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What is it and how do I do it?


Help! Help! I am gagging, choking; I CAN’T BREATHE ….I am going to die while giving my man a blowjob!!! I can’t do it, I just can’t do it, his penis is too big for my throat! Ugghhh!

If this sounds like you or someone you know – LISTEN UP – it CAN be better! You CAN deepthroat your man without feeling like death is impending! How do I know? How can I be so sure? Well, I can deepthroat and I have taught many of my girlfriends how to do it too! So, read on and learn the art of the deepthroat and you will have your man squirming with desire in no time!!

So, let us begin by explaining what Deepthroating is, for any of you who may not know. Contrary to what you may have heard, Deepthroating is not holding your man’s penis deep in your throat continuously. When you Deepthroat your man, you lovingly take his penis and swallow it down your throat – how long you keep it there is really up to you – but any taking of your man’s penis into your throat is considered Deepthroating.

SIZE MATTERS
You may be wondering how you get an erect penis (which on average is longer than your mouth depth) into your throat without gagging. Well, the truth is, Deepthroating is a sexual technique, a skill if you will – and it requires you to suppress your gag reflex in order to partially swallow the end of his penis. This requires muscle control as well as a willing nature. If you have the will, there is a way.

Is it true that some women just CAN’T Deepthroat? No, not really. All women CAN learn to do it –even those who have horrible gag reflexes – but you have to try and try again. Even if you can’t learn to completely Deepthroat, you will learn how to give a better blowjob in the process!

MIND OVER MATTER
If you have made up your mind to learn to Deepthroat, then this will be the perfect way for you to begin. Knowledge is power – and this will most certainly help you to understand the physics of the act of Deepthroating.

To begin, if you have never given a blowjob (sucked, licked or teased your man’s penis with your mouth) it is probably better for you to master that before attempting to Deepthroat. However, there will be good techniques in this article which will invariably aid in your blowjob skills as well.

Now, if you have never, ever tried to Deepthroat – or if you have and you find that you have a terrible gag reflex (feeling like you are going to vomit) – then I would definitely suggest you practice on toys, bananas or other objects BEFORE you try this on your man. If you get confident with the stand-ins you will do much better with a real penis!

Fruits Are Good For You: I know you must think it’s a joke, but it really isn’t. Many, many women have successfully learned to Deepthroat (or even give blowjobs) on bananas! Bananas are curved, rather long and about the same width as many penises. Therefore, using a banana (will the peel ON) to practice your deepthroating is a very popular choice. Now I prefer to get something a little more lifelike, so you can handle the whole idea of what a penis is – from the head to the shaft to the balls – so when you get a real one in your mouth, you are prepared. For practicing I recommend a lifelike dildo – such as the CYBER JELLY 6 ˝ inch DONG, or the SILICONE BENDABLE DONG, or even a CLASSIC DONG – the point is, try to find something that is pliable, bendable and about 6 – 7” to begin. This will help you to be better prepared later on. Stay away from CYBERSKIN DILDOS unless you want to put a condom over it – the Cyberskin doesn’t taste very nice!

Getting To Know You: Once you have your practice penis – whether a banana or a toy – you must get to know it. If you attempt to just ram it down your throat you surely will be unsuccessful! Try to be as comfortable as possible, be aroused (play with yourself, have an orgasm or two) the more aroused you are, the better the exercise will be.

Then, when you are ready to begin, start as you would a regular blowjob. Lick the end, suck the sides, get it moist with saliva. If you need more – use some FLAVORED LUBRICANT – but make sure that the toy is slick and sensual. Use your hands to hold the toy or banana at the base and really give it your attention as if the man you love is attached to it. Then, begin to insert the toy further and further down your throat. IF you are sitting up, DON’T – you would rarely give a blowjob sitting up. Try to get in the position that you would be in to do the deed. If you have a friend available to hold the toy – do it. NO, I AM NOT JOKING – I helped many of my girlfriends learn to deepthroat this way.

