Back To Basics: Beginner BJ Tips That Always Work

Think you don’t need a blowjob refresher? Think again. Whether you’re brand-new to the art of oral or practically the CEO of Head, there’s always a trick to add to your skillset.

These tried-and-true basics never disappoint — and they’re about to make your next session very memorable. Just remember, an amazing BJ isn’t about being perfect — it’s about enjoying yourself, getting curious, and having fun with your “favorite friend” between his legs (lol). 

Let’s dive in. Mouth first. You know… metaphorically.

1. Start Slow —Tease Him First

Don’t rush your masterpiece. Before your mouth even touches him, build the anticipation.

Use your hands. Trace the shaft. Circle your fingertip around the head.
Lift the foreskin gently if he has one. Kiss along his hips, thighs, lower stomach — make him feel chosen.

Think of his cock like a present: you unwrap it slowly so the anticipation drives him wild.

The goal? Make him so worked up he’s practically begging for your mouth!

2. Gentle Sucking —Warm Him Up First

Forget porn logic — you don’t start at 100 mph. Ease in. Let your lips slide over him slowly, add gentle suction, and let the warmth of your mouth do the early work.

Keep your rhythm steady and intentional — slow strokes, soft pulls, a little tongue play around the head while your hand takes care of the rest. You’re not rushing; you’re building heat.

Most importantly? Stay present and playful. Breathe against him, make small sounds, let him feel how much you’re enjoying it. That energy alone can have him unraveling before you even pick up the pace.

3. Tongue Tricks = Your Secret Weapon

This wouldn’t be a complete blowjob guide if we didn’t focus on some tongue-play. The tongue feels amazing on a sensitive shaft, like tiny fingers touching all over. Wrapping your tongue around the shaft in conjunction with sucking can drive your lover crazy! Not to mention, you can “fake” a deepthroating feeling by sticking your tongue on the roof of your mouth and allowing the penis to hit your tongue.

The most important thing to remember about the tongue is variety. Make sure your tongue is always moving, circling around the shaft, glazing over the head - and even literally licking up and down your lover’s penis with it not actually in your mouth.

4. Helping Hands —This is Your Cheat Code

Don't let anyone tell you a blowjob is “just mouth work.”
Your hands are part of the team — and honestly, they do some of the sexiest heavy lifting.

Using your hands does two important things:

1. It gives him full-shaft stimulation (because your mouth can only cover so much at once)

2. It lets you rest your mouth without losing momentum (pace yourself, babe — stamina is sexy)

Think of it like multitasking for maximum pleasure.

Here’s a simple, powerful move to start with:

• Get everything slick — spit or flavored lube is your friend

• Take just the head or top portion of him into your mouth

• Wrap one hand around his shaft
• Twist and stroke as your mouth moves

You’re basically creating a warm, wet, twisting tunnel sensation — and yes, it feels as good as it sounds.

Play with rhythm. Switch your stroke direction. Slide your hand lower or let your tongue take over for a second. The key is constant stimulation, but not constant intensity. Build him up, ease off, then build again.

And don’t forget your other hand:

• Balls
• Thighs
• Lower stomach
• His hips when he starts to thrust a little...

Remember, hands are not cheating — they’re strategy!

5. Save the Speed + Depth for the Finale 

Remember how we started slow and teasing? Now’s when you pick up the pace. Once he’s moaning, squirming, or starting to thrust a little — that’s your sign he’s ready for more intensity.

This is where you can add deeper strokes, firmer suction, and a faster rhythm. If you can handle it comfortably, this is also the perfect moment to play with a little deepthroat — taking him as far as feels good for you.

You can:

• Let him gently thrust into your mouth (if you’re both into that)
• Take control and slide him in deeper at your own pace
  
• Keep one hand twisting around his shaft to maintain stimulation while you focus on depth and rhythm

It might sound like a lot to juggle, but trust me — when you’re in the moment, your body just knows what to do. If you’re newer to faster or deeper play, build up slowly. There’s no rush; every movement is part of the turn-on.

The goal isn’t perfection — it’s pleasure. Think of it like building a rhythm that keeps him right on the edge until he can’t take it anymore.

Read How to Deepthroat: Important Tips & Techniques 

6. Enthusiasm Is the Sexiest Thing 

You can have flawless technique — but if you look like you’re mentally going over your grocery list while doing it? Yeah… not the same vibe.

What really drives someone wild is knowing you want to be there — tasting them, watching their reactions, and feeling that delicious power in what your mouth and hands can do.

Let yourself get into it. Make soft noises. Moan a little when they react just right.
Whisper something filthy or teasing if it feels natural.

And that eye contact? Devastating. Nothing makes someone melt faster than looking down and seeing your eyes locked on them, lips around them, clearly enjoying every second. That's an image that'll keep replaying in their head, long after it's over!

Final Thoughts

You don’t need to perform like a porn star — or have a PhD in blowjobs.
You just need curiosity, confidence, and a genuine desire to have fun with it.

When you’re playful and turned on, they can feel it — in every sound, glance, and movement.
That kind of energy doesn’t just make the orgasm better… it makes it unforgettable.

If you’re excited, they’re obsessed. Always.

Do you have any tricks to add to our blowjob guide? Share with us in the comments!