Have you heard of the term “limerance?” Limerance is the scientific principle of “early relationship bliss!” It is that butterflies in your stomach, giddy all the time, desire to talk to and see each other all the time. Limerance is a temporary state and usually lasts between 6 months and 1 year. Rarely does limerance last longer than this. Usually, however, it lasts longer for the female than it does the male in the relationship. This is because men are built differently than women. They are meant to see what they want, chase what they want, get what they want, and then get comfortable. In short, once they have you, they are most content in this. When limerance ends, so does some of those activities and feelings that women love so much. So, when this happens what can you do to make him excited again? Here are just a few ideas.
1. TINY GESTURES
Women are notorious for the tiny gestures they may do when they are first interested in a man. Maybe you baked him some cookies or made him a hand written card or even wrote him a poem. When was the last time you did this for him? Remind him of the cute side of you and revisit or reword some tiny gestures.
2. BE FUN AND FLIRTY
Surely you recall how things were when you first were dating and perhaps before you had sex. The fun and flirty girl who was enticing her man, giggly and seductive. That was a huge part of why your man fell for you – and sometimes we lose that girl in the seriousness of a relationship. Bring her back. You both will benefit.
3. BE CONFIDENT
A confident woman is a sexy woman! Confidence is extremely intoxicating to a man. Surely during the chase period you had confidence. Where did it go? If you maintain confidence or make yourself more confident again, then he will be very excited about the woman he is with.
4. LISTEN TO HIM
Men need to talk about their day, their stresses, and their worries. They may not do it often, but they will do it when they need to. Make sure when your man wants to talk that you are there to listen. He doesn’t want you to fix him, he just wants you to be there for him.
5. JOIN HIS WORLD
Now that you know about your man – his likes, dislikes, friends, favorite sports teams – join in with him. Buy him some surprise tickets for the sports event of his favorite team. Buy a jersey or shirt showing your support and drink beer with him. In essence, be one of the guys with him every so often.Make Him CRAVE Sex With You With These Tips and Tricks!
6. PAMPER HIM
Men and women both love to be pampered. Men are not usually as vocal about it. They enjoy having their feet rubbed, or a massage, or even taking a bath (shhh, don’t tell anyone). Men like to be pampered and when you do it they feel loved and excited that you are part of their life.
7. BE OVERTLY SEXUAL
One thing that really hits home with a man is when his partner is excited about sex! In the beginning of relationships we women tend to wear matching lingerie, buy sexy outfits, dress to the hilt for our sexual encounters. That sometimes falls by the wayside some of the time. Bring sexy back baby! Nothing is going to get his blood pumping more than a super sexy surprise!
8. TAKE HIM AWAY FOR THE WEEKEND
Undoubtedly, both men and women love time away with their partner. However, for a man this can be even more instrumental in reminding him why he chased and won you in the first place. When you take him out of the normal day-to-day activities and separate him from “life” and reconnect, well, that will remind him of the person who you are! Rejuvenating weekend trips sporadically can really boost the relationship to a better level.
9. TELL HIM WHAT YOU LOVE ABOUT HIM
It is such a simple thing to do, but if you tell your man what you love about him, it makes him happy and he realizes that you are really seeing him and appreciating him. Hearing (or reading) the reasons you fell for him can revitalize things for him and make him think about all the reasons he loves you.
10. TRUST HIM
When limerance ends women sometimes get grossly insecure. They feel that they are losing their edge with their partner because he is not as excited by things as he once was. Then, they act clingy, needy, and very insecure. This is not a good way to be, and it surely is not going to make him love you more. So, trust him. Trust in him. Trust in the relationship.
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