If you normally kneel to give the blowjob – then kneel; if you lie down to do it, then lie down. Put the toy into your mouth and begin to work it down your throat. Take a little at a time – down and then back out; down and then back out. Slowly, increasing the depth of the toy. If you feel like you are going to gag, then try to relax, flatten your tongue and remember to BREATHE! The more saliva you work into your mouth, the better! The slicker the toy, the better it will slide in and out of your throat.

RELAXATION and CONFIDENCE are the keys to learning to Deepthroat! When you are relaxed, your tongue and cheeks relax. If you are tense, the toy will not go down your throat! Keep working the toy in and out and further down until you feel it passing your tonsils – then you know you have hit pay dirt! You continue to breathe out of your nose once it gets far enough down your throat to close off your windpipe. Take the toy in and out until you get confident enough to leave it down longer.

This might take you a while to learn – hell, it might take you a long time to just get the toy TO your tonsil level – but do not give up! The more you do it, the better you will get.

TRICKS OF THE TRADE
There are ways to make this process a little easier if you find that you are having trouble with this exercise.

Extending your throat – Getting Tipsy– In case you never noticed this about yourself – your throat is not really curved, but straight. Your mouth and throat come together at kind of a sharp L-curve – at least when you are sitting straight up. A man’s penis is straight, but bends a little too. The combination of an L-shaped bend and a straight object going together doesn’t really make sense! It is sort of like trying to shove a straight stick down an L-shaped pipe. In order to perfect Deepthroating, you must learn how to reshape your throat to accept the penis – to get the mouth and the throat to “line up”. How do you do this? Well, if you have ever watched ER or any other medical show and seen how they TIP the head back to put the intubation tube in – you will get the idea.

The easiest way to learn this concept is to lie on your back on your bed, then move your head to the edge and let it naturally fall over the edge! This will provide a much more natural alignment for your toy to extend into your throat. So, while in this position, take your toy and start to move it down into your throat. You should find that it slides down much easier in this position. This is an excellent way to begin.

If you can’t handle being upside down – hey, I understand, I get dizzy too – then you will have to try and force that position by consciously tipping your head back. For me, Deepthroating has become easy in any position because I know that when I begin I have to have my head tipped back. So, if I am on the top, with my hubby lying down, I hover over him and tip my head back as I accept his penis into my throat.

Or, if I am kneeling at his feet I take his penis in my hands and as I get it further down to my throat I tip my head back. This makes it much easier to accept. Whatever position you like to give a blowjob in, it is possible to tilt your head back. Even the famous and popular 69 positions. Use a pillow to put under your neck if YOU are on bottom – this way you can extend your head back. The hardest way to Deepthroat is probably during a 69 with the woman on top – but believe me, you can learn how to do that too – just remember to relax and extend your neck as much as you can to get his penis all the way in.

Don’t hold your breath – While you have the toy down your throat it will seem – especially at first – that you can’t breathe. When you give a normal blowjob you use a combination of your nose and mouth to breathe. When you are Deepthroating, you must learn to breathe out of your nose more. This seems unnatural at first, because our natural instinct when something is shoved into our throat is to gag and hold our breath or to cough.

So, one of the most important techniques to learn is how to breathe while doing the Deepthroat. Here are some pointers: when the toy goes into your throat and pushes past the tonsils – DO NOT PANIC. Simply hold your breath for the few seconds that it is blocking your airway. Then, when you pull out the toy, take a breath – from your mouth. Not only will this give you greater breathing, but the warm, hot air on your man’s penis will excite him tremendously!

In time you will learn how to pattern your breathing with the rhythm of the insertion and it won’t feel so much like you are suffocating! To do this, just repeatedly swallow the toy in and out and practice the breathing as you go. Once you can successfully get the toy down into your throat and continue breathing without gagging – you are ready to advance to a real penis.

