10 Must-Try Bondage Scenarios For Beginners
Bondage is a great way to add a little spice into your sex life. Oftentimes, though, people are not quite sure how to begin. If you have ever researched bondage or watched bondage films or adult films you know that it can get pretty extreme, and for some people seem intimidating! I am here to tell you that there is bondage that any couple can enjoy and many different BDSM scenarios that are great to try your hand at this sexy and erotic practice. So, if you are a newbie and want to give bondage a go, read on.
Note: It is absolutely essential that before you engage in any bondage act, or any sexual act, really, that you have CONSENT and have discussed what is and is not acceptable for bondage / sexual play. There should also be a safe word that can be said if either of you want to stop the play at any time for any reason. Consent is sexy – make sure you get it.
1. Yes Sir, Yes Mistress
Bondage doesn’t have to have anything to do with restraint and can simply include the following of orders. Oftentimes, being told what to do in a sexual situation is VERY arousing. Having your partner direct all the play, such as, “Get on your knees and open your mouth,” or “Get on the bed on all fours and spread your legs for me.” Imagine the possibilities! You can direct your partner to assume different positions, or to engage in certain actions. This is a great way to get into bondage play without actual restraint.
2. Basic Blindfolding
It is untrue that bondage specifically means “tying up.” Bondage is any impairment of movement or senses. This includes sight. For some couples, the very first BDSM-type activity is being blindfolded. This alone can bring any sexual play to a level. When you take away someone sense of sight it leaves them to guess what is going to happen next, and that anticipation is VERY arousing. Give it a try!3. Sensory Deprivation
Going along the same vein, the next step is to take away your partner’s sense of hearing. IF you cannot SEE what is going to happen, nor HEAR where your partner is, this will bring all the other senses to a much-heightened state. This is extremely erotic. So, combine the basic blindfold with some earphones playing any type of music, and then stimulate your partner while they are sensory impaired.
4. Take Control
If you want to find out if your partner would be receptive to being tied and played with you can tell him / her to STAY! Put them on the bed in a position that you like and then tell them not to move. Experiment with different sensations – feathers, ice, heat – or bring little vibrators or bullets to the play. All while they are made to stay put. If this appeals to you both, then move on to some light restraint play.
5. Staying Spread
Personally, this is one of my most favorite basic bondage situations. When my legs are tied in such a way that they are spread wide open. The feeling of vulnerability is absolutely intoxicating! Having my genitals open and exposed for my partner, allowing him to touch me, lick me, stroke me, or use sex toys on my all while I am helpless to close my legs is an amazingly intimate experience.
6. Spank 'Em
I told you earlier that bondage is not all about tying, but also about certain activities during differing levels of restraint. Spanking is a very mild way to experiment with the more Dominant and submissive levels of BDSM play. Many women (and yes, men) love to be spanked. Specifically, put over one’s knees and spanked. While this is not for everyone, it is definitely an experience many enjoy thoroughly.
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7. Helping Hands
8. Take It To The Table
It is nice to take bondage play out of the bedroom, especially since there are many places in the home where a sexy submissive can be tied down. An obvious place has got to be the kitchen table. A person has 4 limbs and a table has 4 legs – you do the math. Not to mention being restrained in the kitchen offers up a whole host of activities such as play with ice or food. Plus, kitchen utensils (like a spatula) can make for sexy fun too if you are creative enough.
9. Full Restraints
If your partner decides that they like having parts of their body restrained then it may be time to try a more thorough restraining system, such as an under the bed restraint system. These easy to use restraints have adjustable cuffs for both hand AND feet. You can restrain the entire body with just a click and pull of the cuffs and tether system. Imagine having your helpless partner tied down to the bed just waiting to be tantalized and teased. If that turns you on, this is something you should experiment with.
My husband and I just started enjoying Bondage. I never really paid attention to that lifestyle because it didn’t interest me, or so I thought. I am not uptight and like to keep things a little dangerous but I never even looked at the “bondage” category when looking at porn, I watch some pretty crazy stuff but bondage wasn’t appealing to me. But I did have this fantasy about being caught off guard, not able to see who my “admirer” was and they would take full control over my body and senses, making love to me forcefully but lovingly. (Maybe I was more naive than I knew). The fantasy I had and many aspects of Bondage go hand in hand. I pictured black rubber, dark dungeons, whips and chains when bondage was mentioned. Even though I sold plenty of bondage products, it was always the innocent blindfolds, warming products, candles, etc. I had mentioned my fantasies to my husband many times over the 20 years we had been together. We had done a lot of out of the box things, but he never seemed interested in my desires. We almost ended our marriage last year, and when we decided to give it one more try we went on a camping trip. We opened up and talked and drank a LOT of wine. He was finally starting to loosen up. Then one night I couldn’t find him and when I did he handed me an outfit he put together from clothes I had packed. Cut offs and a blouse with tall boots. Confused but super excited to follow his “completely out of character” orders, I put the outfit on looking like a super cute but slutty farmers daughter, I was beyond turned on and could barely keep it together. I was the controlling personality in our real life and he was very passive aggressive so seeing him demand and control was a major turn on. I was blindfolded and let to a spot where I sensed bright lights and I could hear chains rattling. I did what I was told and I could feel bark on my back as my hands were being tied to something suspending them over my head. Feet still on the ground, he spread my legs apart and tied them also. I was tied to a tree in and upside down Y position from what I could tell, and I liked it. The anticipation alone could have made me cum. Now, keep in mind we were camping at a very busy campground so not many places were private. I could only imagine how many people had to be watching but that just made it even more exciting. He had set up a mobile movie studio with his iPhone and headlamps, recording the whole event so I could watch and enjoy it again. He removed my blindfold eventually and he did everything just the way I had fantasized all this years. I’m pretty sure there were spectators, but in the moment, that didn’t matter. I was all in and allowed him to just do whatever and however he wanted. And he did it ALL. That led into bigger ideas an better movies and he gained more self confidence that I could have ever hoped for. He loved the idea of me being tied up and presenting slight pain to me during my most vulnerable state. I was euphoric not being in control for once and seeing his manliness taking over. The bondage part of our sex life has grown and only gotten better. It has allowed us to learn to trust and depend on each other again. He blindfolds me, ties my legs and arms and uses things to touch me that create intense anticipation for me, not knowing what the hell it is touching my skin or how much it might hurt (which he has never hurt me yet) . He even lit a torch beside me, I could hear it and knew what it was, but he obviously didn’t use it, just teased and scared me to a point of sheer loss of control on my end. We are excited to be together again and making lots of movies in the most unusual places. lol.
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