8 Mistakes You Can Make During A BJ!

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If you want your lover to be happy and sexually satisfied, one thing that we women do is offer our partner’s a blow job! This is the ultimate experience for many men, especially since for many couples it is not a standard, every-time practice (although it should be!) Perfecting the BJ does take some time and some practice and, believe it or not, there are mistakes you can make while giving one. Here are just 8 of the most common mistakes that you can make while giving him head.

1. TERRIBLE TEETH
The absolute worst offense ANYONE can perpetrate during a BJ is to use to graze your teeth along his shaft in anything greater than a gentle motion. Teeth can be, in the right circumstance, a nice sensation. Too much teeth will equal PAIN and PAIN has absolutely NO part in a BJ. So ladies, wrap those lips around those teeth!

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2. NOT SUCKING HARD ENOUGH
A BJ requires a bit of friction and that friction (or suction) can’t happen if you are barely sucking on him. There is a fine line between enough and too much and not enough at all. If you do not suck hard enough he won’t feel anything down there, and this will not be stimulating enough to render an orgasm. So make sure you are adding suck to your BJ.

3. SUCKING TOO HARD
The flipside of this is sucking too hard. The penis is a delicate appendage and if you literally try to “suck the chrome off a trailer hitch” you are going to hurt him! Not to mention if you are sucking too hard, and putting all your effort into the sucking, you are not giving him any stimulation at all other than your vacuum-like death suction. No good man, no good!
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4. NOT ENOUGH LUBRICATION
If I have said it once, I have said it a hundred times – YOU NEED LUBRICATION when you give a BJ! You need to make sure you have enough saliva all over his shaft so that your hands and mouth slide up and down effortlessly. If you don’t you could end up chaffing him – and that is NOT good BJ giving at all!

5. NOT USING YOUR HANDS
Yes, a BJ is done primarily with the mouth, but, you have to add in hand motions as well in order to give a truly successful BJ. More specifically, hand gestures that work in conjunction with what your mouth is doing. Hand / mouth coordination can be either really fantastic or really, really bad! If you do this incorrectly, you are most certainly going to end up sucking when you should be stroking and stroking when you should be sucking. Bad combo for sure.

6. NAIL SCRATCHING
Along the same lines as the terrible teeth, grazing his tender bits with your sharp nails is a giant OWIE! While a gentle ticking with your nails up and down his shaft or even along the base of his balls can send shivers down his spine, a ragged nail or a hard SCRATCH will make him wince in pain! No pain in a BJ!

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7. HAVING NO ENTHUSIASM
Listen, part of the reason a BJ feels so good to him is that he sees and feels how much YOU are enjoying pleasuring him! If he hears your happy moans, sees you enjoying yourself and knows you are totally into it the experience will be that much better for him. Conversely, if he looks down and you look like you are eating a Brussel sprout, or if you are obviously not doing it because you love it, it will kill his desire for it.

8. STOPPING MID BJ
This is probably the biggest mistake anyone can make while giving oral sex (to either a man or a woman) is to STOP in the middle of it! NEVER, EVER stop what you are doing that makes him roll his eyes back in his head! Never stop before he is finished (unless you are moving on to other things), never just STOP a BJ! That is just bad BJ behavior ladies!

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  • Boonie

    I’never heard of pegging but still want to check it out. I’ll bet it would be phenominal to do while sucking cock


  • Raquela

    Kim—— We got lost after 16 years of marriage, but are easing sex in a little each week. My husband I have a standing date once a week to go on a date, dinner, movie, etc and then he gives me a kiss on the lips just like we were dating and then I invite him in for a nightcap ;-). Don’t try and rush it, just ease it back in and it will work for you both. On the whole BJ thing, I have never liked giving it and I can’t push myself to try it again, any suggestions?


  • Aaron

    Pegging is where the wife, girlfriend, etc. wears a strap-on and uses on her man. Your husband or BF must be comfortable with his sexuality to fully enjoy it. A lot of men will reject this extremely satisfying experience out of old notions of stupidity or homophobia. Just reassure him that it will never be shared with your friends or used against him if you break up or divorce because that will destroy his self confidence forever. Bring it up during lovemaking how it would make you incredibly wet and turned on if you could do it to him. Don’t forget that it would go a long way if you give him your ass first. I personally enjoy it and have for years and I’m a paratrooper in the US Army so tell him guys that jump out of planes for a living do it, so stop being a pussy and let you do it.


  • Maggie

    What is pegging?


  • Sexmaster

    @Kim I have been with my wife of 20+ years. She still gets my motor going. It may not be you but him. Give him some L-Citriline to improve blood flow. He will be all over you.


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