How to Stimulate & Play With Her Clit

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Every woman has a powerful little area on their bodies that is the key to get their toes to curl; it is the clit.

The clitoris is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones on a woman. To put it more plainly, the clit is as sensitive as a man’s aroused, erect penis in that when stimulated correctly, you are sure to set a woman off into a blissful blast of pleasure! Contrary to what some people may believe, there is more than one way to play with, stroke, rub, or touch her clit!

Before reading the following blog, have a look at the video below and watch as Angela takes you on a journey into what it takes to be creative with this epicenter of arousal!


If that video was a lot to digest, don’t worry! Let’s go back to basics and discuss a few very simple methods that are often overlooked during both solo play and play with your partner. It is vital for your sexual happiness to try different techniques as the monotony and boredom that comes with repetition eventually numbs your desires with routinization. And for those who are with a partner, they may enjoy the way you are pleasuring them; however, changing things up a bit will heighten arousal and bring with it more powerful, explosive orgasms.

Let me narrate how to discover new ways to stimulate the clit in the following blog and be sure to give them a try. The results are sure to have you or your partner squirming with radiant ecstasy!

Take It Nice & Slow

Remember, everyone is different in their response to sexual experiences. Men may enjoy it when their partner goes hard right away with their penis; however, women can be a bit different. A typically woman prefers a little pre-heating, so to speak! We love it when our partner takes their time before going in for the kill. Light sexual torment is tantalizing, so consider slowly touching other parts of our bodies before you actually reach for our clit.

Start by softly caressing the inner and outer areas of our vaginal lips near the clit to build our anticipation. Watching us readjust in an antsy fashion may be turning you on, but do your best to resist the urge to rush things. Instead, keep rubbing around it gently with the pads of your fingertips. Sometimes, having slow music in the background can help both set the mood and set your rhythm, so if you have something playing, follow the beat and run circles around the clit. This will have us aching with desire, so when you finally dive into the deep end, we will be eager!

Give Her The Middle Finger

Being the fact that our clit is a tender, sensitive little area, it can be easily overwhelmed by too much stimulation. Start simple with merely one finger before trying other techniques, as this will prevent a sort of sexual numbness in repetition as mentioned above. A technique I’ve found to work is to place your middle finger just above our clit, gently rubbing right above it as a way to prime us for pleasure.

Thereafter, place the pad of your finger gently on our clit, rubbing in soft, tiny circles. Make it slow and deliberate in an effort to tease us. Try changing directions and rubbing in reverse, or try an up and down motion, almost as if your finger is the train and our clit is the track. Feel free to change it up and do both, but be sure to use only the pad of your finger.

Make Sure She's Wet

Not all women get wet as quickly as others. Unlike during oral sex, where the giver supplies lubrication via saliva to the receiver, when you are merely rubbing our clit before oral or vaginal sex, it is nice to supply a little lubrication to make things more sensual.

It is imperative that you make us wet, so consider using products here on TooTimid.com. If oral sex is to follow, make sure you select an edible lube from our collection; however, you can also use your own saliva by placing it on your fingers and onto us. Either way, a small amount of lube is sure to make everything slick, smooth, and sensual, allowing your finger(s) to entice our clitoris gently and seductively.

Pressing Your Palm

There is no rule against using more than your one finger! Creativity is important when you turn things up while rubbing our clit. Especially when we are visibly nearing orgasm, such as when our moans are getting louder or we are moving our hips around, it helps push us over the edge by increasing the pressure on our clit by using your palm and fingers together.

It really pays to apply this extra pressure if you notice us squirming, spreading our legs wider, moving our hips, or our breathing to increase like we are about to pop! We want the big “O,” so give it to us by adding palm pressure to our clit and vaginal area! Essentially, take your palm and cover our entire vagina with it as you continue to stimulate us.

Speed It Up

I did mention that you should start slow, but toward the middle to end of pleasuring us or if you are merely edging us, you will definitely want to pick up the pace! A consistent, steady rhythm that increases in speed will bring us close to orgasm or can completely throw us over the edge if you’re going for multiple orgasms. This build-up of tension and pressure will simultaneously build up our orgasm!

Ask Her For Guidance

As mentioned in previous blogs, we know best as women! The most important thing to remember when pleasing us is that we know the ins and outs of our erogenous zone and know the way we like to be stimulated. Ask and you shall receive; we can show you how it's done! This doesn’t mean you don’t have the moves to make us moan; it is merely a valuable way to see what we like.

Asking us for help is most important in instances where your partner may have difficulties reaching climax. Watching how we get ourselves off and learning our techniques will ultimately bring us closer together, so pay attention to where we touch ourselves, how fast or slow we move our fingers, and patterns of movement to undoubtedly give us what we want and need!

How Do You Play With Her Clit?
Let Us Know Below!


13 comments


  • Dev

    Can I say one more thing? Angela, you are ONE GORGEOUS WOMAN!


  • Dev

    My wife quickly builds up her desire when I gently caress her inner thighs, circling around the clit. Back and forth, slowly approaching the clit with some lube. Finally she grabs my hand and firmly places it on her clit as she can’t wait any longer. I gently squeeze the sides of her clit. Then the moans start and the limbs quiver with excitement. I can feel her clit getting firm as I continue to stroke it. And I do this as long as she wants it, out of loyalty to her sexual pleasure. Knowing that she is going to get all that she wants — that, in itself — is such a turn-on for her.


  • Stephen

    OMG,👅🥰👅🥰👅🥰👅❤️ the video 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘


  • Rachaele

    My husband puts pressure on my whole vagina before he even starts to use his fingers on me. After he massages my labia, he slowly sticks a finger just inside my vagina and works it up until he hits my clit and he goes up and down, inside and out until he works two fingers inside me and then uses his thumb on my clit. He always works me right up to an orgasm and then stops, waits a couple minutes, then repeats it over and over again. Girls, let him know that going slow works a hole lot better than jumping right on the clit.


  • Susan James

    Thank you for the expert advice and tutorial on clit management 101. I love to gently suck on her erect clit like a tiny cock as if she is getting a blow job. Finger play in all holes adds to the pleasure.


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