Navigating Long Distance Relationships

Fashion writer Cat Forsyth, much like many people, is nervous about the impending change in the dynamic of her relationship as she and her boyfriend prepare to go long distance. In her article for Fashion Journal she explains, “My boyfriend is leaving for four months. I am beyond excited for him – he’s been planning and looking forward to this trip since before we met, but I’d be lying if I said excitement was the only emotion I’m feeling regarding him being away for so long.”

Changing your relationship from one that thrives on closeness and intimate connection to long distance can put immense strain on both partners, but long distance does not need to mean the end of your relationship. Seeking advice on how to handle this change and what other couples can do to maintain a committed healthy relationship from afar, Forsyth reaches out to renowned Sex and Relationship Therapist Mim Kempson. 

After listening to the details of Cat’s situation, Mim advises that maintaining connection during separation involves embracing the fact that things won't be the same, urging acceptance of the differences rather than comparing to the past. She advocates for intentional busyness for long distance couples, focusing on multiple connections beyond the romantic relationship. Kempson explains that there should be special emphasis on the importance of scheduling regular communication and highlights that routine can be beneficial in maintaining a long-term relationship.

So, whether you or your love are moving for school, work, or travel; remain positive, schedule regular communication, keep busy but not overwhelmed, make more time for your other connections, and recognize that things won’t be the same for a while. Take this advice to heart and watch how time just flies by, distance makes the heart grow fonder anyway, right?