Getting over the Gag: If you are a “gagger” – meaning every time something goes into your throat you gag – the mission is to defeat the gag reflex. It is called a “reflex” because the throat wants to expel items which are closing off the windpipe – it is a survival instinct. However, you can overcome this reflex by learning to relax and concentrate on what you are doing. If you are breathing and relaxed the gag reflex will not be so bad.

There really are no super secrets to eliminating or overcoming the gag reflex – simply mind over matter and practice. Therefore, the best way to overcome it is to continually force yourself to accept the toy down your throat. Each time it should get much easier and much better to do. Eventually, your gag reflex will barely be noticeable when giving oral sex. One final tip to overcoming this obstacle is to be aroused! The more aroused and willing we are to pleasure our partner, the easier it is to accomplish this.

TRADING TOYS – PLEASURING THE PENIS
Once you have successfully mastered oral lovin’ with your toy (or banana) then it is time to try this on your man! Make sure he is willing (like he wouldn’t be) to be patient and let you run the show. Many men get SO excited at the prospect of Deepthroating that they grab the back of your head and push you down – this will make you panic, and won’t end up well for either of you! So please ladies – WARN your man to let YOU run the show – no grabbing the hair or pushing your head – you can save that for later when you have mastered the technique!

Remember that giving oral lovin’ to your man is MUCH easier than on a banana or a toy because a penis bends, moves, and gives a little where a toy DOESN’T. Begin by kissing and licking your man’s prized possession like you are loving every moment (and you SHOULD be!) Lick up and down the shaft – being sure to get a lot of saliva around the shaft and head. Use your hands to increase the sensations. Suck the end like a straw and gently suck his penis into your mouth. Go SLOW, take your time and once you have sufficiently worked him into a frenzy with your personalized blowjob techniques – begin to suck him into your throat.

Just as you did to the toy – use your hands to hold his penis and bring him down into your throat slowly – remember to breathe and to only put him in a little at a time – working into the full Deepthroat. For first timers I suggest that you do not leave him in your throat too long – bring him in and let him out. Remembering to relax your throat, flatten you tongue and ALWAYS suck harder on the way out of your throat.

If you can’t get him all the way into your throat – DO NOT WORRY – just try again next time. Believe me, your man will love you for trying and the blowjob he is getting is better than no blowjob at all!

TONGUE TWISTING TECHNIQUES
Once you have mastered the Deepthroat, there are some things you can do to make it EVEN more enjoyable! While the best way to perfect your blowjob givin’ skills is to find your own winning combinations – sometimes a few suggestions will start your creative juices flowing. 

Ho-Hum: Don’t let your blowjob stop with just some licking and sucking – make it a “Hummer!” While this will take some time to perfect – it is DEFINITELY worth the time to learn. The vibrations of your tongue, throat and tonsils when you hum is what will drive your man NUTSO!!!

What you want to do is suck your man’s penis into your throat and while it is deep in – start to HUMMMMMMM! It doesn’t matter what you hum, I usually hum the theme to Jeopardy – just find something that you can remember the tune to. Or, just let your natural excitement cause you to “hum” with pleasure.

It will seem very hard to do this at first – but after some practice it will just be what you do. If you find it hard to do when the penis is all the way in – start humming as it comes out of your throat. Or, try to have your cheeks kind of puff out so you can breathe. Whatever your technique, it will be worth it to try!

“Pop” Goes the Penis: This is one of my favorite techniques – and it drives my hubby absolutely bonkers! When I am taking his penis out of my throat, I bring it all the way up to my mouth and “suck” it hard - so when I pull it out it makes a “popping” noise. Then I quickly suck it back into my throat and do it again. Humming all the way through. The extra friction that happens when you suck your man in while lifting your head out is what drives men crazy! The reason this is so spectacular for your man is that most of the sensation is in the first few inches of his penis – so paying special attention to the head of it is sure to drive him CRAZY!!!

