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How do women like their clits rubbed? - How to rub a woman's clit!

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Question:

"Mikayla, I am a 26 year old single man who has been with many women.  If I have learned one thing, it's that women like their clit rubbed.  The problem is...every woman I've been with likes to be rubbed different ways!  Side to side, up and down, circles...I had no idea there were so many different ways!  How does a woman really like her clit to be rubbed?!  (With my tongue OR my fingers)"

Mikayla:

Dear Clitoris Rubbing 101:

The answer to your question, “how does a woman really like her clit to be rubbed” is *drum roll please* - how SHE likes it rubbed!  I know it can be frustrating to think you have found the magic way to please all women just to find out that your new partner likes it more slowly than your last one, or that she prefers you 
Intimate Couplesuck instead of lick her clitoris – but the truth is, all women are different and we like different touches.  Also, sorry to inform you, sometimes it changes!  Yup.  I may want that fast and furious pace one day – but desire a really slow, delicate touch another.  It depends on my mood, how receptive my partner is, what is going on besides the clitoral attention.  Yup.  Sorry to say, the answer is not a simple one.

I love the fact that you want to please your partner by finding the best way to finger or orally stimulate her.  However, is not finding out what makes your girl’s pussy purrrrr part of the fun of a new relationship?  Exploring her body, seeing what touches send her over the moon or hitting that spot just right and getting that response you have been waiting for!  Playing with a woman’s clitoris is wild fun – and, it is even more fun to find all her hot buttons!  If you are wondering about your new partner, there are some more direct ways to figure out the clitoral roadmap.  You could ask her to finger herself either as a session of mutual masturbation or during sex.  Pay attention to WHERE she rubs, how she rubs, in circles or AROUND the clit, slow or fast, up and down or side to side.  Does she move her fingers around her clit or does she go for the clit fast and furious?  Watch her and you will find out what SHE likes because we women know how to pleasure ourselves!

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You could also take the questioning route.  Ask her in mid-play, does this feel good baby?” or “do you want me to touch you faster or slower honey?”  Get her involved in the process and maybe it will help you to understand what she likes or doesn’t like.  She will appreciate the fact that you want to please her, and will be more than willing to help you out.  If your girl is not very verbal, than watch for the clues and cues.  I am confident you already do this, as you mentioned all the ways your previous partners have liked themselves pleasured –so keep doing it!  Just have fun and enjoy playing with her.  The reward is there and finding it is most of the fun!

I should also mention, just as a matter of course, that not all men are created equal with regard to blowjobs.  We women have to figure out what our man likes as to stroking, licking or blowing.  It is thrilling to hear that “gasp” when I know I have found the right pressure, speed or special spot that will have him grabbing for the sheets!  The message here is the same for men and women alike:  enjoy each other, play, have fun, pay attention to your partner and when you find something that your partner REALLY likes store it away in the “must do again” drawer so that you can pull that special move out whenever you want.  While I do sometimes wish there were classes that taught how to please a man or a woman perfectly every time – there simply is not.  Experience is the best teacher in this situation – and the experience should always be a fun and wild ride!


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Comments

Date 8/25/2013
Curiosity killed the virgin
Mikayla, I'm a 22-year-old virgin. I haven't even kissed anyone yet. All the men I've been interested in have eventually told me they've "been around the block." My question is: how is sex the first time? I've heard it's painful and you bleed. Also, what are the best positions/activities to do with a partner? How do you communicate this to someone more experienced?
Date 9/12/2016
JJ
My wife loves it when rub her clit with my little finger. After some good foreplay and nipple play, I go down and lick and suck her clit. It drives her wild! Then she's ready for the finale! We us a vibrating rabbit cock ring to bring her to climax, getting her right on her clit. And when she's satisfied then she takes care of me in whatever position I need.
Date 9/12/2016
JJ
My wife loves it when rub her clit with my little finger. After some good foreplay and nipple play, I go down and lick and suck her clit. It drives her wild! Then she's ready for the finale! We us a vibrating rabbit cock ring to bring her to climax, getting her right on her clit. And when she's satisfied then she takes care of me in whatever position I need.

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