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Female Masturbation Information

Posted by TooTimid Staff to Women's Issues
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Here is a place where you can get some general information on female masturbation tips, techniques and toys.

Men are not the only ones who masturbate!  In fact, many women can only orgasm through manual stimulation.  So to assist women everywhere, here are some tips to help you.  Now if you have a tip or technique, share it with all of us!

Clitoral Stimulation

Using Hands and Fingers this involves rubbing, stroking and pinching of the clitoris with your finger(s) or the palm of your hand.  Sometimes direct stimulation of the clitoris too intense, and you may prefer stimulation near or around the clitoris more pleasurable.  Or try a layer of clothing or fabric between the hand and clit. Look here for some clitoral stimulation toys.

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Have your fingers from one hand playing with your clitoris, stimulating it however you wish.  Take the other hand and place two or three fingers inside your vagina and begin thrusting.  You will be simulating intercourse with this action and it works well with the clitoral stimulation.  View dual action vibrators here.

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Finger Stimulation

Palm & Fingers:  Rub with the palm of one hand on the clitoris and fingers from other hand inside your vagina.

Finger Roll:  Rub your clitoris between the index finger and thumb.  You can start off with a slow gentle roll and then gradually pick up the pace and the pressure according to what feels good to you.

Lubricated Rub:  Lubricate your vulva with baby oil and rub your clit with two fingers until it gets hard.  Use a dildo in your vagina.

Left & Right:  The middle finger of your right hand rubs your clit.  Then start rubbing just to the right of your clit, then quickly move to the left side.  (One side of your clit is usually more sensitive than the other.)  Most of the rubbing will take place on your more sensitive side.  Your left hand is holding the wrist of your right hand.  Lie on your back with your legs spread or raise your knees to your head.

Tickle:  Lie on your back with your legs as tightly together as possible.  Tickle your clitoris with one finger kind of bent very lightly.

How To Masturbate Using Only Your Fingers

Thigh Squeeze

There are women out there who can achieve orgasm by simply squeezing or rubbing their thighs together.  This stimulates the clitoris indirectly.  It would be a great skill to have, then if you were out in public and found yourself getting horny you could just take care of it by squeezing your thighs together, unbeknownst to all others!

This technique will take a bit of practice to get it down to a fine art, but that’s half the fun of learning new stuff is the practice.  When you masturbate at home, make it a habit to press your thighs together when you have an orgasm.  After you’ve done this a few times it will become second nature to you.  Once you’ve mastered this then try pressing your thighs together when you’re ready to orgasm and won’t be able to stop it but haven’t actually climaxed yet.  Take your hands away and leave it to your legs to ride yourself over the top.  It will be tough to get this to work right away, but with persistence the results will soon come along.  Soon enough, with some erotic thoughts, you should be able to proceed only using your thighs from earlier and earlier during masturbation.  When you have got this down, we would like to hear from you!

Water Masturbation

Water can be great way to masturbate.  There are many ways you can experiment.  If you would like to bring in a massage to the tub or shower with you, you can view the waterproof massagers.  Important:  Avoid sending strong streams of water directly into your vagina.  This can be potentially very dangerous.

Steady Spray:  During the shower find a steady spray and push your vagina forward so the spray hits your clitoris.

Detach Showerhead:  Using a plastic showerhead that attaches onto the tub faucet, detach showerhead from the hose and send steady water stream onto the clitoris.  Try covering the hose so the water intensity changes.  You can pick whether it pulses or comes out in a steady spray.  There are many options.  You’ll have to experiment with them to see what works best for you.

Jacuzzi Jive:  If you’re lucky, you will have private access to a Jacuzzi and you’ll be able to take advantage of the water flow from the jets!  This is one to be careful with since the flow of water from the jets has considerably more pressure behind it than that from the shower or bathtub.  My recommendation is to start a fair distance back from the jets and then move yourself closer to find the pressure level that works for you.  All you need to do is position yourself so that the water flow lands directly on your vagina and clitoris.  Once you’ve found the right spot let yourself go and enjoy the warm water and indulge in a little fantasy.

Faucet Scooch:  Lie on your back with legs spread far apart then scooch down to position yourself under the flow of water from the tub faucet.

Faucet Spray:  Spray the water from the tub faucet by covering the faucet with your thumb or fingers and spray the water on to your clitoris.

