1. Nookie with the Nipples:
Breast play is an essential part of outercourse. Kissing and sucking on the nipples, or breasts, can be extremely arousing for the man and the woman, and can often lead to orgasm. In some situations, a man can use the breasts as a place to insert his penis (boob sex) and as long as the ejaculate does not enter the mouth, it is safe sex.
2. Helping Hands:
“Fingering” or “handjobs” are absolutely wonderful ways to engage in a sexual activity without penetration. Many women can orgasm easily with clitoral play, and most men really enjoy a handjob even when sex is an option. Plus, both activities are great for foreplay, so practice makes perfect!
3. Rubbing Down:
Massage and sensual massage is a wonderful way to get acquainted to your lover. New lovers especially can revel in the beauty of each other’s bodies without the pressure of actual sex. Just make sure you have boundaries clearly explained, ‘cause the hands will wander.
4. Tease and Tantalize:
Channel your inner stripper and give your lover a good, ole’ fashioned strip tease! Sit on his lap, let him touch you – but only a little. Grind on him, excite his senses while exercising your power as a sexy woman! Then, when you ARE ready for sex, his mind will race to that sexy dance and he’ll be putty in your hands!
5. Make-out Madness:
Do you remember how your stomach did flip-flops during your first kiss? Imagine having that feeling as an adult. Kissing, nibbling, sucking can be extremely arousing and can lead to orgasm in both women and men. Yes, I said it. Hot kissing combined with some roaming hands can bring on the orgasms!
6. Dry Humping:
Technically called “frottage” (see, you learned something!) Dry humping is sex without sex. You are using your bodies to bring each other pleasure while having clothing (or undergarments) ON. A man can orgasm as well as a woman with the right mixture of kissing and dry humping. Just be careful of the zipper – OUCHIE!!!
7. Make it Mutual:
Mutual masturbation is fun! You can give each other a show or play together. Using toys to enhance the pleasure for both of you. Sometimes, being together in a sexy way is more important than intercourse itself. Plus, watching self pleasure teaches you what your partner likes!
Outercourse is a great way to be close, intimate and safe. It can help to protect against STDs, but depending on what you are doing, you could still be at risk. The best bet is to be checked first and stick to activities where NO seminal or vaginal fluids are exchanged.
Toys to help with outercourse: