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Making Love Vs. Fucking

Posted by Mikayla to General / Misc Info

Ah, a sex question that is asked over and over with little resolution – is there a difference between fucking and making love?  The easy answer is:  yes.  The honest answer is:  it depends.  The complicated answer is:  it depends on the partner and the feelings involved.  Wow.  I just managed to overcomplicate a question in an effort to truly answer it.  The truth is, it takes more than a few sentences to answer this question.  So, let’s delve in, shall we?

DEFINITION - FUCKING
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For most people, “fucking” connotes sex with some sort of vigor, aggression, or lack of emotion.  However, the word itself is simply a more vulgar word for “sex.”  Over the years, fucking has become synonymous for “sex without love.”  I tend to utterly disagree, but we will get to that later.  Let’s move on.

DEFINITION – MAKING LOVE
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For the same people who define fucking as “sex without love,” making love is defined as “sex with love.”  Hence the name:  MAKING love.  This is the more traditional, and yes, Christian term for sex.  It is the gentler version and is seen as sweet and romantic and, well, loving.  Think missionary style.

So, can fucking ever be making love or can making love be fucking?  YES!  YES!  I SAY YES!!

The Best Sex Positions For Lovemaking


FUCKING FOR FUCK’S SAKE
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OK, so, let’s start with the simplest understanding of fucking.  If you meet some woman at the bar, you both get drunk together and end up in the car fumbling to get clothing off, stumbling through sex, barely even talking and then she makes the walk of shame back to her car, which she can’t remember the color of – THAT is fucking.  No love.  No caring.  No feelings.  Just sex.  Dirty, no-name, no-muss-no-fuss sex.  Fucking.  Never would that be making love in anyone’s definition.  Agreed?

MAKE LOVE NOT FUCK
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Now, the reverse of this could be described as “the sex your parent’s have” or that sex where you stare longingly into your lover’s eyes, whisper “I love you” while you slowly slide into them, never ceasing to look at them, missionary style sex with connection, followed by a “nice” orgasm and lots of cuddling after.  In other words, passionate filled sex.

Does this mean that “making love” is boring sex and “fucking” is exciting?  NO!  NO!  NO!


FUCK WHO YOU LOVE AND LOVE WHO YOU FUCK
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I am a firm believer that if you are having sex with someone whom you care about, you can FUCK them or you can MAKE LOVE to them and you can go flawlessly in between!  That the “love” between you is always present in the act of sex, even if you are slamming into her calling her a dirty little whore!

Imagine this scenario:  you and your long-term boyfriend go away for a romantic weekend at a lovely hotel.  You drink some wine and decide to take a nice bath together.  You soak together, lathering each other up, talking about how much you love one another and things transition into a nice, slow session of sex.  Making love, right?  Sure.  OK.  So, let’s say later this same night, you look across the room and see your girlfriend in the sexy lingerie she packed for the occasion.  You go over to her, grab her forcefully and whisper, “I want to fuck you so badly” into her ear.  What follows is very acrobatic sex that runs the gamut from oral to anal and everything in between!  When it is over, both sweaty and tired, you cuddle and fall asleep in each other’s arms, whispering “I love you” before you fall asleep.  Fucking.  Definitely fucking.  Yet, still making love too, right?  Come on!  You see it don’t you?

So what is the moral here?  You CAN fuck someone who you love, and fucking can also be making love.  Got it?

So, then, can you make love to someone who you do not love?  Eh, I would submit no.  The definition in and of itself connotes that LOVE is part of the deal.  So, you have to at least have some super strong feelings for them in order to transition from sex to the upgraded making love.

Then this means that the actual difference between making love and fucking is the TYPE of sex you are having, right?  Yes and no.  If you are in love with your partner, then you can have the roughest, raunchiest, down-and-dirtiest sex ever and it can still fall under the “making love” umbrella of definition.  However, the reverse is not necessarily true.  If you do not love your partner, but are just having indiscriminate sex – think booty call – then this would NOT be considered making love, as much as the woman wants to label it as such!  You know who you are!

Now then, are we all clear?  Thought so.  Good.  Now go and get your fuck on – or make love – or have sex!  Just go do something fun with someone!




Love-Making Or Fucking?
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Comments

Date 3/1/2016
Jay
depends. if we have lots of time i like to take my time with her and make love, but if were busy and just trying to squeeze in time together a good fuck does the trick
Date 3/1/2016
kate
making love--feels much nicer and more intimate
Date 3/1/2016
Martha Brown
Sometimes I need a little romance and sometimes I just need a quick fucking ;)
Date 3/1/2016
Ron F.
fucking. more positions. more intense.
Date 3/1/2016
LazyDaisy
Either 1. I <3 my husband and it doesn't matter it just depends on our mood.
Date 3/1/2016
PARKS
MAKE LOVE
Date 7/26/2016
Mike
Some times I need to just fuck my wife good and hard other times take it slow or use toys as well

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