Pillows & Furniture

Lie on your stomach and move against some object to stimulate the clitoris.  Rubbing against the corner of a piece of furniture might do the trick:

Ottoman Plane:  Balance yourself on a corner of the ottoman and rub your clit on the corner and periodically lift your hands and my feet off the ground.  This gives you the feeling of flying when you cum.

Pillow Ride:  Riding on a pillow, the end of the pillow twisted into a hard knot and pressed against your clit.


Vibrators are used primarily for clitoral stimulation, although many women also use these electric or battery-powered toys for vaginal or anal stimulation.  They can be combined with different toys and used in any number of positions.  Whatever vibrator you have it is important to remember that these things are powerful and need getting used to before you can just power it up and power yourself off.  You probably will not want to position the vibrator right on the clitoris straight away.  The stimulation is so strong it's often sufficient to move the vibrator around the outside of the vagina, on the labia or over your mound of Venus.  You can also position it on the part of the labia directly above the clitoris without parting your outer lips as that gives powerful stimulation but without baring your clitoris to direct action.  You can even enjoy the vibrator through clothing if you're in a hurry!  Again, find what works for you, and move the vibrator around as you need more or less stimulation.

If you opt for a massager there are two main types available:  the wand type and the coil type.  Wand types are like over sized microphones and have a padded ball head that delivers the vibration.  They usually offer 2 speeds of stimulation.  Coil types are more like small hair dryers or hammers in shape.  They often have a selection of clip on heads of different shapes and textures that add variety to the sensation they provide.  Two speeds are also the norm but some only have one and a heat pad setting.  The advantages of both types:  Coil types have fun heads to swap and try and are quieter in use (good if you want to keep your play secret).  Wand types are more powerful and, I find, easier and more comfortable to hold in place.

Direct Vibration:  Try lying in bed with sexy music, rubbing your body with scented oil, fingering your nipples and using the vibrator directly on your clit.

Butt Whack:  Lie on top of your vibrator while whacking yourself on the butt.

Penetration:  Try vaginal penetration with firm, fast strokes, and have the other hand play with your nipples.

G-Spot Manipulation:  Inserting a vibrator or dildo into the vagina can help locate and stimulate your G-Spot and offers a feeling of fullness in the vagina.  Try this independently or with clitoral and/or anal stimulation.  You can locate your G-spot with your fingers, but it's difficult to provide adequate stimulation through manual masturbation.  Women who enjoy this method usually use toys.  The G-Spot is found about 3 inches on the top of the inside vaginal wall.  I.e.:  the wall behind the pubic hair.  See G-Spot Vibrators.

Depending on you mood you may not always cum from the same kinds of stimulation, but you can still enjoy the feelings they induce.  Try to ignore the performance and just enjoy the sensations.

Guide To Finding Your G-Spot

Anal Stimulation

The anus is quite sensitive to touch.  Many women enjoy stimulation of this area during masturbation or partner sex play.  You can experiment with your fingers or anal toys either by themselves or with clitoral or vaginal stimulation.

Some Toys To Check Out:
Renegade Anal Trainer Kit
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Double Duo:  Push a lubricated dildo in and out of your anus with one hand, and either rub your clitoris or use a vibrator on your clitoris with the other hand.

Here is a Double Duo Toy:
Over And Under Bendable Dildo


A dildo can take on many different shapes and sizes.  A dildo is a sexual toy that is many things to many women.  For men, a dildo can offer stimulation of the prostate -a sensation similar to orgasm- when used anally.  Both hetero- and homosexual men use dildos for self-pleasure and with their partners.  Dildos are a completely different form of penetration.  They allow the person being penetrated to be in complete control of the range, speed and type of motion as well as the angle of penetration.  Dildos have many benefits, only one of which is the pleasure of stimulating the vagina or anus.  This section is designed to illustrate the various intriguing aspects of dildos.  A good dildo will provide you with hours of entertainment for when you’re going solo or even when you’ve got a partner to play with.  It’s well worth the money to spend and get a good one that’s going to last for a long time. Go look at dildos

How do I know what size dildo to purchase?

If you have never purchased a dildo before, it is worth to understand a few things.  First don't believe that bigger is always better.  You many enjoy one that is long and thin or short and fat.  It should be kept in mind that narrower shafts are easier to insert and allow faster stroking, whereas thicker ones take more inserting and are usually harder to work in and out, though they do give a pleasant 'stuffed' sensation.  Unless you can afford a selection, be realistic in deciding what you need and what you can handle.

What is a Silicone Dildo?

