How To Shave Your Private Parts

Shaving Private Ryan: Removing your hair "down there"
OK, so I have already admitted to being the girl all my friends turn to for all their intimate questions and concerns – and the number one question I have gotten over the last 10 years has been “why on earth do you shave your pubic hair OFF?” Followed immediately by, “how can I do it without cutting the hell out of myself!” Since I have gotten many, many questions of a similar variety on the Discussion Board, I decided to address them here – for all interested parties to see!
Let me begin by saying that I have been shaving my pubic hair off – and I mean O F F as in completely bare, naked, gone – not a landing strip, stray hair, NADA for over 13 years – and you may be wondering how I came to this decision. Well, actually. . . I lost a bet. Yep, I lost a bet with my boyfriend (and no, I won’t discuss what the bet was) and had to shave it off. I have loved it ever since!

There was something “clean” about being free of all the hair – something sexy and smooth about the sensation of it. I felt super liberated and really sexy! My boyfriend loved it too – so it has remained shaved. My future boyfriends – and now hubby – also loved the barren me –and therefore I have been hair free ever since – but I would have kept it that way regardless, as it is a personal choice.

REASONS TO SKIN THE BEAVER
One of my friends eloquently refers to my shaving ritual as “skinning the Beaver” – when she said that the first time I laughed so hard that I almost peed my pants! She too wanted to know “WHY” – why, why, why do you DO that? Well, let me tell you my perceptions and experiences and the experiences of some of my friends who have tried it. First, having no hair down there is an acquired sensation. Many women find it freeing and sexy – equally as many find it disturbing. For me, and many of my friends, being shaven makes life simpler – there is no shaving around the bikini zone during the summer or when you want to impress your man with a new thong or G-String – there is no hair there to trim!

Second, oral sex is so much better for the giver! Although not every man will admit it if you ask him, men don’t like to have hair stuck in their teeth any more than we do (admit it, you don’t) so having no hair there eliminates the problem! They can lick and suck and tease to their heart’s content and never a hair will work it’s way into their mouth – now that is a wonderful thing!

Third, the view is delightful! I have surveyed quite a few men – and all but one of them said they prefer to look at a shaven vaginal area – or at least neatly trimmed or with a landing strip. Men like to “see” what is going on, they are visual creatures and are stimulated by what they see – therefore, if they can see what is going on with their fingers, tongue or penis – they are more aroused. Just like the old adage – “you can’t see the forest from the trees” – you can’t see the vagina for the bushy hair!

Fourth, and probably the best reason, SENSATION, SENSATION, SENSATION! I can’t explain quite adequately the difference in feeling that you will have when your lover touches you without hair blocking his / her touch! The vaginal area – not to mention the clitoral area – has neurotransmitters just like the skin – and when there is no longer a barrier between them and the sensation of touch – arousal hits a new level! Especially when the hair is removed from the clitoral hood – the wondrous sensation of a tongue rubbing over that area without the added friction of hair is nothing less than phenomenal! This is what has sold many of my friends on at least shaving the lower region of their pubic hair – once they felt the difference in sensation – they were sold on skinning the beaver!

Fifth, FOREPLAY! If you shave with your partner – it WILL lead to other things! Let’s face it, if you are spread eagle on the bathroom floor and your man has to “investigate” your pubic region, there is going to be some foreplay happening after your newly shaven pubic region is revealed! Helping each other shave (yes, I mean for the men too!) can be an extremely EROTIC experience for both of you! However, if your partner is not comfortable with doing this for you, then that is OK – that last thing either of you wants is a shaking hand with a razor by your precious parts!

BARELY THERE OR TOTALLY BARE
Perhaps you are not sold on the “totally gone” hair look – you may think it will make you look like a 5-year old! I get it – you want a little something left behind to prove you are all woman, right? Well, there are options for you!

LANDING STRIP: The landing strip is the next best thing to almost bare. This is when all the hair from your public mound down to your anus is removed, but a tiny strip of hair is left on your pubic mound pointing down – as a “landing strip” would. This still gives you the bare feeling, removes the hair from your clitoral hood and labia, but leaves a little hint of your “womanhood” for the admiring public.

HEART SHAPE: Although hard to achieve and make even on your own, the heart shape is the next favorite for those who want a little more hair. All the hair from the pubic mound down to the anus is removed, but the hair on the pubic mound is trimmed and shaped into a heart. Many women find this option good because they still get the bare sensation, but they have their pubic hair there, albeit more “cutsie” than before.

LIGHTENING BOLT: Some women love to get a little funky with their pubic hair designs and either shave off the bottom part and fashion the pubic mound into a shape like a lightening bolt. Or, they just trim it all up – leaving hair on the nether region also - and then make the design. One of the most popular for sure is the lightening bolt, and this design is extremely hard to make evenly on your own.

Personal trimmers with templates are available, such as Ultimate Personal Shaving Kit, which includes everything you need for a smooth close sexy shave.