Build a Better Blowjob: All I can say is, if you are sucking your man’s penis there is very little you can do wrong. However, there are ways to make it better. One of the essentials to Deepthroating is “variation.” Don’t do the same thing over and over – vary your techniques and watch how much better your man will love you! Pay attention to his head, the shaft – use your hands, your lips, your tongue and even your TEETH. I know, the idea of teeth with a blowjob is a bit radical, but if you use them carefully, like loving nibbling, you can bring a whole new dimension to your blowjob!

Remember to relax and do what feels good to you – when you are sucking him down your throat – relax and tilt your head back so that he can easily slide down. If you begin to gag, take his penis out and relax a minute and try again. Do not give up – you can DO IT!!!

If you get tired easily – or if you are just really working his penis – try to switch it up in between the sucking. Nibble down the shaft, use your hands and run your nails LIGHTLY down the sides. Tongue his head just a bit and tease him. There really is no BAD ideas – just go with your own flow!

Your Treat for a “JOB” Well-Done: If you are going to spend the time to give your man the world’s best blowjob then make sure you take it all the way to fruition – swallow! One of the best things about perfecting Deepthroating is that it makes swallowing much easier! It is sort of the concept of a “beer bong” (blast from the past and my college years) – where you would suck down a whole beer throat a funnel and a tube. Similar in concept, when you have your man’s penis down your throat and he cums – the semen goes smoothly down your throat – missing the tongue and the swallowing reflex. So, if you have “issues” with sperm taste or texture – this may be your solution!

Is swallowing necessary? Well, no – but men seem to like it. While this is not the time or article to debate the pros and cons of swallowing – it is just my simple suggestion to at least try it while Deepthroating. Just like everything in life, you can learn to do it.

If you are still having taste issues – or even if you just want to sweeten the deal – try some Deep Throat Mints or try any other type of FLAVORED LUBES that you would like. Each person’s personal tastes are different – find something that will float your boat!

FINAL THOUGHTS
While Deepthroating is one of the most intense sensations for a man (so I have heard) if you can’t do it despite trying and employing my techniques – don’t worry! Your man will love your efforts and he will be horny and happy because you at least tried.

Keep trying and you will succeed – the mantra of every parent or mentor. Well, think of me as your Deepthroating Mentor – keep trying, you WILL succeed! Trying is definitely more than half the fun – and the reward your man will give you for your efforts of success will amply pay you back for all your practice. In fact, I think my next article will be just for the men – “Pleasing the P: How to Perform KILLER Cunnilingus!

Until then, happy playing and practicing….have FUN!!!

Muuuuahhhh!

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Comments
VegasGlutton Date 2/14/2011 2:33:02 AM
Hands down THE best advice on deepthroating EVER! Thank you for taking the time to perfect & then share your techniques! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
Bill Date 7/27/2013
The one thing I know I love and can send me over the edge during a BJ and deep throating is using your tongue directly below the head where the skin comes together. If your man is having problems getting to that mind blowing end. Do this and it will usually take him over the edge!!! Being BI, I know this works!
Hannah Date 8/19/2013
I absolutely adore my man’s cock and I would be more than happy to give him bj every hour. But I feel like there’s just one very, very important thing which has been left out, and that is CLEANLINESS. Nobody said anything about that. Often us girls turn off such requests simply because we don’t want to get a taste of cheese or tuna or else while giving head… BLEAH!!! No offence to the guys reading, maybe it’s not you, but somebody before you which made us so ‘picky’... By the way, the best thing
zahir Date 8/31/2013
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buffy Date 4/9/2014
I've heard of and tried the butterfly flick but I have problem curling my tongue & whipping your curled tongue quickly up around the head & down the shaft
Timide Williams Date 8/23/2014
I really love this article.Martin is more experienced than me & wants me to deep throat him. I have learned to relax more just over time. Now I have an instruction guide to help me better. Thanks to TooTimide. Sorry about e, it's a habit.
 
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