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The Importance Of Oral Sex

Posted by Mikayla to Men's Issues
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I have written a few articles on the importance of sex in a relationship.  How it brings intimacy, closeness, sustains the sexual side of the relationship and helps to relieve stress while having fun!  While for many oral sex IS a part of a sexual experience, for some it is not always.  In fact, for some, oral sex happens rarely, if ever.  There are various reasons for this lack of oral participation, some are just ridiculous excuses and some are quite valid; but the truth is, oral is an important part of sex.  Why?  Why is THIS activity important, especially if you are having “regular” intercourse?  Read on.


Oral sex usually falls under the larger purview of “foreplay” as it usually happens “before” sexual intercourse.  Although, personally, I like to switch back and forth between sex, oral sex and other activities including anal sex.  Oral sex is usually one of the first activities most couples engage in – ever – in a relationship.  Then, they move into sex.  Sometime after the relationship has become established, oral sex seems to fall by the wayside.  It is no longer – or rarely – the gateway into other sexual activity.  Why?  Various reasons such as less Woman receiving oral sextime for sex, less motivation, downright laziness.  Yes, there are many reasons why.  However, oral sex offers a kind of foreplay that is extremely direct, intimate (even more than intercourse) and gets both partners raring to go!  A little oral sex can go a long, long way – and it can lead to more amazing and connected sex!  Furthermore, moving from oral to sex and back to oral means you have longer play and MORE orgasms (well, for the woman anyway).  Doesn’t that sound wonderfully fun?

The Importance Of Sex


As mentioned above, oral sex used was used to “prime the pump” for sex.  That is, get you all ready to do the deed!  As we age, this may be more of a need than an option.  Men, especially, have more difficulties getting or maintaining an erection at times and women lose libido as they age.  Adding oral sex to pre-sex activities can do wonders for both of you as far as sex and preparedness goes.  In fact, in a recent poll most partners confessed that they would rather have much more oral than penetrative sex!  So, the stats are in, people want more oral!


Upwards of 85% of all women NEED clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm.  The most effective way to deliver that stimulation is during oral sex!  Not to mention giving her an orgasm or two before sex will lubricate her and make her more eager and ready for intercourse.  Also, giving oral sex and providing orgasms to your partner should excite you and make YOU ready for sexual penetration.  Performing oral on your woman is a win-win-win situation!  There really is no reason not to do it!


Not only do women benefit from oral sex, but so do men.  Not only do men LOVE a good blowjob, but they also get very excited and erect during them (usually.)  Especially as men age the benefit of a pre-coital BJ increases.  As a man ages, sometimes the strength and longevity of his erection weans.  This means that a BJ pre-sex can help to get him all ready to go!  Plus, many women shirk their duties when it comes to giving oral (for many different reasons) and giving more oral sex is a great way to show your guy that you care about his pleasure, too.  If you want to get, then you also have to give!

Do You Love To Give Or Receive Oral?
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Date 11/10/2015
Either ;) I love to satisfy him and I love it when he pleasures me. I want to get into 69ing, but it's so distracting and hard to focus on hiM!
Date 11/10/2015
Jon D
of course i love to get it, but I love to give it even more. giving her pleasure is just do damn amazing. i love the way she tastes and smells.
Date 11/10/2015
Recieve def. bc its so hard to give! plus it feels good for me.
Date 11/10/2015
honestly im not too crazy about getting oral, i just like other things more, so i guess im a giver
Date 11/10/2015
joshua a
Date 11/10/2015
Oral is superior! I love giving him a bj but he isn't vocal at all and I am never sure if I am getting it right. We've talked about it, he says he's never been vocal. I only know for sure when he pulls away so he can penetrate. Am working on him, trying to get him to give off some cues.
Date 11/18/2015
Ms. Q.
I love giving him a bj stand up 69 is awesome!!! Love when he goes down on me also. Licking his booty out is awesome also
Date 3/9/2016
Lee G.
I love to receive. I also like to give because I feel that it is a power thing. I love feeling that power of being able to turn him on and giving him pleasure. But if I had to pick one, I would rather receive. I'm submissive so I like him to tell me what to do. My current guy is a definite giver and rarely asks for it. Sometimes I offer and he declines. He says he feels better inside me and prefers to give me oral and get me ready so he can get in there. It works well for both of us that way. Oral is so important! I like to wake my guy up with oral in the morning and I love love love it when he does that for me. That is the best way to wake up in the morning! So yeah i'm in agreement with this. Such a great article. I love this site! :)
Date 1/25/2018
Michelle C
We are in our 70s and it's a give and receive oral sex. I knew nothing about it in my younger years. I was told only whores gave blow jobs. Boy have I learned a lot late in life and am totally enjoying it. I have read articles on how to give a better blow job and my bf is impressed. I love making him feel very satisfied. I never really had orgasms when I was younger but now I even have squirting orgasms. I will sometimes have them during foreplay, oral sex, or intercourse. Ladies and gents, your sex life can only get better with age if you want it to.

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