Have you ever had a guy take naked pictures of you “for memory sake?” What about a movie, you know, your own “personal porn?” You may be surprised to know that having indecent pictures or movies is a very common admittance for many people. You also may be wondering WHY someone would videotape themselves having sex. The answer is simple: if it is exciting and arousing to watch OTHER people having sex, imagine how sexy it would be to watch YOURSELF having it? Think about it, do you know how you look doing the nasty? Do you have some sexy moves you would like to see? Well, the easiest way to do this is to tape your sexcapades. Are you feeling…..enticed? I’ll bet you are! So, now that you have decided to tape your sexcapades, I’ll bet you are wondering how to do it? Does one “act” or just do the deed? Do you wear costumes, make-up, lingerie? What about talking – is dirty talk necessary? What type of equipment does it take to tape yourself? All these questions will be answered as well as some basic ideas and advice.
GET YOUR TECHNO FREAK ON
Depending on what medium you decide on (video or picture) the technology will vary. Let’s begin with pictures. In this age of digital pictures, it is clearly the only way to go. First, because you surely do not want the clerk at Walgreens to see your naked butt plastered all over your films. Second, because if that clerk sees naked you – he or she will not develop your film- or they will turn it over to the police! So, ditch the film and go digital baby! Hopefully you have a digital camera already – but if you do not, be prepared for an investment. The average, decent digital camera with the basic features will run you about $300. However, for this price you can get the assurance that the only pictures that make it to print are the ones that YOU print out! Keep in mind if you do not have a printer that will print such pictures, you can only view them on the screen. However, this can be just as exciting and very “in the moment.” Now, if you are more interested in porno over Playboy, you can opt for the videography route. For many people this can be an intimidating prospect. However, for many others it becomes the beginning of a hot, steamy night of sex! There is fun in the making of the film as well as fun in the watching! So, if you are interested you have to have the right gear. There are hundreds of different video cameras available – from the very basic to the very advanced. You do not need the highest tech ones on the market, but I would suggest you look for a few basic features. First, make sure that it tapes onto digital disk or onto mini-tape. If you can afford it, digital disk is the way to go. Why? Well, you can pop the disk right out of the camera and right into your DVD player! Very easy! Second, make sure you can see the action on a pull out screen. This will make it easier for you to set up where you will put the camera. If you can see the “frame” in the screen you will ensure that you get all the action. Third, make sure you can zoom – cause sometimes a close-up is needed. Fourth, try to get “image stabilization” which eliminates the shaky appearance of the video if you have movement of the camera – hence, if the floor is “rocking” due to your sex action, then the picture will still stay firm. Fifth, make sure the camera tapes well in dim lighting. Unless you want the full porno experience – complete with blaring lights – make sure the camera tapes well in all light sources. If you have these basic features you should come out with a good film – and anything else is gravy. Of course you can always go lower tech and just get the basic of all basic features. It really depends on what your expectations are for this camera, if you are going to use it for other things you may just want to make the investment. A good, quality video camera will likely cost around $400 - $500, but you can use it for more than just personal porn!
I’M READY FOR MY CLOSE UP
So, you have decided to make your personal porn, do you wear costumes? What about make-up? Lingerie? Sexy shoes? Well, the answer to this is: it is all up to you. My personal preference for home movies of this genre is to make it fun and interesting. This means some sort of role playing, costumes, and something else before the sex. What my hubby and I found to be especially exciting was playing “amateur photographer.” He would pretend to be a photographer and I his willing model. We would begin with the camera and clothes on – and end with the video camera and clothes off! This is not necessary – of course – but it can really add a sense of imagination and whimsy (yes, I said it) to your appearance on camera. Assuming and alter identity helps many couples explore new avenues when it comes to sex – and it doesn’t even have to be on camera. Role playing allows both persons to become someone else – someone different. In this manner, inhibitions can be lost and the fun can truly begin. So, if you are thinking of making your own movie, try to step things up with a little role playing fun. Also, keep in mind that the camera is unforgiving. If you have stretch marks – they will appear. If you think you need to lose 10 pounds – prepare to feel like it is now 20! The camera captures what is there, and if you are expecting to look like a porno princess – forget it! Professional films are retouched and carefully shot – so even if they had “normal people flaws” they would not appear on film! You will be YOU – in all your glory! The appeal of your home video is that it is YOU on film and not an actor – that alone is worth the time and effort.
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TALK THE TALK AND WALK THE WALK
What, exactly, does one SAY on a personal porn video? If you are normally not a dirty talker, should you step it up for the film and say the nasty things that always come into your brain? The easy answer is again: it is your personal preference. I am a big believer in doing what you want based on how the mood strikes you. If you are in the moment and you decide to cry out in pleasure – then DO IT! Do not let this be the time that you feel censored – try to be yourself only….sexier! Remember, you are going to watch this tape (presumably) and you want to be talking the talk, so to speak. Now, if you are extremely uncomfortable with the dirty talk – so much so that you call your vagina a “va-jay-jay” or a penis the “little man” then you clearly have no business dirty talking on tape. It will come out forced and sound stupid. It also might be embarrassing for you to watch yourself being blatantly sexual. So the decision is really yours – talk dirty or not – but be true to yourself. Perhaps after watching the video you will feel more sexually charged and the next film will bear all your dirtiest thoughts!
AND THE AVN GOES TO
There is something naughty about filming yourself having sex. Would it be even naughtier to film yourself doing something you never do – such as anal sex? The jury is still out on this one as well, and is, of course, one of those “do what you want” type answers. As you are undoubtedly aware, porno stars tape every type of sexual encounter – anal, toys, threesomes, oral – you name it, it is probably on film somewhere. So, if you are role playing and feel the moment strike you then go for it, but I would stress the importance of being prepared for all things. For example, if you are in the moment and feeling especially daring and decide anal sex would be a good twist for your film – then go for it – as long as you are prepared. This means – use lubrication, make sure both partners are up for it and willing to spend the time to make it enjoyable. Keep in mind that first time experiences with anal sex are not always super enjoyable – and can be tense – so you may want to reconsider documenting that on film. Sometimes going with the moment can work out fantastic – and other times it can serve as a reminder of a bad experience. However, if you want to take this opportunity to step outside your comfort zone (as if taping yourself isn’t enough) then try to do something different at least. Allow yourself to change positions, keep on your bra for that sexy look, use sex toys, peer into the camera while you are climaxing so you can see how you look, give your man some extra special oral attention – whatever you do – just do it with verve! Pretend you are up for the amateur AVN award and give your very best performance – while staying true to yourself and staying within your comfort zone!
SHARING AND VIEWING
Once your porno masterpiece has been recorded – watch it! You can learn so much about yourself and your partner by watching your facial expressions! See what really gets him going when you are down between his legs, learn what techniques get her to bite her lip! This is really a study in sexuality – your own sexuality! My last bit of advice is to make sure you keep close eyes on your masterpiece! You would not want your mother in law to inadvertently watch your sexcapades – or even worse – YOUR KIDS! This is for your and your honey only (unless you are daring enough to share with other adult friends) and you should keep it labeled so you do not have an embarrassing moment of confusion. Some people prefer to erase their films for the sake of safety – this may be a good idea – then you just tape a new one later. Always remember that you need consent to tape anyone – especially when it is sexual in nature- so before you decide to go incognito with your camera – ask your partner’s permission! This is a consensual, adult activity! I hope that this short article inspires some of you to tape your next night of fun – it just might be the beginning of bigger and better things in the bedroom! Remember to stay within your comfort zone, be prepared for all things, try to be sexy and seductive while not going too far out of character – and always have F U N!
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