Silicone is considered to be the highest quality material, albeit the most expensive.  The Silicone is the smoothest and most flexible of all materials.  Silicone dildos are know to be easy to clean because they do not have tiny grooves or bumps in the surface.  Silicone is also a material that is easy to heat up and cool down.

Keep Your Dildo Well Lubricated

Make sure that you use plenty of lubricant both on the dildo and in the vagina or anus.  This will help you introduce it safely and comfortably, and aid in stimulation.  Lubricant is especially necessary for anal penetration because the inside of the rectum tends to be very sticky.  Without lubricant you can tear the delicate tissues on the rectal lining or find it difficult to remove. View Sexual Lubricants.

Riding:  To try this option grease up your dildo with plenty of lube, place it in a flat surface that you can straddle (pile of cushions, arm of a sofa, edge of a bath tub etc) and sit on it so that it runs the length of your vulva from clitoris to anus.  Slide your body back and forth so that your weight pushes your clitoris and other sensitive parts down onto the shaft as it slides through between your labia majora, and slide to and fro.  If this becomes tiring then hold the position, grasp the end of the dildo that is sticking out the front and work it back and forth against yourself.

External Stimulation:  Using the dildo on the outside of your body is probably the easiest way to do things to start off with.  Here are a couple of ideas to get you started, first of all apply some lube to the dildo and lay it flat on a hard chair.  Then if you position yourself above it and sit down so that the dildo runs the full length from the crack of your ass all the way up to your clit and slide yourself back and forth on it.  This will provide all kinds of stimulation.

Head:  You can also use the head of the dildo, it’s shaped pretty much like the real thing, and rub it against your clitoris.  By applying pressure and moving the head over your clitoris in an up and down or circular motion you can provide great stimulation to the clit.  The more pressure you apply the faster you will come.  On the other hand just using light pressure will take you longer to reach the climax but the result will be a more intense orgasm.  For better control, you may find it easier to use two hands to grip the dildo.

Internal Stimulation:  The dildo also does a wonderful job when inserted into the vagina as well.  Such a multipurpose kind of toy.  One of the things you need to consider is the size of your dildo, it doesn’t have to be a huge monster to be effective.  Simply find one that is wide enough to be snug inside your vagina and longer than what you need to insert as you have to have something to hold onto.  Find a comfortable position to be in while you play.  Insert the dildo into your vagina and then begin moving it in an in and out fashion.  Depth of the thrusts is entirely dependent on how you feel, and the sensation will be different at different depths.  Once you’ve established a bit of a rhythm start rubbing or stroking your clitoris in time with the strokes.  If you want something a little different try positioning the dildo so that when it moves in and out it will pull a bit and stimulate the clitoris that way.

Double Up

Dildos come in many shapes and flavors so you can get whatever you’d like.  You might want to consider purchasing a dual dildo.  This will enable you to insert one end into your vagina and the other end into your anus.  This way you have double the thrusting pleasure while you stimulate your clit.  You can also combine the use of a vibrator in one spot and a dildo in the other.  If you were feeling adventurous you could place a vibrating butt plug in your anus and a vibrator in your vagina and stimulate your clit with your fingers.  The combinations are only limited by your imagination.  You can find dual dildos in the life-like section.

Keep Your Dildo Clean

If you are using a dildo with a regular partner with whom you feel safe, then the precautions focus on keeping your dildo clean.  A regular washing with soap and water can keep the dildo fairly clean.  Silicone dildos do not have a porous surface, and therefore they do have the same propensity to collect fluids.  When using a dildo by yourself or with a partner make sure you wash the dildo thoroughly after each use.  If you are moving from the anus to the vagina, mouth or other part of the body, make sure that you wash the dildo well in between uses.  The anus contains bacteria that could be harmful to the rest of your body.  Warm, soapy water is the best way to wash your dildo.  Silicone dildos can be boiled to eradicate any infected fluids.

Ben Wa Balls

This device, which originated in the orient, consists of a set of two metal balls.  One is solid and is placed in the vagina near the cervix; the other one is partially filled with mercury and is also placed in the vagina, near the first one.  Any movement causes the mercury filled ball to hit the deeper one, spreading vibrations through the vaginal area.  Women primarily use them on their own, but they can also be incorporated into sexual activity with a partner.  There are conflicting reports on how well these work.  View all orgasm balls

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Date 2/25/2016
Megan M.
In the shower is the most private place and the jets on the head are very nice :)
Date 6/7/2016
in bed with my vibe wand vibes are my fave

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