Whichever “bareness” you choose – experimenting with shaving pubic hair is an exciting way to enhance foreplay and to bring new passion into your relationship.

AVOIDING “THE CUT”
So you have decided to take the plunge – you are going to shave it off – but you need to know how to do it without injuring that very special part of yourself, right? Well, you have a few options here:

SALON WAXING – Salon waxing is definitely an option if you want to remove all the hair and leave yourself smooth as a baby’s bottom in one fast – RIP! (although they can leave landing strips too) The Brazilian wax removes all the hair from your pubic area and anal area. The practitioners are experienced, discreet and FAST! They do not waste any time between the application of the wax and the ripping off of the hair. Of course, waxing is PAINFUL – I will not lie. I have it done every couple of months just for maintenance purposes, and I do not joyfully bound myself to the table.

However, the benefits of waxing are that the hair is removed at the ROOT, so you will remain bare longer, the hair grows back less dense, and you have less chance of ingrown hairs. Of course, waxing is expensive – I pay $75 a pop for my guilty pleasure – did I say “pleasure?”

HOME WAXING – You can wax your own pubic hair at home – although I would not recommend this. The products that are available at your local store are not really made for pubic waxing. Plus, if you get started and the pain is too much for you, you might stop and have a half-waxed beaver – not attractive at all. Plus, hot wax in your vagina – not pleasant I am sure – unless you like that kind of thing (see my BDSM article!)

DIPILATORY CREAMS - These creams – such as NAIR ® are made especially to break down hair and cause it to fall out. NAIR ® makes a special bikini zone cream that is meant for the bikini area – not exactly for the inner vaginal area. The nice thing about these products is that you don’t have to shave. The problem with depilatory creams is that they can be very irritating to the skin, they smell bad and they can cause infections if you get them into the vagina. Use caution when using a product such as this to remove pubic hair. Be careful not to get any into the vaginal opening!

SHAVING – Shaving is my personal option! I find it the easiest, the cheapest and the most effective. After the first shave, things get much easier. There are a few major rules to shaving successfully, however.

1) TRIM your hair first – if you try to shave your pubic hair without trimming you will clog up your razor and cause nicks and cuts from the get-go.

2) ALWAYS use a new razor – a quality razor – preferably a man’s razor.

3) Use a nice, quality shave GEL or product – COOCHY CREAM is ideal. It is made especially to soften coarse pubic hair, so the shave will be much easier.

4) Soak in the tub or run water on your pubic area for a good 10 – 15 minutes before you shave – this will soften the hairs and make them easier to cut.

5) LATHER UP and start with the pubic mound first, go against the grain of the hair, take slow, easy strokes making sure there is plenty of shave gel to support the shave.

6) DO NOT go over the same area too many times, you will get razor burn – you may not be able to get down super smooth the first time – it may be too sensitive.

7) Move on to the labia area – use caution – go SLOW – be gentle. If possible, sit on the edge of the tub and look into a mirror to see what you are doing. Pull out the lips so you can get them tight to shave. Rinse the razor in a cup of water after each pass with the razor.

8) When you do the anal area, be very careful around the anus – this area is extremely sensitive and prone to cuts – go SLOW – you can’t see what you are doing down there so just feel your way around, pull the razor UP not down, and try to get the hair on the first pass – do not go more than 2 passes to avoid irritation.

9) After you are done shaving – rinse off completely – towel dry.

10) Use either a non-scented deodorant, talcum powder, or an after shave mist like COOCHY MIST, which will protect your skin from rubbing against the fabrics of your clothes. These products help to prevent irritation and to minimalize ingrown hairs. You will have to experiment with your own personal preferences.

11) Shave again every other day in the beginning – after that, it might be daily or every other day – depending on how quickly your hair grows back, or how soon you start to dig into your panties to scratch.

EQUAL OPPORTUNITIES - FOR THE MEN
Oh yes, men can shave their….well your….you know….YOUR BALLS AND SHAFT TOO! We women enjoy giving a blowjob to a nice, clean-shaven penis with no hair to deter us from our work or to pull out of our teeth later! This is, of course, a generalization. I am sure many women enjoy a man with that “au natural” caveman look – just not THIS woman!

WARNING: Objects appear larger than they actually are!

But WHY, why would you want to shave your, well you know? Well, for one reason – when the hair is removed from the balls objects appear larger than they actually are – no kidding! I promise, your penis will appear MUCH larger….well, larger than it actually is.

Also, as with the woman, the sensation difference will be something you will notice immediately! You will love the extra feelings you received when your partner lovingly teases your freshly shaven balls in her mouth! They might even get more attention now – now that she can see them!

So, what are your options for hair removal, my daring friend? Why daring? Well, you are taking a razor to your penis – and that is daring at the very least! It really isn’t that bad, I mean, you men shave your faces every day, or every other, so you should be PROS! So let’s begin!

