6 Ways to Help You Orgasm Easier

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Despite what some people may think, achieving orgasm is not always easy. An orgasm is a fairly complex physical and physiological event in which stimulation meets emotion. For some, reaching their climax might be elusive despite enjoyment.

However, there are some ways to help ensure a greater chance of reaching orgasm as well as having stronger or even more frequent orgasms. If you’re interested in learning how to cum more easily, check out our list of tips and start working towards experiencing effortless pleasure!

1. Set The Scene

A lot of us put everyone else before our own needs. So, when you're trying to learn how to orgasm easily, remember to put your needs first. During masturbation, seduce yourself the way you would a lover. Feeling sexy is a major confidence boost and might be exactly what you need to get over your plateau while figuring out how to make yourself cum easily! Set the scene by taking a nice, long, warm bath. Plump up your pillows, light those candles, put on that sex playlist. Get out a tingling lube and show off your newest sex toy. 

Seduce yourself slowly by intimately touching yourself without rushing it. Orgasms are more than a quick thrill. Releasing tensions and spending time with ourselves in this seductive way is important to our overall mental health. Make sure you give yourself the benefit of this experience whenever you can.

2. Connect With Your Partner

Wild rendezvouses aren’t usually the answer if you're looking to orgasm easier. While it is sometimes fun to have sex with someone you just met on a dating app, it is unlikely you will achieve orgasm during that encounter. Why? Simply because there is no deep connection between the two of you.

While sex can feel fantastic with a brand new partner, there may be a lack of emotional and physical chemistry with that person. The secret of knowing how to cum easily with a partner? Form a connection with the person with whom you are having sex! As you have a deeper connection and feel more comfortable with them, the easier it is going to be to orgasm. Where the mind is, the body will often follow. 

3. Leave Your Troubles Behind

If you’re one of those “do-it-all” people, it can be difficult to actually relax and stop thinking about what's next on the to-do list. Learn how to orgasm easily by being in the moment. Clear your mind, enjoy the feeling of your favorite sex toy or the touch of your love, and let that orgasm come!

Relaxing before sex or masturbation isn’t as simple as willing yourself to ease up and may take some practice, but it’s also very rewarding. A great place to start is simply doing a short meditation before any sexual activity to get you nice and relaxed. Leaving your troubles is good for you, your stress levels, and your libido!

4. Be True To Yourself & Your Needs

Let's be honest: a lot of people already know how to reach orgasm during self-pleasure. We know just the speed and pressure it takes to rub our clitoris, how much to spread our legs, how fast to rub our member and we may even know exactly what sex toys we like.

If we know how to orgasm easily during self-pleasure, we should be able to show our lovers our go-to moves when we're having sex. Guide your partner, tell them where you like to be touched, where you like to be sucked, if you need more pressure, etc. Be true to how you like it and do not be shy about showing your partner. How does this help you cum more easily? Self-stimulation is one thing, but having someone else’s hands on you can add a new level of excitement to your bedroom play.

Side Note:
 If you have a clitoris, rub it! Most people with a clitoris need to have it stimulated to reach orgasm—it’s just the way their bodies are built! There are about 8,000 nerve endings in the clitoris. While vaginal penetration can feel amazing, it might not be enough to climax. So, don’t be shy! Massage your clit and show your partner how they can help you orgasm easily!

5. Think Outside The Box

As we get older, we may occasionally find that the same things do not excite us any longer. We may no longer be able to imagine kissing Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie and go off like a firecracker. When this happens, trying something different is a great solution for how to cum easily.

Go outside your norm and explore new sexual fantasies and experiences. Watch a new type of porn, buy a toy that is powerful and larger than you are used to, or read some steamy erotica. If you have a partner to share your sex life with, ask them what their kinks are and see what interests you. You might discover something new about yourself and uncover some sexy desires that can help solve your predicament of how to orgasm easily.

6. Buy A New Sex Toy!

Nothing can bring on an orgasm more efficiently than a new “friend” in the bedroom, even if it is electric or battery powered. If you already have your own collection going and want to learn how to cum even more easily, expand your horizons by trying a toy that offers unique sensations. If you've never used a sex toy before then you have a whole world waiting for you to discover.

If you love a vibrating bullet, try adding in a dildo to give yourself some internal sensations as well. If you use dildos, try a dual action vibe. Want to go way out of your comfort zone? Invest in a quality anal lube and indulge in some anal play. If you want a toy that makes it feel like you're getting the best blow job of your life - you may want to look at our masturbators. You might discover something new about yourself or end up with a new best friend in the bedroom!

What Are Your Tips For An Easier Orgasm? Tell Us Anonymously Below!


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  • Sandra

    Sex with my husband is amazing. I usually orgasm 10-15 times a session. Just playing with my nipples, touching my ears, or rubbing my back will make me cum. I think after 57 years together he knows what he doing and he is good…….


  • Femmebilly

    Only way I can climax, is by only having a toy in my booty. I can never reach a orgasm by a guy. They never can last long enough. Plus they don’t help me get off


  • Melissa

    I’m over 50 (yikes!) and have experienced very few orgasms. I’m exploratory, fun, and very easy going – it’s just been difficult. Grrr and Ugh! I bought my first small toys here last year and have been able to reach orgasm almost every time I fly solo – YAY!! Definitely clit oriented for me. I love the small, silicone bullets and smaller wands. I’m working on transferring this knowledge to my love-life with the help of my (new) partner who is very dialed in and willing to help me explore the “great mystery of life” over and over. Glad I found this site and I appreciate the reminder to relax and figure myself out.


  • Firelady

    I’ve bought almost every sex toy there is and have never been able to achieve an orgasm. With a toy or another person. It’s frustrating and has cost me a lot of money.


  • Eddie

    Oral sex is possible the best way . For me and my girlfriend


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