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10 Things She Doesn't Want During Oral Sex

Posted by TooTimid Staff to Women's Issues
10 Things She Doesn't Want During Oral Sex

Women love receiving oral sex. We LOVE it. For many women it may be the only chance they have at an orgasm. For many others, it is the main way they get aroused. Plus, it truly feels amazing and is a very intimate experience. However, there are some things that we women simply do not like when you are eating us out. Furthermore, there are some things we definitely do not want while you are between our legs. Here are 10 things to avoid when you are orally pleasing your woman. She doesn't want you to . . .

1. RUSH!

Slow down man, what's the rush? Take your time and explore her nether area. Let your lips pass slowly over her labia, kiss her inner thighs, admire the glistening wetness and observe the slow gyrations of her hips as she becomes aroused. Let her feel your hot breath on her before you ever actually take a lick - and when you do, go slow. Take. Your. Sweet. Time.


Yes, we women love to be fingered while receiving oral. Yes, we love that slow dip of your fingers inside of us while you are working us up with your tongue. What we hate, though, is when you start with the fingers without getting us properly lubricated and worked up. The first thing done should never be fingers IN, you have to work that clitoris a bit before that.


While we are on the subject of fingering, let's pause and talk about your rather enthusiastic fingering, shall we? We know you are excited, we are excited too! However, nothing will derail our excitement more quickly than feeling like you are trying to push your whole hand inside of us. Fingering requires some finesse, and some patience. So, keep that in mind when you are using finger play with oral sex.


Many women enjoy a little nibble during oral, especially on her clitoris. However, not many women enjoy a true bite. It can happen accidentally, or on purpose, but many times biting will render us in pain and not pleasure. We love some sucking of our thighs, some sucking of our lips, and a little nibble in those places too, but biting is a giant negative.


I, personally, enjoy when my fiancé is down between my legs and he is holding my thighs while he lets me grind against his face. However, at times his grip can become very tight and almost like a pinch. When that happens all the pleasure he is giving me gets overshadowed by the pinching sensation on my thighs. So, while you may want to hold her down a bit so you can do your work, you don't want to grab her too tightly. That results in lost pleasure and next day bruising.


Yes, we definitely like to hear that we taste good, smell delicious or how much you are enjoying giving us this pleasure. We don't, however, want a play by play sportscaster-like dialogue with questions and answers. "Do you like that baby?" "I am now licking your clit, does it feel good?" "Tell me how good that feels." Why do we not like too much talking? Well, for many women there is a huge psychological aspect to enjoying oral sex and we may need to concentrate a bit on it. When you talk, or ask questions too much, it takes us out of our zone. Trust me, if she is moaning she is loving it. Don't ask us 20 times.

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Variety is the spice of life, and in oral sex this is a definite bonus. However, if you are all over her vagina with licking, sucking, clitoral attention, fingering, then changing it all up too rapidly, how will you know what she really likes and is getting into? When you sense something is making her really excited STICK WITH IT! You should be able to tell by the way she moves, how she moans or if she plain out tells you not to stop. When you find the thing that is working keep on doing that! You can experiment, and we want you to, but do not rapid cycle through it so we can't enjoy it.


Part of the excitement for us is knowing that this excites you. We get off knowing how sexy you find eating us out to be. If we sense you are bored or just not into it, then we would rather you not be down there at all. There should be enthusiasm, some excitement, involvement and a seeming true desire to give us pleasure. If you don't want to be down there, then don't go down there. If you do go down there, enjoy every second of it.


Men are not natural question askers, especially when it comes to directions. So, if you are going down on your woman and she doesn't seem to be into it, isn't moaning or moving, or seems to be directing your down or up with her bodily movements then maybe you should ask her what she wants or likes. All women are different and what worked with the previous woman may not work at all with her. If you feel like your techniques aren't working, ask her what she wants, needs or likes. Be the bigger man, ask for help.


This one sort of goes without saying but, please for all that is holy do not stop before she has had her orgasm! Yes, it may take a little bit. Yes, you may have to be down there longer than you think you want to be. Yes, I know you want to move on to sex. However, we want that orgasm. We NEED that orgasm. Give us that orgasm. Do not stop before we have orgasmed. Also, don't stop after either. Why not go for another? You may be surprised at how lovely that can be.

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Do you have any tips for what to avoid when eating her out? Let us know below!

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Date 8/6/2018
My wife loves to have me lick and suck her lips. She groans with pleasure when I suck and lick her clit at te same time. When she is dripping wet and it tuns to her ass I put a finger in he pussy and a little finger in her ass. With the other hand I pinch one or her nipples and she cums immediately She squeezes my fingers and cums for at least a minute solid !
Date 8/6/2018
Being noisy!!! Hate slurping noises.
Date 9/11/2018
Don't ever hum, you sound dumb but it doesn't always do the trick, also vaginas are NOT balloons they aren't supposed to have air in them don't try to blow air in it, that's dangerous and dumb! Rant over
Date 11/12/2018
Fellas, eat it like a peach. Your face should glisten from more than just your saliva when you're doing it right. I hate when it seems like new baby kitten is down there. There is no pleasure in you being timid.
Date 11/15/2018
Commenting on number 10, 1-9 are absolutely correct. I am a male and I enjoy and cherish doing this to please my partner. To me it is one of the greatest gifts I can give her, and to feel her moaning, groaning gyrating lets me know I am doing it right. Been doing this for a very long time, and I had learning experiences of what worked and didn't work and learned that all women are different about this, but the all have a lot in common about what pleases them. To me this is the ultimate gift I can give them before actually engaging in intercourse. Back to #10: I have found that when you give her the first orgasm, you take a pause, but still be down there, caressing, kissing her lips, breathing your hot breath, kissing and massaging her inner thighs, while she is recouping from that orgasm, and then you gradually start doing what you did the first time, again. And what I have discovered if you do this procedure over and over, there is almost no limit to how many orgasms you can make them have, and it seems to me as a man, performing in between, their orgasms start coming quicker each time you are doing it. I have had women literally pass out, from so intense orgasms. It seems unlike us men, there is no limit to how many orgasms a woman can have during an encounter as this. God blessed the women this way concerning sex especially about oral sex. If you can do like #10 says, and what I have said here, you will always have a very happy and loving woman at your side. You ladies in charge of this web site, tell me if I am wrong. :o) AW

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