TRIMMING: If the idea of taking a razor to your little soldier (OK, sorry, MIGHTY SOLDIER) makes you a little squeamish, then you can take the more traveled route of trimming. Trimming your pubic hair will make your partner much happier and make the appearance “down there” much more appealing in general.

To trim the hair I suggest scissors first – I know, don’t worry, you’ll be CAREFUL – and no, safety scissors won’t do! Then, either a personal trimmer that you would use on your beard (sideburn trimmer) – or you could go with Ultimate Personal Shaving Kit. Buy one - share with your woman!

To start, be relaxed and in a well lighted area. It will help if you can have a mirror (stand mirror) handy so you can see. Pull your hair out and trim carefully, being extra carefully NOT TO GET THE SKIN! If you feel more secure, have your partner do this for you. It can be a nice part of foreplay, or just more relaxing for you. After all the hair is trimmed, you will probably only have to do it every week to 2 weeks.

DIPILATORY CREAMS - As previously discussed, these creams – such as NAIR ® are made especially to break down hair and cause it to fall out. The NAIR ® Bikini Zone Cream would work equally as well for your MIGHTY SOLDIER as it does for our nether area. You will have to endure the unpleasant scent, but the benefits will be worth it when the final result is rendered! Hair will most likely re-grow in about 3-weeks, so if a depilatory cream is your removal choice, buy a few boxes.

WAXING – Uh, did you REALLY think that was an option? To my knowledge, no salon will wax the testes – and honestly, would you really want to? OUCHIE!

SHAVING – Ah, the choice for “real men” – uh, I mean my man. My man chooses the shaving option simply because he has control over it, he can do it when he is ready, and he HATES the smell of depilatory creams. Shaving and trimming go hand in hand because really you have to trim before you can shave. If you attempt to shave before trimming you will clog up your razor and most likely nick yourself – and that would be BAD!

1) TRIM your hair first – as described above.

2) ALWAYS use a new razor, or new blades.

3) Use a nice, quality shave GEL or product – COOCHY CREAM is ideal. It is made especially to soften coarse pubic hair, so the shave will be much easier.

4) SOAK IN THE TUB – yes, I said it – SOAK……I know, not manly, but it will soften your pubic hair and really make this process go much easier. If you are not a “soaker” or don’t have a tub, then let the water run over your pubic area for a good 10 minutes – resisting the urge to – well, you know.

5) LATHER UP and start with the balls first, pulling them OUT and tight, so you can get a nice, even shave. Take SLOW, EASY strokes making sure there is plenty of shave gel to support the shave.

6) DO NOT go over the same area too many times, you will get razor burn – you may not be able to get down super smooth the first time – it may be too sensitive.

7) Move on to the shaft area – use caution – go SLOW – be gentle. If possible, sit on the edge of the tub and look into a mirror to see what you are doing. Make sure to rinse the razor to get the hair out after each pass.

8) When you do the anal area, be very careful around the anus – this area is extremely sensitive and prone to cuts – go SLOW – you can’t see what you are doing down there so just feel your way around, pull the razor UP not down, and try to get the hair on the first pass – do not go more than 2 passes to avoid irritation.

9) After you are done shaving – rinse off completely – towel dry.

10) Use talcum powder, or an after shave mist (NOT AFTER SHAVE – OWIE) like COOCHY MIST, which will protect your skin from rubbing against the fabrics of your clothes. These products help to prevent irritation and to minimalize ingrown hairs. You will have to experiment with your own personal preferences.

11) Shave again in a few days – figuring out how long it takes your hair to re-grow, you will probably decide based on the “itch factor.”

So now that you have been thoroughly advised on the wonderful world of shaving your most private and personal areas – are you going to do it? I hope so! Shaving your genitals can be FOREPLAY – if you do it together. Shaving each other can be extremely erotic – and is a fantasy for many men and women. It can be an erotic surprise for your partner! Imagine slipping beneath the covers to discover your partners freshly shaven and smooth genitalia! SURPRISE!

One thing shaving pubic hair does is open up a new realm of possibilities for both partners! I urge everyone to try it – the worse that can happen is you grow the hair back and endure a little itching – OK, a lot of itching – but hey, if you love it – it will be worth the effort – I guarantee it!

NOTE: If your partner puts for the effort to do this for you – NOTICE IT, COMMENT ON IT! Give them the BEST ORAL SEX you can that evening! It takes a lot of courage to shave off pubic hair the first time! If you don’t notice or comment, then the hard work seems to have been for naught! Enjoy what your partner has done for you – offer to help with the “maintenance” and future shaving! Make it fun – offer to do it to yourself if you aren’t already!

Remember the most important thing: DON’T KNOCK IT UNTIL YOU’VE TRIED IT – HOW CAN MILLIONS (YES, MILLIONS) OF MEN AND WOMEN BE WRONG???

Happy and Safe Shaving Everyone!

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