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Why You Should Try Mutual Masturbation

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It seems to be a sad fact that once we get into a relationship we tend to forget about masturbation (or at least do it less) and we also do not entertain the idea of mutual masturbation as much as we should. Mutual masturbation is when you and your partner masturbate together at the same time.

This typically means that you both are masturbating individually while watching one another. Another way of doing this is playing with your partner while they play with you. Any way you choose to give this a shot it is totally worth it and may just bring a new experience into your bedroom. Below, we've listed out 7 reasons you should give mutual masturbation a try.

1. You Can Learn More About How Your Partner Likes To Be Touched

How often do you actually ever get to watch your partner self-pleasuring? Not often, usually. This in and of itself is a shame because there is absolutely no better way to learn what your partner likes than to watch the expert in process. We become skilled at self-stimulation and we sometimes do not think to share our little masturbatory secrets with our lovers. When we mutually masturbate – watching each other – we can pay attention to the pace, the pressure, the fingers used, how long to stroke. We can watch the best way to stimulate our partner when it is our turn simply by watching them!

2. It Can Really Strengthen Your Bond

Mutual masturbation has the potential to really grow your connection on a deeper level with your partner. When you are sitting across the room, pleasuring yourself in front of your lover, you're being extremely vulnerable. Both of you are. You're giving one another an inside look into how you pleasure yourself.  You're going to connect on a whole new level as you sit in the presence of one another pleasuring yourselves, fully trusting each other. This could really take your relationship to a new level, not just sexually.

3. It Can Help You Get Comfortable Talking Openly About Sex

Mutual masturbation can be very helpful for those of you who have trouble talking about sex or have trouble talking dirty during sex. Make sure you're communicating while you watch each other masturbate. Tell your lover exactly what you're doing, and exactly how good it feels. Talking about how good what you're doing feels for you is going to help you get more comfortable talking about sex and your body. Lean in, let your guard down and experience this beautiful moment with your partner.

4. It Can Be Very Erotic

What is sexier than watching someone masturbate? What is even MORE sexy is watching the person you care about masturbate in person, right in front of you! Many people are very visual when it comes to sex and they love to watch a person self-pleasure, so what is more erotic than watching your partner live and up close? Watching your lover play with their clit, or stroke their cock as you watch them get hard, will be an incredibly sexy experience. Whether you've thought about it or not, we promise you're going to love this kinky experience. I mean, naked people pleasing themselves with and for you! How erotic is that?

5. It's A Great Way To Spice Things Up

This one may seem obvious, but mutual masturbation is an amazing way to change things up in the bedroom. Maybe lately you guys have fallen into a sex routine where everything is exactly the same, every single time you have sex. Next time you're about to engage in a sexual activity, surprise your partner with this. Sit them down in a chair across the room, lay down on the bed and don't say anything, just start pleasuring yourself. Then tell them to do the same, and see what happens from there.

6. It's Amazing Foreplay

Get out of the normal routine and make mutual masturbation a part of your foreplay routine. Many times we utilize fingering or hand jobs during foreplay anyway, but not always at the same time! Amp up and switch up your normal foreplay and combine it by doing mutual and simultaneous masturbation. Watching your partner enjoying your touch while you also enjoy their touch is an experience that can very quickly make it to the top of your foreplay list.

7. It's Fun As The Main Event, Too

Masturbation is not always looked at as a main event. We tend to use it solo time, or as foreplay, but we rarely decide to do it as THE main event. Masturbation is low pressure, fun and can be done by any couple, in any position with little maneuvering. Mutual masturbation can aid in couples where the male may be experiencing erectile dysfunction because it is non-penetrative. It is often very arousing and because it is not doing much, it is a novelty, which can make for amazing orgasms. You do not have to have actual intercourse in order to have a satisfying sexual experience so give mutual masturbation a chance!

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12 comments


  • Tim

    We are an older couple in our 60s. We both love to watch each other play, it is a real turn on. Only you know the exact spots that make you feel real good. When we do start that way, we usually end up helping each other out in many different ways. Thank you for the all the comments and the variety of the toys available.


  • Candance

    My husband and I love to pleasure each other. He loves it when I show him where to put his hands. We have toys for me to use while he watches me play it turns him on.


  • Dee

    Very exciting watching my new man take care of himself while sext for the 1st time. I need to reciprocate!


  • Bob

    My wife can no longer handle my size so we started masturbating. We both love it. It reinvigorated our sex life.


  • Sandy And Mike

    We pretty much masturbate all the time we love it and really turns us on. Some people think that is strange or weird but that’s what we both enjoy. We are masturbators and proud of it … Love your all and thanks sandy


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