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How To Finger Your Lover

Posted by Mikayla to Women's Issues
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Fingering:  the act using one’s fingers to sexually stimulate a female partner externally (i.e. rubbing her clitoris) and internally (i.e. inside her vagina).  Fingering is a great and very important part of foreplay for a couple.  It can be used with oral stimulation, during intercourse (rubbing of the clitoris during sex) or as its own main event.  Many women find the act of fingering to be extremely stimulating and can often orgasm from the combination of external and internal stimulations.  Oh yes, fingering is a must do for you!  So, if you are looking for a few pointers on how to do this, read on and see what you may discover!

CAUTION:  Before you do ANY fingering at all make sure that (a) your hands are clean and (b) you have trimmed and filed your fingernails!  A woman’s vaginal canal is very sensitive and rough nails HURT!

SLOW GOES IT:  Despite what you may have seen in porn, women do NOT appreciate you jamming your fingers into them haphazardly without any other foreplay or warning.  That can HURT!  You have to remember to go slowly.  Arouse her with kisses and touches and caresses.  Then, when it is time to go down below, go SLOW!  Romantic Foreplay(Use the rhyme to remember:  Go Below – Go Slow).  Touch her externally first.  Explore her vagina gently with your fingers.  Rub her clitoris.  Get her AROUSED and ready before inserting.  Then, once she is warmed up, you are ready to proceed.

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ONE BEFORE TWO:  Once again, despite what you have seen in porn, you can’t take your whole hand and stick it right up into a woman!  NO!  We need to adjust to you, to your fingers.  Start with ONE finger.  Slip it inside of her.  Move it around gently.  In and out is fine – just go slow.  Use some oral sex along with the internal moves to keep her stimulated.  Then, if she seems to be adapting to the first finger, slowly start to insert a second.  This increased fullness should excite her immensely.  You can increase the pace – a bit – and also continue with oral attentions or rub her clitoris with your other hand.  Use her cues to tell you what to do.  If you want to go for a 3rd finger – ASK HER!  She will know if that will be pleasing or not.

HAND GESTURES:  Believe it or not, fingering takes a bit of finesse.  It is a gentle dance between your fingers and her vagina.  It should be sensual and loving – not hard and rushed.  You should enjoy the feelings of her wetness, relish in the warmth and inviting nature of her most sacred spaces.  You should vary your movements and watch her reactions to see what she likes.  Some women like a steady in-and-out motion.  Others prefer more external stimulation combined with oral.  Still others like it to be a bit faster once they are warmed up!  Whatever you do, make sure you are taking your cues from her.

ADDING ORAL:  One of the most stimulating things you can do while fingering your lover is to add in oral sex.  The saliva makes everything slippery and wet and the direct clitoral stimulation that she will receive while you are performing oral combined with the fingering motions – well, let’s just say it will be explosive for sure!  You can (and should) alternate using your tongue and fingers all over her!  The difference in sensations will drive her crazy and the stimulation changes will keep her body guessing!  Just remember:  every woman is different so figure out which buttons she wants you to push for her!


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Date 7/28/2015
grey
usually with oral is what makes her really hot and wet. she cums real fast that way.
Date 7/28/2015
Samantha P.
My BF typically rubs my clit during sex to help me along. If we have a lot of foreplay beforehand I sometimes come long before he does~
Date 7/29/2015
H. J.
She likes a lot of clit stim. during sex or with a toy. Clit stim during sex is the only way we orgasm together
Date 7/30/2015
ANNIE32
sometimes hes tooooo gentle and i want him to go at me rough! :)
Date 7/30/2015
Meagan
My girl loves when I run a finger vibe over her nipples, belly, thighs, all leading to her wet pussy. She quakes with anticipation ;)
Date 8/1/2015
Tate Learnings
I tend to start and finish with fingering her. First to get her all warmed up and last to get her to come!
Date 8/3/2015
BebeCakes
Instead of poking or going in and out, I like to rub the inner walls of her va-jay-jay with the pads of my fingers. Once she gets excited, I take two fingers and press DOWN (towards her bum) instead of up towards her g-spot before I start thrusting. This kind of pressure can give her a more "I'm getting fucked" feeling than a "I'm getting poked by a finger" feeling. Nina Hartley taught me this in one of her famous "how to" videos!

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