How to Use a Stroker on Your Partner for Sexy Foreplay & a Better Handjob
Sex toys aren’t just for solo play—they’re incredible tools for connection and pleasure between partners too. And while vibrators and dildos usually steal the spotlight, there’s a whole world of toys designed to please the penis—and they can completely change your foreplay game.
One of the easiest (and hottest) ways to start? A masturbation sleeve, or stroker. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or exploring something new, using a stroker during a handjob is an insanely erotic way to level up intimacy, sensation, and satisfaction.
So let’s break down why it works, how to do it, and which ones are worth trying.
Stroker's Aren't Just For Solo Play
Sure, the word “masturbator” sounds like it’s made for alone time—but bringing one into partnered play is next-level hot. If your partner’s hesitant about sex toys, this is a perfect introduction.
The soft, stretchy material hugs every inch, adding pressure, texture, and warmth. It feels so good, it often turns curiosity into pure excitement within seconds.
Think of it as teamwork: your touch + the toy’s texture = fireworks.
Why It's Great For You
Let’s be real—your partner probably has their own technique nailed down. They know exactly how to touch themselves, which can make giving a handjob feel a little intimidating (and, honestly, exhausting).
That’s where a stroker saves the day. This toy takes the pressure off your hands and turns what can be a tiring job into effortless pleasure for both of you.
Here’s why it’s a total win for you, too:
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Less work, more play: The textured sleeve does most of the magic—just guide it and enjoy the reaction.
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No hand fatigue: Say goodbye to sore wrists and cramping fingers.
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Faster, hotter finish: The snug grip and slick glide help them reach climax quicker.
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Instant confidence boost: You’ll look and feel like a pro without breaking a sweat.
The iconic Fleshlight was actually invented by former LAPD SWAT officer Steve Shubin when his wife’s doctor told him they should avoid intercourse during her pregnancy. He decided to build a discreet toy—and the first patent called it a “device for discreet sperm collection.”
Why It's Amazing for Your Partner
Every guy loves new sensations—and a stroker delivers just that. The inner tunnel is designed with stimulating textures like ridges, ribs, and swirls that make every movement feel completely different from your hand alone.
Here’s what he’ll love most:
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The feel: The soft, skin-like material paired with lube creates an unbelievably real, wet sensation.
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The grip: The snug fit adds just the right amount of pressure in all the right places.
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The view: Watching you use it on him is insanely erotic—it’s visual, intimate, and a total turn-on.
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The energy: When you’re relaxed, engaged, and having fun, he’ll feel that excitement too—making the experience even hotter.
Techniques To Try
Ready to turn a simple handjob into something unforgettable? Here are a few ways to use a stroker that’ll have both of you worked up and wanting more:
1. Wet & Wild
Take things to the shower or bath for a slippery, sensual session. If your stroker isn’t made of silicone, pair it with a silicone-based lube for an ultra-slick glide. If it is silicone, go with a thick water-based formula instead. The mix of warm water, lube, and body contact turns this into a steamy, full-body experience.
2. Mutual Tease
Turn it into a shared pleasure session. Use the stroker on him while he teases you with a vibrator or his fingers. Watching each other come undone is incredibly erotic—and it builds connection as much as arousal.
3. The Show
Take turns putting on a little performance. Let him watch as you use the stroker on him—slow, steady strokes while maintaining eye contact—or switch roles and have him return the favor. The mix of control, attention, and anticipation is pure fire.
4. The Finishing Move
When he’s close, switch things up. Use your hand at the base of his shaft while the stroker works the tip, or vice versa. The change in pressure and rhythm will push him right over the edge.
Our Top Selling Strokers:
Need help picking one? Here are TooTimid’s fan favorites:
THE THRILLER Rotating Male Rose Blowjob Masturbator
This best-seller spins and vibrates at the push of a button for effortless, 360° pleasure. The soft silicone sleeve is lined with 106 dense pleasure nodes that twist, squeeze, and massage your shaft for intense, realistic sensations. It’s the ultimate hands-free experience—perfect for solo play or letting your partner take control.
The Super Head Honcho
A tried an true fan favorite. The Super Head Honcho features three uniquely textured chambers that create deep, satisfying suction with every stroke. The lifelike opening and soft, stretchy material cling perfectly to your cock, while water-based lube amplifies every squeeze and ripple. It’s a tried-and-true favorite for good reason.
College Tease Stroker
This soft, stretchy stroker features a super-tight ribbed tunnel for maximum pleasure. The clear shaft and realistic entry let you watch her pink core stretch around your cock for an incredibly erotic view. Plug the open end with your finger—or add a bullet vibe (not included)—for extra suction that’ll have you seeing stars. She loves getting wet, so take her into the shower for a steamy session, then rinse clean and let her air dry.
Blowjob & Pussy Dual Ended Masturbator
Two openings, double the fun. Choose between realistic lips, teeth, and tongue for lifelike oral pleasure, or a tight, nubbed pussy tunnel that squeezes in all the right ways. The dual-grip design gives you better control and deep suction for toe-curling stimulation. Super stretchy yet snug, this open-ended design makes cleanup fast and easy—so you’ll always be ready for round two. And don't worry, the teeth won't hurt you.
Final Thoughts
A stroker isn’t a replacement for intimacy—it’s an enhancement. It turns an ordinary handjob into an experience full of variety, connection, and serious satisfaction for both partners.
So grab some lube, pick your favorite sleeve, and get ready to give (and watch) one of the best handjobs ever.
Check out the video below to watch our resident sexpert, Angela, talk about stroker tips & tricks not previously mentioned!:
I have been trying to get a striker toy for myself I know they work wonderfully!!!
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