I’ll start by saying this, my wife is quite strong in the leg department! While it was fun to experiment with this particular spreader bar (our first ever), if your lady (or man for that matter) has the legs of a Olympic powerlifting champion- you might want to go with something a little sturdier. That isn’t to say that it won’t hold up to serious stresses, it’s more of a warning that if your significant other is very strong, you’re probably going to need thick steel or aircraft aluminum!
I will say, before my wife torqued the part where the chain connects to the cuff, it was pretty fun!
So, on to the other stuff. The cuffs were super comfortable, definitely didn’t chafe or rub in any unpleasant way, the metal bar didn’t have any burs or things that can cut you, and the cuffs were secure enough to not break free (apart from what was mentioned already). One downside is, if you’re looking for a true restraint that makes it so your partner can’t get out (that’s why there are safe words, right?) this isn’t a restraint that fits. The reason it doesn’t work for true restraint is due to the chain and bar being separated from each other. The bar being a hollow tube that the chain can move through relatively freely. Now, the wife and I are new to this style of play, but her being able to escape with ease, wasn’t something I was expecting.
For our first spreader bar, it was good enough to show us that this is something we definitely want to add to our toy chest! If you’re new to this type of play, and want to explore, pick this one up- I’ll be fixing ours because it was definitely something we both enjoyed. I am absolutely certain that we will be exploring this avenue of play more in the future, so, this being an introductory toy was worth the wait. Now we just have to figure out what our left and right limits are, and that is always fun!
Fixing it will be easy, literally bend the chain back in place and reattach the cuffs, then maybe add some JBWeld. I, for one, will certainly enjoy seeing her try to escape in the future after I’ve fixed it!