the opposite sex, you’re not gay! Nothing can just, make you homosexual. It has nothing to do with what you do in the bedroom with your partner, so put that out of your mind. If you like it and it brings you and your lover satisfaction, there is no reason to not do it. The same goes for any woman who might feel like her sex life is contingent on sex acts. Anal sex doesn’t make you dirty – dirt makes you dirty.
8. YOU WON'T GET "STRETCHED" OUT
This is a common concern among many couples. Your ass is not going to fall apart if you have anal sex. Not using enough lube or moving too quickly can cause things like hemorrhoids, but those can be avoided. If you do get a hemorrhoid or fissure, it’s not the end of the world! If it happens frequently however, you may need to reevaluate your preparation methods – use more lubricant!
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9. MEN LIKE IT!
As a matter of speaking, men may derive even more pleasure from anal sex than woman do. For men receiving (which can be done with a female partner by pegging) you get to experience prostate stimulation! The male p-spot (or the prostate gland) is extremely sensitive to sexual stimulation and massaging the p-spot can lead to extremely powerful orgasms. But ladies should not be discouraged – the derriere is still very sensitive for women!
10. IT ONLY GETS BETTER FROM HERE
If your first or first few anal experiences were a little uncomfortable, don’t worry – it takes time to get the rhythm down. Many woman worry that if they do have anal sex with her partner, it has to become a part of the sexual routine. That’s not true. For many couples, it's just a once-in-a-while thing. For other couples, it is standard. It’s ultimately up to you and your partner what role anal sex plays in your intimate life. If it is something you both love, you can do it all the time! If you think it’s kind of eh, then you don’t need to add it to your permanent itinerary. If you hated it, never do it again! But no matter what, you tried something new. If you are willing to try new things, it can only get better!
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