5 Ways To Get Your Partner To Try Anal

Anal sex is considerably more mainstream than it has ever been, but yet, many women (and men) still shy away from it. Why is that? What is anal sex such a “no-no” subject? The most common misconception about anal sex is that it “hurts.” Truth be told, anal sex should NOT hurt if you are doing it correctly, and it should be a pleasing experience. For heterosexual men the big turn off is that “anal sex means I am gay.” Guys, let me tell you, there are a whole host of men out there fully enjoying the benefits of anal sex within their heterosexual relationships. So, how can you get your partner – whether male or female – to experience the joys of anal? Read on and I will give you some suggestions. Here is a nice progression of activities to get your lover ready to take the anal plunge!

1. TALKING, ASKING, & EXPLAINING
Of course the most important aspect of any relationship is communication and honesty. If you cannot talk openly and honestly with your partner about your fantasies, desires, likes and dislikes, your relationship will never grow to its full potential! Furthermore, if you cannot feel free to refuse certain activities, then your relationship is also not as strong as you would like and you should NEVER feel forced to do anything, especially sexual, even if you are in a loving relationship. So, if anal sex is something you would like to try with your partner, tell her / him why you would like to try it, what it would do for your sexual relationship and why he / she would enjoy it too! Anal sex is an equal opportunity pleasure experience. Both men and women have the same nerve endings in their rectal canal and men have the added bonus of the prostate spot as well, which can be much like a G-Spot for men. The first step in getting your partner on board with anal is to explain how it would be a PLEASURABLE experience for you both. Describe how much excitement you would get from performing anal stimulation on your partner and how pleasing it will be for them as well. Explain that this is for mutual pleasure, not for control or pain or even because it is a “taboo” experience.

2. RIMMING
Sometimes it is much easier to get into anal play through some light “rimming” of the anal opening first. This can be done via tongue (licking around the anus) or finger. Just remember, if you are doing this to a woman, never go from ass to vagina without washing or gargling first. Many men and women find a light anal stroking to be extremely pleasurable during oral sex. So, if you are on the road to experiencing anal, the first stop is always rimming. Remember to never insert your finger without consent of your partner. Slow, slow and slower wins this race.

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3. FINGERS FIRST
For many people – both male and female – the idea of something as large as a penis (or a butt plug) going up an “exit only” orifice is scary. Truth be told, it is never wise to just “jam it in” there, but instead, to work up to it. So, if your partner is wary about trying anal penetration, start slowly with a finger and then fingers. Use a well-lubed (and I mean WELL LUBED) finger and gently circle around the anal opening. This is great to do in conjunction with oral sex because whether you are male or female, when someone is going down on you, your attention is focused on that pleasure. As your partner heats up, gently and slowly push the tip of a finger in. Always go slow, allow the rectum to close around the finger as you push slowly in. Once your partner feels how good just a finger feels, you will be ready to move on to larger objects.

4. ANAL TOYS
One of the absolute best ways to work up to full-on anal penetration is through the use of anal toys. TooTimid has a full range of plugs, beads, dildos and even special prostate stimulating toys that can bring anal play to a whole, new level! Once your partner has consented begin with a smaller anal tool and play around with the level of penetration he or she enjoys. These toys are specially made to be smooth to ensure minimum discomfort. At this stage the goal is most definitely to show your partner how enjoyable anal penetration feels and to relax her/ him with the idea of full-on penetration. Check out our best selling anal training kit below:

5. PUSHING PENETRATION
If, at this point, your lover is open to further penetration then it is officially time to try penile penetration (or larger dildo/ prostate toys). The absolute most important part is: LUBE! Your anal canal does not lubricate, so lube is your friend. Lube up your penis or toy and always go slowly. Push a little at a time. Encourage your partner to relax and breathe. Pushing OUT during insertion helps the muscles to extend and allow the object inside. Never, EVER continue to push if your partner says it hurts or is too uncomfortable. You need to go slowly, a little at a time, and wait until your partner has indicated that it is OK to push in further or faster. Once the anal canal has been stretched and the lube has coated the insides, the experience becomes very enjoyable and the penis or toy will slide easily in and out. Just remember, listen and respect your partner’s cues here!

Mikayla’s Tip: Never, ever push your partner into anal sex if he or she says they do not want to or are not ready. Just like regular sex, this is a consenting activity. You should never push your partner to do this activity. If you do, you may just lose them in the relationship, and no sex act is worth destroying a relationship.

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