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How He Can Get What He Wants In Bed

Posted by Mikayla to Men's Issues
Are you a man who is feeling a little less than satisfied in the bedroom?  Do you wish that she would just once give you that long, dirty, naughty sex session that you have been begging her for?  Do you feel like she just doesn’t care about your sexual wish list?  Do you want to know how to get what you want in bed?  Of course you do!  So, read on and find some helpful hints to getting everything you ever wanted between the sheets!

BE A GIVER:  I know that this is an article about how to GET what YOU want in bed and the first thing on the to-do lists is to GIVE.  Confused?  Listen,  this is very simple:  if you pleasure your woman without any regard to your own satisfaction, she will definitely want to please you as much as she possibly can!  Your selfless giving of oral sex, your willingness to allow her to have as much foreplay as she wants, your undying attention to her erogenous zones – all of this does NOT go unnoticed!  how_he_can_get_what_he_wants_in_bedWomen notice these things and when they notice them, they want to make sure that you will keep doing those things and to do that they know they have to give YOU what YOU want too!  Make sense?  Got it?  Good.  Be a giver, dude.

BE REALISTIC:  If what you want in bed is for your girlfriend to invite 4 of her besties into the bedroom and have a giant orgy with you front and center – well, it probably isn’t gonna happen.  There are some things that you may want that may just have to be left for your dreams.  Be realistic in what you want in the bedroom.  This does not mean that your fantasy of having a threesome is off the table – it can be ON the table as a possibility.  However, you have to be realistic about whether you are actually going to get this.  Don’t ever think that pushing your partner to do or try things that she is adamantly against is going to work in your favor – it won’t.  Just be realistic and ask for the things you really want.

BE HONEST:  If you are unsatisfied in bed – be honest!  Tell her in a very gentle way so that she knows what she can do to make things better for the both of you.  Have a conversation outside of the bedroom where you both tell each other what you want, need or want to try in the bedroom.  If you find her blowjobs to be a little more pain than pleasure – TELL HER!  If she never gets on top and you would like her to take the lead every so often – TELL HER.  Women are not mind readers and we do not always know that you are unsatisfied.  So, if you are, tell her.  Just remember to be gentle and loving and patient and make sure she feels like she is important and valued.

BE COMPLIMENTARY:  Women thrive on compliments.  We like to be told we are sexy, beautiful, hot – what have you.  We really do want to keep doing those things in bed that you LOVE.  So, if she is giving you a great BJ and she does a move that you love – TELL HER!  Tell her right then, “oh baby, that move you do with your hands on my shaft is amazing and feels SO good!”  She will take a mental note of that and want to repeat the motion.  So, you get what you want (more of that killer BJ move) and she feels like a sex goddess between your legs!  This goes with anything she does that you like and want more of.  She is on top – tell her how sexy she is up there!  You are doing it doggy – tell her that her ass is amazing.  Trust me, it works!

BE PATIENT AND UNDERSTANDING:  OK so you really want to have anal sex.  You know your partner doesn’t really want to try that, but you still do.  You can’t get the idea out of your head.  It is something you really want to do.  How can you get her to do it?  Well, the truth is, you may not be able to.  Some activities may just be impossible or unappealing to your partner.  Or, they may scare her a bit.  Using anal sex only as an example, if this is what you want then you have to be patient.  You have to explain to her why you want it, how you think it will please you AND her, and you have to be patient in having her try it.  Furthermore, if she does try it and doesn’t like it, you have to be understanding about it.  If you are, she is more likely to try the desired activity at a later date!  Nothing good ever comes of being pushy – be patient and understanding and you have a much greater chance for sexual success!

How Do You Get What You Want In Bed?

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Date 8/31/2015
Micheal Vance
It works good if I just tell her what I want to try and get her warmed up to the idea. She's pretty understanding and we like to fill fantasies for eachother.
Date 8/31/2015
My babe is so open minded we have such a good sex life
Date 9/1/2015
Love it!!!
Date 9/1/2015
Sammy m
i have some fantasies that she has been nervous about trying in the past but i think if i try hers then she will want to try mine
Date 9/3/2015
boy boy
i told her i would love to do a naughty nurse fantasy some day and a few mights later she surprised me with a sexy costume :)
Date 9/3/2015
she loves sucking my dick for a long time if im talking to her and telling her how good it feels and moaning. it works!
Date 11/3/2015
Read Too Timid's advice on lightly licking or sucking the skin on his balls. My partner says not very many women even know about it. I call it a sophisticated addition to giving head. Curls his toes.

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