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How to Play with Her Clit

Posted by Mikayla to Men's Issues
How To Play With Her Clit

The clit - the short form of the word "clitoris" is one of, if not THE, most sensitive erogenous zone on a woman. It is, in terms of
sensitivity and ability to arouse, kind of like the female "penis." Contrary to what some people may believe, there is more than one way to play with, stroke, rub, or touch her clit! In the interest of going back to basics this article will discuss a few very simple methods. Why is it important to try different techniques? Well, doing the same technique over and over is monotonous and boring! Even if she enjoys the way you are pleasuring her changing things up a bit can bring a whole, new and exciting level of arousal! So, read on to find some new ways to stimulate her clit and give them a try, the results may just be explosive!

SLOW DOWN
Men may enjoy it when the woman goes right in for the kill with their penis, however, women are a bit different. We prefer you take your time getting to the real deal. We much prefer you touch other parts BEFORE you actually touch our clit. This means, the areas around the clit (the vaginal lips both inner and outer) should be caressed first. Resist the urge to go right in and touch the clit, instead rub around it with the pads of your fingertips. You can run circles AROUND the clit, but not ON the clit. This will have her aching and needy so when you go in for the moves, she will be eager!

GIVE HER THE MIDDLE FINGER
The clit is a small, tender, sensitive little area that can be overwhelmed by too much stimulation. Most of the time it is wise to start with just one finger and then move up to other techniques. For example, play your middle finger above her clit and gently place the pad of your finger on it. Gently rub tiny circles around her clit. Slow. Deliberate. Gentle circles around and around. Change directions and rub in the reverse. Or, try an up and down motion instead of circles - almost as if your finger is on a vertical track over her clit. You can also change it up and do both! Most importantly, use only the pad of your finger, gently.



SLIPPERY BUSINESS
Lubrication makes everything better! During oral sex the giver supplies lubrication via saliva to the receiver. When you are rubbing her clit before oral sex it is nice to supply a little lubrication. You have 2 options (a) use your own saliva by placing it on your fingers and onto her or (b) use an artificial lubricant (keeping in mind if you play to give her oral sex later that it should be an edible lube). A small dab of lube will make everything slide around smoothly and sensually and allow your finger(s) to entice her clitoris gently and seductively.

PRESSING YOUR PALM
Who says that you can only use a finger or two when you rub her clit? Sometimes, especially nearing orgasm, it is nice to increase the pressure and the contact area. This means using your palm and fingers in total to pleasure her. If she is spreading her legs, gyrating her hips, moaning and you just know she is getting closer to the big O you should move in for the kill and use your palm to provide a stronger pressure to her clit and vaginal area. Many women find this sort of whole handed technique orgasmically pleasing. Give it a try!

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SPEED IT UP
Now, while I mentioned not starting your rubbing with aggressive and fast-paced moves, toward the middle to end of your pleasuring you will definitely want to speed things up! A consistent, steady rhythm that increases in speed will throw her over the edge as she gets closer and closer to climaxing. The build-up of tension and pressure, speed and contact will give her a wonderful orgasm!

ASK FOR A SHOW
Probably the most important thing to remember when pleasing your woman is that she has been doing it longer than you have! So, she knows the way she likes to be stimulated. Ask her to show you! While it is always good to have your own set of moves it is also valuable to see how your woman self-pleasures. This is most important in instances where your partner may have difficulties orgasming. If this is the case, watch how she gets herself there and apply those techniques yourself. Pay attention to where she touches, how fast or slow she moves her fingers, whether she circles, taps or rubs in any particular pattern. If you pay attention to these things, you will undoubtedly give her what she wants!

How Do You Play With Her Clit? Let Us Know Below! 

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Comments

Date 8/6/2018
Elsa
I'm actually a woman reading this as I was interested in what your ideas were. There is some seriously good advice here, guys! Take it and run with it! If I had to add anything it would be that sometimes you guys get so excited and you think you need to rub the clit nice and hard for us to cum....that is not always the case! I personally have a pretty sensitive clit so something that drives me wild is when he not only slows down but also relieves some of the intense pressure he is putting on my clit! He saves his tongue a little trouble and I get off much easier! It's all about just getting to know the woman you're with cuz we are all different, some of us don't want that intense rubbing!
Date 8/6/2018
Chuck
This information has been quite helpful...after reading I went home and made my lady take her pants off right away. At the end, after one of her most intense orgasms yet....she sat up and asked "where the hell did you learn that?" ;)
Date 8/6/2018
DMan69
I know this is all about rubbing her clit but you can't just rub the clit! You've gotta take it to the next level and use your tongue or else, in my experience, she won't reach orgasm!
Date 8/15/2018
Paul
I think I get my wife off most of the time, like 98% of the time. I have learned to pay attention to her breathing, movements, sometime facial expressions (when we do it during the daylight), while also concentrating on what my finger is doing. It sounds like a lot, but I love her so much I really want to please and focus all my attention on her (sometimes so much that I get soft ). What I found is when her reaction shows like she is getting near, I change it "slightly" just to slow her down, then I go back to what was working before, I follow this pattern a couple of times. When I say change it, I mean something like if I am using the pad of my finger in a circle or up & down, I switch to the neck of my finger but keeping the same motion and rhythm, or keep using the pad but change from vertical up/down to half circle up/down. If she is not to close, I like lubing my finger really good and then rubbing her clit very lightly and fast. I love it when she clamps her legs shut tight on my hand, I know I did my job. It's even better when sometimes her free hands grabs hold of me what ever part it can get and squeeze me and pulls me into her.
Date 8/27/2018
deborah
I asked not so long ago if it is a guy thing to speed up when they sense us peaking and he said "well, yeah". No. All women are different. follow our responses. Speeding up sets me back. Maintain slow, easy strokes (oral) and I'll be over the moon.

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