How to Give Your Lover a Great Blowjob

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One question that has been asked repeatedly to us here at TooTimid is “How do I give my partner a great blowjob?”. Why are people asking this? Well, because giving good head is a good skill to have and will bring your sex life to new and heightened levels. So, if you want to know “how to” give a great blowjob or if you are just looking for some new information or ideas, then read on.

Be An Oral Enthusiast

Enthusiasm is probably the primary thing that sets a good blowjob apart from a “holy cow that was fantastic” blowjob! If your partner knows that you are literally drooling at the idea of giving them oral sex this will enhance his experience tenfold. The thing is about enthusiasm, if you “hate” giving them a blowjob, they will sense this.

You can have so much fun giving a blowjob, try some different techniques to find something you enjoy just as much as your partner. Trust me, if the only thing you learn from this article is to be enthusiastic, you are already ahead of the game.

It Doesn't Bite & Neither Should You

This suggestion is two-fold: the first thing is that you can’t be afraid of your partner's penis. If you try to give your partner oral while actively trying to avoid the penis this will not work out very well. It's nothing to be scared of, but if you are nervous - that is okay! Start by asking your partner what they like, and start with your hands first! If you see the pleasure they get from the hand movements, you will be more confident to try out your mouth!

The second part of this is that while their penis is IN your mouth, you shouldn't bite - unless asked to! Your teeth should be shielded from your partner's tender shaft, and to do this you can cover your teeth with your lips. Then, as you slide up and down on their shaft they will only feel the softness of your lips and not the harshness of your teeth. This is why the first and most important tactical trick is to cover your teeth!

Introduce Yourself

No, do not literally say hello (unless you want to), but take the time to look at, admire, touch, stroke, gently kiss and lick his penis before you really get into the blowjob. The anticipation of the blowjob builds the pleasure and arousal. Feeling your warm breath on their penis, knowing your mouth is mere centimeters from them, seeing you hovering there admiring their member – all of this is almost as important as the actual blowjob. Then gently – GENTLY – lick just the tip of the penis. Allow your fingertips to slide up and down the shaft gently. Run your tongue around the underside of their penis ever so slightly. Take. Your. Time.

Slickery, Slippery, Suckery

Imagine what it is like if you are trying to stroke your partner's penis without any lubrication (i.e. saliva)! Yep. No one wants that. So, before you even really get started, after you have said “hello” to the penis, you should get things slippery with your spit or you can shop our oral enhancers! Really allow yourself to salivate so that your mouth, lips and hands will slide up and down the shaft easily. If you want to really blow your partner's mind, spit on their penis to get it nice and slathered up. I promise this will blow their mind.

Get Handsy With It

Yes, a blowjob is done primarily with your mouth. Yes, you are using your tongue, lips and mouth to pleasure your partner. However, you also have to use your hands to stimulate the shaft. Wrap your dominant hand around their shaft (making sure it is well lubricated) and then start to slowly stroke up and down. Gentle twisting movements as you stroke up and down can be very arousing for your partner.

The most important thing though is to match the mouth movements and sucking to the stroking. Keeping your mouth on the head of the penis, just barely there. Using your tongue you will lick and stroke the penis head. Then, in unison, you will stroke your partner up and down – root to tip – and twisting at your wrist. Pay attention to your partner's reactions. If your partner's balls seem to be contracting and they are tensing, this is signaling their climax so whatever you do – DO NOT STOP!!

Take Him Over The Edge

All of the stimulation should be bringing your partner closer to their climax, and most likely they are ready to orgasm. The worst thing you could do at this point is to stop the stimulation. They are lost in your movements, ready to climax and you are going to bring your partner there with just the movements of your mouth and hands! It is an amazing moment – a powerful situation to find yourself in.

You will have to decide, however, whether you are going to swallow your partner's ejaculate (cum) or whether you will make them orgasm in your hands (or on your body somewhere). This is a personal choice, but, err on the side of swallowing the cum. This feels more complete than stopping to use your hands to finish. It is an opportunity to be extremely intimate with your partner. To show them just how much you value their excitement and orgasm. However, no one can decide if this is the right course of action for you – but finishing is the goal here so do it with finesse!

Do You Enjoy Giving Blowjobs? Let Us Know Below In The Comments!


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  • Sandra Zurek

    I have been swallowing for 60 years and it still is a pleasure to watch my husband enjoy the moment. He is 78 years old and puts on a show by all the movements he makes. Arms swing, eyes roll and his body just tingles all over. I love watching him show how much pleasure I give him. And it’s all real, not fake.


  • Cli

    Need good advice on how to swallow and finish properly please


  • Mike

    Making my friends organism is great and there all hung so I get a face full every time and I’m happy with


  • nb

    I love giving blowjobs to my husband and do it as much as he likes it because he is the boss. I think I am good at it, but struggle with when he is coming in my mouth, I prefer swallowing. I dont know how soft or hard I should do it while he is cumming. Do I stroke it softly as he is coming? I want to finish it off better. He never complains about it, but I feel I could do that better at that part.


  • B

    My wife is awesome at it. Heck she could teach a class. The problem is with some of my medications and a health issue it is hard for me to finish.


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