4 Foreplay Tips For Bondage Sex

You may be reading the title of this article and think, “Uh, exactly how is foreplay for bondage any different than any other kind of foreplay?” Foreplay, being the activities, you engage in before intercourse, right? Well, let me be the first to tell you that foreplay before sex involving bondage is different in some very important ways! In fact, bondage sex foreplay is on a whole, other level and it is part of what makes bondage sex so incredibly hot and so appealing to couples! That being said, foreplay is foreplay, so these tips can be used even if you are not participating in bondage.


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1. SENSORY PLAY IS A MUST
Sensory play is when you amp up a particular sensory stimulation (taste, feel, sound, smell) by eliminating other senses. For example, if you are to take away your partner’s sense of movement and feel by restraining them (tying them to the bedposts for example) and then you take away their sense of sight with a Blindfold, you then have a fantastic opportunity to tease them via your touch until they are mad with sensory overload! When we take away one of the senses the other senses become more heightened, and the two most prominent senses are touch and sight. Therefore, this one-two combo of sensory deprivation really makes for an extra exciting time. Any touch you render – a soft kiss, a light bite, a sensual lick, a little tap, a feather dragging across the body – any touch becomes MORE than just the touch! Foreplay with bondage is all about playing with these sensory experiences by using the tools of bondage (blindfolds, ball gags, restraints, paddles, floggers) to enhance this experience!

2. TAKE CONTROL / SURRENDER CONTROL
Most sexual experiences involve both partners giving and receiving pleasure nearly simultaneously. However, in bondage sex, one partner is often incapable of taking any control because he or she will be physically restrained. This surrendering of control is a very important part of foreplay, because even though you may not be able to do anything to reciprocate that pleasure, your body will inadvertently do it for you. Squirming underneath your restraints, bending your body to reach the touch of your partner, contorting yourself to achieve the maximum pleasure – all of this is important with foreplay. Then, for the other partner, having this control and using it to the fullest advantage is extremely important. You need to take that control as a gift and use it for every second it is given to you. This means looks at your partner’s surrender as a chance to stimulate her or him to the utmost! Use her / his body for your pleasure to give THEM the pleasure right back. You have to take control for both of you and it will be amazing!

3. DRIVE. THEM. CRAZY
OK, so like I wrote above, you have to use that control to the FULLEST advantage! This means that you should take standard foreplay and kick it up about 20 notches! Everything should be done in a very slow and extremely intense way! If the person being restrained is female, spend a lot of time caressing her breasts and nipples. Experiment with sucking, licking, flicking and even using ICE on them! Kiss all around her body, up and down her belly, avoiding her pussy and clit until she is literally squirming all over the bed. Kiss all parts of her body, and when you do get down between her legs, use the fact that she is immobile to your greatest advantage, bringing her to the brink and then back down (edging) over and over and over again! Similarly, if the restrained person is male, you can follow the same advice, except avoid his penis! When you get down there, take your time with the oral sex. Give him a very slow blowjob where you alternate with different techniques. Make it so he is literally bucking against you to make him orgasm or to move on to sex! No matter who is in charge, make that foreplay last!

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4. USE THEM FOR YOUR PLEASURE
One of the most enticing things about bondage is that the person who is not restrained can use their partner for their pleasure! This means that if the male is restrained, the female can sit on his face and force him to give her oral sex! Or, she can enjoy riding him on and off to build the tension in between all of the other activities! Similarly, the male can straddle her face and make her give him head and tease her with a little bit of penetrative sex in between the other foreplay. A CONSENTING partner engaging in bondage activity will welcome all of these activities and enjoy, to the fullest, being pleasured AND being used for pleasure. Then, by the time sex occurs both partners will be amped so high that the sex will be incredibly intense and satisfying!

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