4 Products You Should Always Have In Your Toy Box
I am a strong advocate for being prepared in all circumstances. This includes being prepared for sex. Whether you are married, single, dating, or celebrating your “independence” – there are items that all sexually active people should have on hand – or at least should consider having.
Being ready for a sexual encounter is so important – and this means more than emotionally and physically – but also technically “ready.” Below are some of the items you should have to help with this!
Condoms
I think many of us have been in the situation when we were on a first date where we had an instant connection with someone. Sometimes when this happens, the date can turn sexual pretty quickly. Then what happens? If you both realize that you do not have a condom that can really dim the mood.
Your heated sexual night quickly turns into a giant disappointment where you have two options: take the risk of getting pregnant or getting an STD. Or, the second option is to just not have sex. Great sex is just not worth the risk of having unprotected sex. So, it's smart to always have condoms on hand - just in case.
Recommended Product: Trojan Ultra Thin Condoms
Lubricant
If you're a frequent flyer on our blog, then you know that we recommend lube a lot. But there's a reason for that, lubricant is one of the most important products to have on hand for any type of sexual encounter. Lubricant is important especially if you're having sex with someone who has a vagina. Going in dry or with some spit is most likely going to cause friction and possibly even tearing.
Also, lube really makes things sexy. Edible lubes and oils are a wonderful thing to have on hand! Something as simple as a sweet oral lubricant can really surprise a new lover or remind your long time lover of how much fun you are in bed! And, let us not forget about anal lubes! You may not be anticipating anal sex – but if the opportunity arises – you will need lube and it's better to be prepared than miss an opportunity because you aren't.
Recommended Product: TooTimid Water Based Lube
Basic Vibrator
Toys can be an enhancement for any type of sex play from masturbation to couple’s play. I firmly believe that all sexually active people should at least consider having a bullet vibrator in their toy box. A bullet is such a simple toy – and is usually pretty cheap. Imagine giving a new lover a blowjob that included some extra “ball sack” stimulation! Or, if you are single and enjoying solo play – a bullet is one of the best toys to have on hand for quick, clitoral stimulation!
A vibrator doesn’t just have to be a woman’s best friend – it can really used on anyone. A person who is willing to introduce a vibrator (or any toy) to sex demonstrates that they are not afraid of “competing” and they have a firm understanding of that a vibrator just adds more pleasure for everyone!
Recommended Product: My First Silver Bullet
Toy Cleaner
Now, with the toys, you really should also have a quality toy cleaner! While washing with soap and water is usually more than sufficient, having a toy cleaner to either spray on or wipe onto your toys before and after use really helps to fight off any bacteria that may be hiding. Especially if you use a bullet to tease someone's anal opening, you'll want to clean it off before using it anywhere else. Safety and hygienic cleanliness are essential to everybody!
Recommended Product: Aneros Antibacterial Wipes
You Can Never Be Too Prepared
While not everything I mention in this article might be your idea of what to have on hand for sex, the more important lesson is simply to be prepared. Having products such as lubricants can make any lovemaking session go smoothly. There is a whole world of toys out there – explore some and spice up your sex life! Being prepared for any level of sexual play is important and can really turn a night of good sex into FANTASTIC sex! I hope that I have caused you to pause and think about your level of sexual preparedness!
Kleenex is a must. An extra pillow or two can help with positioning which ever party is on the bottom. A bath towel on the bed will protect the sheets when things get messy and avoid deciding who gets to sleep on the wet spot. I suggest a waterproof pad under the sheet to protect the mattress. Other useful items are a blindfold and some sort of tickling device like a soft flogger. A doggy style strap can be used in many ways beyond the obvious one advertised. A cowgirl can take the reigns to ride a bucking bronco. That brings to mind a lasso style adjustable cock ring. A male stroking toy can give sore jaws a break. I recommend a stronger massager than the bullet, one that can also be used for sore muscles. The Pink B. O. B. silicone lust is tops.
I would never suggest getting tied up by someone you don’t know. But in a trusting relationship, a little restraint of or by either party, especially as an occasional surprise, can add so much to a session. It can be as simple as a couple lengths of old soft cotton clothes line strung under the mattress, but it’s hard to find anything better for soft bondage tie and tease than the Master Kink under bed restraints sold by TooTimid. There is a whole world of bondage and male chastity devices that you might want to include.
The most important things to have are not material objects, but an enthusiastic attitude and the ability to show it without seeming demanding. Add to that, skills that can be learned by reading, watching porn, and most of all, experimentation and communication.
As embarrassing as it is I am such a timid sexual person and I want to be more. My fiance is very sexual and I want to be able to be more open but I have trouble with having an orgasm and I feel it puts strain on or relationship please help
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