Why You Need To Talk About Sex With Your Partner

I am sure just reading the title and thinking about mixing “talking” with sex without the words “dirty talking” in the title has made many people cringe! Who wants to TALK about sex? Hell no, right? We tend to push the idea of talking about sex far into the background, especially if that talk has to do with a lack of satisfaction of some sort of sexual issue. People tend to just hope things will get better or to ignore the issues they are having in their bedroom in order to avoid what could possibly be a very awkward discussion. However, the fact is – we NEED to talk about sex with our partners! The good, the no-so-good, the amazing, the issues, the fears, the fantasies – we need to talk about it all.

MAKING SEX SATISFYING FOR ALL
When we are able to talk to our partner about what makes sex hot for us, we can ultimately make sex more satisfying for both partners. When you know what it is your partner wants, what he or she enjoys the most, you can then deliver that during sex. If you just assume that everything you do is great, and never check in with your partner, you may miss some very important information to make sex even better for both of you!

HONESTY IS IMPORTANT
When we think about what we need from a sexual relationship and we are honest with not only ourselves but with our partner as well then we are better able to open the dialogue that will improve our sex life. It is not uncommon for us to have thoughts about our sex life like, “I wish she would give me more blow jobs” or “I wish he was not so quiet when he orgasms.” These things get under our skin and start to eat at our sexual happiness. When we are able to have a calm discussion with our partner and tell them what would make sex better for us, then we are able to do just that – make sex better!

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ASK QUESTIONS
Sometimes we may not have anything specific to talk about, but we have the overall goal of making the sexual relationship better. When we calmly ask our partner what we could do to make things better, or ask them what they may need sexually to be more fulfilled, then we show them that we care about their sexual happiness. In turn, being able to tell your partner when asked what you may like more of, less of or really want to try and then ask THEM questions in return, you open up a dialogue that is designed to make sex more successful.

LEARNING ABOUT FANTASIES
Everyone has sexual fantasies. Some are “normal” and some may be a little out of the box. The thing is that fantasies are ideas that tend to stick in our minds until we get to try them out, or at very least verbalize them. While we may think our partner would never entertain doing these fantasies, we would never know until we ask and discuss. Perhaps our partner has the same fantasy or would be eager to try it as well! We would never know until we have the conversation! Being able to talk openly and honestly about our sexual desires and fantasies is what separates “good” sex from “amazing” sex!

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