Of course, not all of these guys are going at it full thrust – most are just into the basics of anal play. It might have been an accident that they discovered this pleasure, or they might have specifically sought it out. Either way, knowing what you like and not being afraid to ask for it is a great step for any person – and in this realm, tremendous for any man!
More than likely how many men discover that they might like a little anal action is through an innocent act of rimming. If you do not know, rimming is when your partner takes their tongue and licks your anal opening. This can be done in any number of ways – but mostly it is done in conjunction with a blowjob. For many men, that first lick of their anal opening sends them instantly into orgasmic bliss….followed shortly by, “am I GAY? Why did I like that?” Dude, relax, you are not gay unless you want to HAVE SEX with another dude.
Back to the rimming, so your partner rims you, you like it. You get the guts to tell her, she says ‘cool’ and the next blowjob she is doing it again and you are thinking…”oh man, this is great! I wonder what a little more pressure would feel like….”
So then you lovingly ask your partner if they would have a little finger play with you during a blowjob or handjob. Remember to cut those fingernails ladies! Anyway, so then you are having your blowjob and a NICELY LUBED finger goes into your rectum just a bit, hitting that prostate and WHAM a massive orgasm hits you. Followed shortly by, “oh man, I sooo must be gay, I shouldn’t like this!” Relax dude, it is OK. Pleasure is pleasure. Look at the hot woman who is doing it to you. You are NOT gay.
So what begins as a tongue tease moves gently into a realm of various finger play. First, just the tip. Then, a little more. Then maybe, more than one! You are in a total spin trying to figure out why this feels so good. Oh man, what is going on!
SIDE NOTE: What is going on is, you have nerve endings in your rectum (they are the same as a woman has in hers) and you have the prostate. When the prostate is stimulated through anal play, it is very, very pleasurable. In fact, there are some men who notice this pleasure-like feeling during a prostate exam. Talk about confusing.
So what I am saying is, it is OK. Relax and enjoy.
TEENY, TINY, TOYS
So you are a real man, you can admit that you like anal play. You want to step it up – to toys. However, you do NOT want some huge butt plug, oh no, you want a teeny, tiny toy. Something to begin with. Luckily, there are tons to choose from in this realm….and beyond.
There are a few great starter kits and toys that I would recommend for the anal newbie (man or woman). The first is the Silicone Anal Training Kit. This kit has 3 anal training plugs. These toys are great for beginners because they are made of hypoallergenic silicone, are waterproof (sometimes beginning anal in the shower is a good idea), and are easy to use.
Or, Silicone Anal Beads would be a great choice. These flexible beads are not too wide at all; they range in size from smaller to slightly larger – so you can go with your comfort. They also have a great handle for your partner to hold on while you play. Perfect for the newbie.
Or, if you want a little light show to go with your fun, My First Anal Toy, is something that you might find enjoyable. This mini anal wand has 10 different functions and speeds, has lights and is just small enough for the newbie. It is really the perfect first toy.
Finally, I would suggest the beginner-friendly My First Anal Slim Vibe. As the name suggests, this is a longer, thinner toy that is great for first timers. Made with a powerful vibrator, this smooth ridged toy will enhance any person’s anal play – new or experienced.
BEND ME OVER
OK, so if you are very secure in your ‘manly’ appreciation for all things anal, you certainly can advance to strap on sex. Granted, your partner would have to agree, but many women are very turned on by the idea of ‘being the man.’
Strap on sex with the man on bottom is a very interesting idea, and can be very fun. Just remember that you should not start with strap on sex, definitely move up to it. Here are a few great suggestions for strap ons:
The Bare As You Dare Harness is a slinky, sexy thong that has the strap on apparatus. Hey, you want the gal to be sexy right? Well, this will certainly do it for you. It is compatible with a wide range of dildos.
The New Comers Strap On Set will have you both enjoying your new found pleasure. This set comes with a small dildo and a harness. The dildo is definitely small enough for a newbie, but would be enjoyable for any level player.
Tantus Bend Over Beginner Harness Kit is perfect for first timers. This comes with 2 small silicone attachments.
Finally, if your woman REALLY wants to step it up, the revolutionary FeelDoe toy will satisfy you both. This item inserts INTO her and projects a dildo out of her (just like SHE has the penis). This toy vibrates and is designed to give her just as much pleasure as she is giving you. This would be my personal pick for strap on sex. I definitely think it would be the way to go.
LOTS OF LUBE
OK, I suppose it goes without saying that you need LOTS of lube for anal play. Fingers, toys or whatever, lube is a MUST. There are plenty of lubes out there. I suggest Silicone-Based lubes if you are not playing with a silicone or cyberskin toy. Otherwise, use a nice, Water-Based Lube. Astroglide and Swiss Navy are both great lubes. Never be afraid to over lube – in this case, over lubing is better than under lubing.
It is my hope that this article has not only shown you the different types of anal play you can have, but also has assured you that trying, liking or even loving anal attention does not make you gay! Pleasure is pleasure, and I hope that more men can open up to the idea of anal stimulation. Of course, if it is not your thing, then by all means, do not engage. However, if you think you might like it, give it a try. This is just one more thing to add into your bedroom routine!