How to Give Your Lover a Sensual Massage

A couple standing naked together. Man standing behind woman holding her breasts.

"Hey babe, would you like a massage?" Why? Well, because massage has long been an effective way to begin romance between couples and is very much a well-known "gateway" activity to sex. There is something very sensual about rubbing our lover during a massage and it is definitely very intimate.

So how about we skip right to the chase and design a massage that is purposefully supposed to be sensual? Sensual massages are a 2 in 1: a massage that feels great and a lead in to sex. Technically, any massage can lead to sexual activity, but a sensual massage is meant to seduce as well. Here are some things to try.

The Back (Upper & Lower)

For Her: Starting on her back is a great way to start with some massaging because if you start on her front it likely will not last long if you know what I mean. The back, and specifically the lower back, is a sensitive and erotic spot for most people. To begin, you will want to oil her up and allow your fingers to glide around on her lower back in a sort of "side to side" motion, placing extra pressure on the very lower back. Extend this to her sides, pulling up as you rub. This will cause her hips to raise and her butt to jiggle, and this is arousing for both of you.

For Him: Even though he would probably prefer he be on his back so that he can see you sitting on top him naked, the idea is to slowly seduce and de-stress so let's start on his back first too. Making sure you are using enough pressure for his muscles, lean into the rubbing as you slide your hands up and down his back from shoulders to lower back. Turn your hands around and around in circular motion and make sure to sit far enough back on him (upper thigh area) so that when you rub to the top you effectively lay on top of him, letting your breasts graze his back. This is super arousing for him.

The Glutes

For Her: Many women love the feeling of a butt rub. It is erotic and comforting at the same time. For sensual massage the trick to an effective butt rub is to massage the cheeks at the same time and to grab and open the space between them, as to cause a slight opening of the vaginal lips. This is an extremely arousing sensation and it will likely cause her to spread her legs wider to enhance the sensation. Let your hands slide down the outer side of her buttocks toward her hips, then down her upper thigh, then up the middle of her cheeks. Toward the end of this portion of the massage, you should let your fingers graze her taint (spot between her butthole and vagina) and, if she enjoys it, a little outer rimming of her butthole can be sensual too.

For Him: He will totally enjoy having his butt rubbed by you because we women tend to ignore a man's butt, besides the occasional slap or grab. Spread his legs slightly and allow your oiled hands to knead his butt cheeks gently, then a little more firmly. Allow your thumbs to hit that spot where his glutes and thighs meet and slightly open up his cheeks. Run your hands down between his cheeks and perhaps, graze his balls just a bit! Then back up again and down his hips.

Inner Thighs, Lower Legs & Feet

For Her: This is the end of the part of the massage with her on her back. So, it is time to concentrate on her upper thighs, calves and feet. I suggest starting from the feet with a short massage because it feels so good, then move up to her calves just to relieve the tension. Then, finally, you get to her thighs. Since her vaginal area is between her thighs, this is where things heat up. Spread her legs comfortably and work your way from her knees to her butt, rotating and gently squeezing her upper thighs. Then, let your hand dip down to her very, very inner thigh and use a thumb to gently massage her outer vaginal lips - but not too much. You can use both hands at the same time to massage her inner area, effectively opening her vaginal lips completely, and this should drive her mad!

For Him: After you've had him turn around onto his back, you're going to want to start by massaging his feet. This might not seem sexy to him at first but feet can be an erogenous zone and they do get a lot of stress put on them so it's a great place to massage. Then, take your time and slowly rub your way up to his inner thighs. Have him spread his legs for you, as you continue to work you hands from his knees up to his inner thighs. Tease him by rubbing just below his cock but not actually touching it. At this point, things are going to get really sexy for him and he is probably going to get fully erect.

Chest / Breast Rub

For Her: Now we are getting to the hot zones for sensual massage and at any time this can take a turn toward sex but try to hold off a little longer. You may want to just grab and fondle her oiled-up breasts, they will look enticing and sexy. However, you want to massage with purpose and sensuality. Rub circles around her breasts, one at a time, and gently squeeze them. Pinch her nipples between your fingertips, rolling them gently in between, then go back to cupping her breasts and squeezing them. Allow your hands to slide around her chest. Pay attention to whether she is arching her back into your rubbing, as this indicates what moves she likes the most. Be gentle and firm.

For Him: This is the part of the massage where it is (finally) time to climb on top of him. Now, he finally gets that sexy view of you he has been craving. When you climb on top of him, make sure you line it up so you are on top of his cock for an extra tease. Then, lean over so you can begin to erotically rub his chest. The sexy part about this is while you are leaning over your breasts in nipples will be right in his face. Slowly massage his chest with your oiled up hands and work your way up to his neck for a nice, relaxing rub. Take things up a notch here by taking your breasts and rubbing your hard nipples up his whole chest, starting right above his cock and working your way slowly up until you reach his mouth.

The Erotic Zone

For Her: At this point all that is left is the vaginal area, and we have saved the best for last. She should be feeling relaxed and sensual, and hopefully her breast massage has left her ready for this next transition. Spread her legs wide, yet comfortably, and allow your oiled fingers to slide around the inner thighs, gently pulling open her vaginal lips, then massaging just a bit, then move back to her inner thighs again. The next round transition to rubbing between her lips a bit, over her clitoris, then back down the sides of her labia again. Keep your hands moving in a mystery position, always hitting her inner thigh, vaginal lips, and clitoris. Stick to external rubbing of the clitoris and lips for a long while before she is primed and ready for internal stimulation - and this is done any way you want!

For Him: I am sure he is eager and ready for your hands to be concentrating on his manhood. Have him spread his thighs comfortably, and you can either sit yourself atop him facing his lower area, so he gets that nice rear view - or - you can sit between his legs, so he gets the frontal view. Either way, you are going to want to run your hands around his inner thighs, cupping his balls gently and massaging them in between flirty strokes of his penis. When I say "flirty" I mean one stroke up, then move on. You can also rub his taint (the area between his balls and anus) with a well-oiled hand and this will be very sensitive for him. If you are facing him, you can put your hands in thumb-to-thumb position (as if you are making the hand-heart shape) and rub both thighs at the same time, then circle around and slide your hands around his penis shaft for a nice stroke down, then end at his balls. Trust me, he won't really care how you are massaging him down there as long as you are, but you want to leave the true penis massage for the very end!

How Do You Turn A Massage Into A Sexual Favor? Let Us Know In The Comments!

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