For a man, a blowjob is the crème-de-la-crème of sexual activity, often edging out actual intercourse. Whether this is because most men feel they do not get blowjobs enough, or whether this act is especially intense and intimate, the truth is men are serious about their blowjobs. We often write articles or helpful hints on what TO do during a blowjob, but wouldn’t you like to know what men DON’T want during their BJ? I consulted with my gaggle of guy buds and found out the answers. Some won’t come as a surprise, but others just may shock you.
1. WHINING / COMPLAINING
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Contrary to what you may think due to the name – blow JOB – men do not want to feel like you feel it is actually a job. No man wants to try and enjoy his oral sex if you are whining, complaining or acting like it is “too hard” or “too much work.” Enjoy that blowjob, girl!
Piggybacking on the above, men don’t want a lazy, half-assed blowjob. They want you to take it seriously and to do all those things that make a blowjob great. No one wants you to “pretend” or to be lazy while trying to give pleasure. That is just rude, girl.
I think I am seeing a pattern here. If you are doing the same action repeatedly, without variation, then the blowjob become redundant and doesn’t feel as good. Men need different speeds, different stimulations, and most of all a partner who pays attention to their reactions.
4. GAGGING (SOMETIMES)
This one is more personal preference, as some men find it really sexy when you get their penis deep down into your throat at you gag a little. However, according to more than one of my male buds gagging can be a turn OFF, especially if it is constant or seems like you are gagging out of disgust. Check with your guy to see what he thinks. For a little help to keep the gagging to a minimum, try one of our throat numbers!
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5. JUST CONCENTRATING ON THE HEAD
While some men do like a lot of concentration on the head of their penises, you have to pay attention to the entire mighty sword, not just the tip. Make sure that you are giving his entire shaft some attention – and that means root to tip.
6. FORGETTING HIS BALLS / HARD PULLING
Sometimes we forget those two dangling appendages that are beneath his penis, but believe me, he remembers they are there and he wants you to play with them, suck them, lick them, and otherwise make sure you do not forget they are there. While including the balls into the blowjob is important, one thing he for sure doesn’t want is for you to be pulling on them like you are trying to get them to come off his body. A little light tickling or holding is preferred over downright pulling.
Using your teeth during a blowjob is a rookie mistake, you are better than that! While it can be pleasant to gently – I mean GENTLY – let the tips of your teeth graze him during the slow warm up period, there is absolutely no place for biting or teeth dragging in a blowjob! Cover up those teeth with your lips like a pro, woman!
8. FORGETTING NATURE’S LUBE
This one was universal with all the men. They absolutely want you to use your spit to make things slippery and wet. The more the better they proclaim! Let that spit cover his penis, balls and your bedsheets too. The slicker the better things move up and down over him and the more excited he will be. Don’t forget to spit!5 Oral Sex Gels For Her!
9. FORGETTING TO USE YOUR HANDS
This is extremely important because many women neglect the power their hands can bring to a blowjob. When you incorporate your hands into the mix you make him feel like he is getting a blowjob and a hand job at the same time. This allows you to give his entire shaft attention, so make sure you use enough spit (as above), suck and use your hands too.
10. AVOID EYE CONTACT
All the men agree – eye contact during oral is ultra-sexy! While you do not have to look up the entire time, a few glances up where your eyes meet is something that super charges the experience. As put by my bestie Ryan, “When my wife looks up at me during oral it is this mixture of sexy and naughty and her glare says to me, ‘That’s right baby, I have your cock in my mouth and you love it!,’ I get chills just thinking of it!”
That’s right ladies, this is not the time to discuss anything with your man. Once the penis goes into the mouth there is NO talking. That means no, “How does that feel?” or “Do you like that baby?” They like it. They love it. They want some more of it – except the talking. No more talking. This is a time for your mouth to stay open, but shut. Get the drift. Don’t be offended, it is simply because he wants to settle in to the experience and not have to think to respond to you.Learn How To Deepthroat Today
For the love of all that is holy, once you have begun a blowjob DO NOT STOP! Unless he decides he wants to move on to something else, don’t stop. Especially if he is getting close to climax. Yes, a blowjob can be and is foreplay, but it can also be the main event at times. If it is, the absolute last thing you want to do is stop. So, keep on keeping on ladies and bring him home either in your mouth (YAY, SWALLOWING) or via your hands.
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