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Back To Basics: How To Give A Blowjob

Posted by Mikayla to Women's Issues
Perhaps you have wondered over to this article and are thinking, “Ha!  Who doesn’t know how to give a blowjob!”  Well, my response to that would be:  more people than you know!  Perhaps you are really new to all things sex – OR – perhaps you are just looking for some new tricks or ideas.  Either way, it never hurts to go back to the basics when it comes to any activity - sexual or not - that we truly want to do well.  Trust me ladies (and gents, if applicable) – a blowjob is something you want to do well!  So take a gander at this basic guide to giving your man oral loving!

Definition:
  a basic definition for a blowjob is oral sex performed on a male partner where the penis is put into the partner's mouth and stimulated via the mouth, hands, tongue and throat to arousal and to orgasm. 

1.  INTRODUCE YOURSELF:  Whether this is your first time playing with your lover’s favorite pal, or the 100th time, it is essential to take a moment to savor the look and feel of your man’s penis BEFORE your mouth ever touches it!  Stroke it slowly from base to tip.  Run your finger
over the head.  If he has a foreskin, gently stroke the foreskin down so the head becomes exposed.  Don’t just shove it in your mouth (at least not every time).  Take a few precious seconds to admire your man’s manhood before slowly putting it into your mouth. 

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2.  SLOW SUCKING:  Despite what you may have seen in an adult feature, blowjobs are not all “rough and aggressive.” Starting out with the very vigorous stroking and deepthroating is not the way to go.  No, you want to go back to the basics and tease him by sucking him gently.  Take his penis and slowly pull him into your throat while allowing the moisture and heat of your mouth to stimulate him.  Spend some time running your tongue around him while he is in your mouth.  Grab the base of his penis and give him a little squeeze.  Move your lips and mouth up and down his shaft ever so slowly – there will be time to pick up the pace later – and just let him adjust to the wonderful feeling of YOUR mouth.

3.  TONGUE TRICKS:  The tongue is an amazing muscle (yes, muscle) and is the strongest in the body. So, why not utilize this super appendage and give your man the tongue thrill of his life?  The tongue feels amazing on his sensitive shaft, like tiny fingers touching him all over.  Wrapping your tongue around his shaft in conjunction with sucking can drive him crazy!  Not to mention, you can “fake” a deepthroating feeling by sticking your tongue on the roof of your mouth and allowing his penis to hit your tongue.  The most important thing to remember about the tongue is variety!  Make sure your tongue is always moving, circling around his shaft, glazing over the head, and even literally licking up and down while his penis is not actually in your mouth.  The tongue will drive him mad – trust me!

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4.  HELPING HANDS:  Just because oral sex is primarily done with the mouth does not mean that you cannot use your hands – YOU NEED TO!  With oral sex the more stimulation the better!  Using your hands will accomplish two things:  (1) it gives his entire penis and shaft the stimulation he desires (2) it allows you to rest your mouth in between the sucking.  There are so many variations of hand play during a blow job that you can continually surprise your man with.  However, here is a tried and true favorite.  Get his penis all slick and lubed up with your spit or flavored lubricant.  Make sure you are really using your saliva to make it slippery.  Then, take the tip and a bit of the head into  your mouth and suck, meanwhile wrap one of your hands around his shaft and twist around back and forth while moving your hand up and down his shaft while continuing the sucking motion.  This is going to give him the absolute best and most thorough sensation.  You can vary the depth of your sucking and the speed and direction of the hand motion, but the key is constant stimulation!

5.  SPEED IT UP:  While I mentioned not starting your oral affair with some aggressive and fast-paced moves, toward the middle-to-end of your oral loving time you will want to add a little speed and more pressure to the game.  This is where deepthroating (if you can do it) would be the ideal activity (see my article on deepthroating).  You want to give him some rapid stimulation by either (a) allowing him to thrust INTO your mouth (i.e. mouth fucking) OR (b) take the lead and slide his penis as far into your mouth and as fast as you can, while also remembering to use your tongue and your hands.  Seem like too much going on?  Trust me, once you get into a nice rhythm it will all fall into place beautifully.

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6.  ENTHUSIASM WILL WIN  YOU POINTS:  What do you think is more exciting, looking down and seeing your partner actively enjoying the oral sex that is being given OR looking down and seeing a look of boredom and know that they are thinking “how much longer do I have to do this?”  Blowjobs are VERY personal and intimate and can be extremely exciting, but if you do not have enthusiasm then you better not even bother.  The sexiest thing is to KNOW that your partner is loving what they are doing.  This means, make noises – little moans are very hot.  Talk a little dirty, perhaps about how his penis feels sliding down your throat.  LOOK UP AT HIM – this will drive him crazy!  Show him that you want to look to him to gauge his pleasure.  Nothing is more erotic than looking down and meeting your partner’s eyes while their mouth is on your penis!  Enjoy what you are doing and BOTH of you will enjoy the ride!

Mikayla’s Tip:  Word to the wise, if you are new at oral sex, take the time to get comfortable with it.  Oral sex is a skill – yes, I said it, a skill – and you can’t be fantastic right out of the gate.  So, take the time to become comfortable with it, as I am sure you will find oral sex is an important and intimate part of a healthy sexual relationship.

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Date 10/13/2014
Virginia
nice thank uu
Date 10/15/2014
marlies smallridge
will this work on man over 70

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