What Is Foreplay?
By definition, foreplay is considered to be any sexual acts or behaviors that occur prior to having intercourse. This doesn't necessarily mean that foreplay has to be physical or require a sexual touch. Foreplay can happen before you even take your clothes off. It's the sexy text you get from your lover, it's the intense eye contact you're making. Really, foreplay is something that helps build up the sexual tension until you or your partner can't stand it anymore.re.
What Makes Foreplay So Important?
Foreplay is important for both mental and physical reasons. Let's start with how it effects us mentally. Foreplay is an extremely intimate act you are performing with another person. So, if you are in a relationship then each time you make time for foreplay you are making time to deepen the intimacy between yourself and your partner.
If you're single, don't worry - there are still benefits! Foreplay is very helpful when it comes to really getting into the moment and letting go of any thoughts you're holding on to. For many people it can be hard to get into sex right away. Foreplay allows us to take the time we need to get fully aroused and let go of any inhibitions.
Now, let's look at the physical effects foreplay can have on the body. When you engage in foreplay, it's natural to get completely and fully turned on. And when you're turned on, your body reacts. So foreplay often leads to things like an increased heart rate, more blood flow to the genitals (causing an erection to form), erection of the nipples and lubrication of the vagina. Foreplay is the perfect way to make sure everyone involved gets insanely turned on before moving on. Now, let's get to the juicy stuff. Below are 9 foreplay techniques you can try tonight!
9 New Foreplay Techniques To Try
1. BLINDFOLDS & SENSATIONS
One way to increase our favorite sexual senses - taste, touch, and hearing - is to make good use of a blindfold. Now, a blindfold can be anything from a bandana to a shirt. However, if you want the most surface to play with and a super sexy accessory to add to your top drawer, silky smooth or soft leather blindfolds are a must. Blindfolds instantly increase you or your lover’s sexual awareness. Teasing with the tips of your fingers on their skin, feeding your lover dripping slices of fruit like strawberries and peaches, and whispering your dirtiest desires in their ear will have them squirming with sensation and begging for sex before you’re through.
2. STRIP DOWN & GET NAKED
3. DIVE INTO DIRTY TALK
What’s a better tease than a full day of sneaking nude photos to your lover? Even long distance relationships benefit from a book of sexts before launching Skype or FaceTime to watch each other on video in real time. You can create new personas and explore your fantasies before acting them out in the bedroom or on video!
4. MASTURBATE TOGETHER
Another seemingly taboo task to try during foreplay is mutual masturbation. Now, there are many different kinds of mutual masturbation that may be desirable to you and your lover. All are incredible foreplay adventures that will gear you up for an intense sexual experience. It’s not a selfish act if you are participating in masturbation with or for your lover. Heck, it’s not even selfish when you’re masturbating solo!
The first kind of mutual masturbation is what it sounds like - you both strip and stroke yourselves next to each other, letting your partner’s moans fuel your own self-pleasing orgasms. Try to keep your hands off each other. I dare you!
The second kind of mutual masturbation is to create a sizzling show for your lover. Invite them to watch you while you tease yourself, enjoying their eyes wandering all over your body while you masturbate.
5. TEASE WITH TOYS
It may seem obvious, but if you have not brought sex toys into the bedroom this is a fantastic way to up the foreplay activities! Whether you invest in one of our couple’s toys or simply use something you already may have on hand, using sex toys together is a new activity that often renders some pretty amazing results.
6. KEEP YOUR CLOTHES ON
There’s a reason why the line “slip the panties right to the side” keeps appearing in modern music - like Beyonce + Jay-Z's “Drunk In Love.” This clothing barrier can be so erotic and naughty! Think back on those times when you would cop a feel in a public area, slip your wanting fingers past a waistband and explore. You can still get that feeling of forbidden sex in your own home by savoring some strategic layers of clothing!
7. ICE-ICE BABY
Maybe you like your foreplay the way it is. You enjoy that session of oral sex before intercourse. You know what, that is totally fine. However, there is a way to spice that up a bit. Have you ever tried ice during oral sex? Oh yes, you totally must! Using just a few ice cubes strategically placed during foreplay can render a one-two punch of arousal. This is a way to take “ordinary” oral to extra-ordinary heights!
8. BE AGGRESSIVE, TAKE CONTROL
Sometimes in our relationship we get…comfortable. This comfort throws us into a nice, safe place to be intimate together, but sometimes it also serves to take some of the heat out of lovemaking. As far as foreplay goes, taking a more direct route can be super stimulating! This means pretty much taking charge of the sexual situation. Jump right onto your lover as they lay in bed reading, throw the book to the floor, take their hands and place them above their head and kiss them with passion! Oh yeah, you see the light now, don’t you. It’s hot. It is very, very hot.
9. MAKE FOREPLAY THE FULL COURSE
I know earlier I gave a definition for foreplay, but that's just the general idea behind it. Foreplay is different for every couple and can be made into anything you want it to be! You don't have to follow the flow of foreplay followed by intercourse - foreplay can be the whole damn meal! Just have fun with it, go with the flow and you both might come to a full orgasm before even thinking about intercourse.