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Anal Advice For Newbies

Posted by Mikayla to Anal Sex
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Have you been considering trying anal sex?  Does the idea intrigue you, yet sort of scare you at the same time?  Are you worried about it being “dirty” – literally and figuratively?  Well, if you are a newbie to anal sex and are contemplating taking a stroll down anal avenue, this article will give you some great advice for the anal newbie!  Anal sex can be a very pleasant and exciting part of a sexual relationship that doesn’t have to be scary, dirty or painful!

Intro Thought:  Anal sex should never hurt!  Is it uncomfortable during those first moments – yes.  However, it should not HURT!  If it does you need to use more lube and try to relax!  No sex act should hurt and anal sex is a sex act.


The absolute first and most important tip for anyone engaging in anal sex is this:  YOU NEED LUBE!  The anal canal is NOT self-lubricating – meaning, it will be dry and can be very painful if you do not use lubricant.  No, spit (saliva) is not enough!  You need real, honest to goodness lube!  I suggest silicone as it is slippery and long-lasting.  You really can’t overdo the lube when it comes to anal sex.  If someone has told you the myth of “don’t use lube it will ruin the experience” then they do not know how absolutely painful it can be for the receiver if there is no lube to pave the way.  Use lube.  Use lots.  Keep it handy, you’ll use more.  Lube.  Can I say it enough:  LUBE!

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Contrary to what you may have seen in pornos, you can’t just ram your penis (or a toy) into the anal canal.  It will HURT!  Most of the times the actresses in these films have already been primed (see the next suggestion) and this makes it much easier going.  If you want to have a pleasurable anal sex experience you must use lube and go SLOWLY into that get the drift, right?  Have your partner go very, very slowly.  The receiver (the one who is receiving the anal sex) should tell the giver when to push, when to stop, when to continue.  This way, you can slowly adjust to the new entity entering your exit only canal.  If you have a partner who you cannot trust to be patient and go slowly then he is not the right person to have anal sex with!  Anal newbies tend to need a long time to adjust – so be patient!anal_advice_for_newbies


It is usually a really good idea for an anal newbie to “prime” the entrance in preparation for the main event.  This means:  invest in a medium size butt plug.  Butt plugs are designed to fit smoothly into the anal canal and are usually made of a material that is comfortable to insert.  If you experiment pre-anal sex with butt plugs and experience the pleasure of being anally stimulated you are less likely to be nervous when it comes to having anal sex.  Furthermore, you can use a butt plug to stretch the anal canal prior to anal sex so that the actual penile penetration is less, um, uncomfortable.  You know what they say:  an ounce of preparation is worth a pound of regret.


OK, so let’s be real here:  when someone tries to stick something up your anal canal your first reaction is to do what?  TO CLENCH DOWN!  It’s the “oh hell no, nothing is going UP there” response.  It is natural.  It is going to happen.  So, you have to resist the urge to clench and RELAX!  Furthermore, when it is time for insertion (after you have lubed and primed) you should do this one, very important thing:  push like you are having a bowel movement!  Yes, I am serious.  No, you won’t poop yourself.  When we push OUT it OPENS the anal canal, thereby creating less resistance to the object being inserted.  It will make the insertion process a thousand times more comfortable – I guarantee it!  So, no clenching, relax and push OUT!  You can do it!

Mikayla’s tip:  Anal sex is not for everyone.  If you have a partner who is reluctant to try it, don’t push it.  It is fun and can be very, very pleasurable for both partners – but it won’t be any fun if someone is hurt.  Always be conscious of your partner’s needs and be patient!

Check Out The Best Beginner Anal Toys:

The Blue Man Corkscrew

This anal toy is soft and flexible but firm enough for penetration!  The shaft is textured and it has a suction cup base for erotic, hands-free play.  It has multi-speed vibrations controlled by the remote and is perfect for beginner users and solo masturbation!

Anal Plug Initiation Set

Are you a novice to anal toys?  Build your way up to greater satisfaction with this butt plug set!  It comes with 3 flexible jelly plugs that graduate in size so you can rise the ranks at a pace that is comfortable for you.  Use with a water-based lubricant for the best results and most comfort.

Climax Bursts Anal Lubricant

Get the slickness you need for anal sex and toy play with this water-based anal lube!  It has beads to add bursts of stimulation when massaged into the skin.  It is thick and long-lasting so you can enjoy incredible anal play.  Easy to clean and use.
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Date 7/14/2015
I never even thought about pushing out so I'm gonna try that next time we have anal. It makes a lot of sense but I would have never thought to try it on my own.
Date 7/14/2015
Date 7/14/2015
Lacie <3
I kind of want to try it but I'm soooo scared it will hurt!
Date 7/15/2015
I dunno if I would actualy try it my. Boyfriend is always saying we should and he thinks it would be fun and interesting to try but im not convinced. It seems like a lot more fun for him than for me
Date 7/16/2015
i lUv AnAl SeX!!!! SO TIIIIIGHT!
Date 7/16/2015
lube is the most important part and so many forget that. astroglide is my favorite personally. makes things super slippery and really helps the process. just don't spill it on the floor or youre gonna have a bad time hahaha.
Date 11/8/2015
Yeah... men are always on board. And the constant badgering about it gets really old. So I've tried to turn the tables and said that if he tried it first and liked it (or at the very least wasn't uncomfortable), then I would try it. Still haven't heard the end of it!
Date 12/3/2015
Our first time I was taking her from behind and I lubed up my finger and slowly stuck it in her anus. Once I worked a bit of lube in and stretched it out a bit with a finger she begged for my penis. She came hard with in seconds. You just have to take it slow and let her become accustomed to your size. After 10 minutes in her exit hole she came 5 times.
Date 1/5/2016
I've had anal a few times, and (embarrassingly) I have pooped, Luckily my partner wasn't bothered, I was just wondering if there's something I could do to stop this from happening?
Date 7/20/2016
I love it. I have to lay on my side and i work the cock into me relaxing with every inch i put in. Once it's all the way in i have to just sit still for a minute till I get used to it. After that it's on and crackin.
Date 5/7/2017
Does the numbing anal lube make the "giver" numb as well as the receiver? I really want to try anal but I dont want my fiance numb.
Date 1/13/2018
My wife had an unpleasant experience with anal sex before we met. She had always said to me that she would be willing to try with me, but was reluctant due to that past experience. We read this article and talked about it. Turns out, the previous partner had not done anything in this article and my wife didn't know anything in this article, as it was her first time trying it. We followed everything in the article and now anal sex has become something we both really enjoy. Anyone who wants to try anal sex, but is reluctant, should read and follow the steps. It will truly help. Thank you tootimid for the article and the enhancement to our love making.
Date 1/15/2018
Love anal sex ......I was shy at first but your partner has to know what he's doing back there. Lots of foreplay

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