Okay, we know that giving a blowjob, head, whatever you like to call it may not be the crowning jewel in your sexual adventures. If you think about it, it may seem odd to drop to your knees and suck on him until he climaxes. But ladies, the appreciation that men will show you when you do this for them is HUGE. Plus, if you enjoy when he gives you oral sex, it’s only fair that you return the favor! Listen, this doesn’t have to be an every-time-you-go-at-it kind of thing, but you have untapped skills that will drive him WILD! Wouldn’t it be nice to feel proud of the way you make HIM moan, and beg, and...well, you get the idea. In order to make the experience more pleasurable for both involved, here’s 10 Ways to Enjoy Giving Him Head!
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1. YOU'RE IN CHARGE: First and foremost, women get turned on to oral sex (for him) because you have all the power. Don’t think of giving him head as submissive - it isn’t! You control your speed, your suction, little tricks with your tongue. When you let him know that this is really going to happen, he will be so incredibly turned on and YOU will be in control. You’re in charge of when and how hard he orgasms.
2. MAKE HIM WAIT: Going along with #1, you’re in control of the tease, too! You have the ability to extend foreplay! Men and women typically seek at least 15-20 minutes of foreplay to make it worth it. Foreplay is how you discover what you and your partner like and dislike, and connect on a more intimate level. Plus, he won’t soon forget how incredible you made him feel BEFORE he was able to enter your mouth when you rub his thighs, grind against him and make out with some Oscar-winning kisses.
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3. STOP WORRYING: This should probably be number one. In fact, it’s usually the number one issue for women in a lot of aspects of our lives. Listen. He has his member in your mouth. He’s a happy camper. Just give him a suck and he’ll be singing your praises for days. As long as you aren’t giving him a death grip or using your teeth, you’re in great shape.
4. FORGO THE GAG: Unless you’re playing rough, gagging on him can really take you both out of the moment. AND it’s gross! All the power to you if this turns you on, but for most women - especially those who aren’t already psyched to offer fellatio in the first place - gagging is a big no-no. Ease him into your mouth one inch at a time. Don’t be nervous to tell him that his hands on the back of your head, or any deep thrusting on his part, is not welcomed!
5. OFFER A HELPING HAND: The best way to ease into a pattern of superior BJs is to use your hands. Now, I’m not discussing how to give him a hand job, but sometimes you’ve got to give your lips and mouth a little break. So, maintain a nice grip on the bottom of his shaft, keeping your lips around the head of his penis. Move your hand up his shaft so your hand meets your lips, and suck while moving your hand. You’ll develop your own rhythm - and maybe slide him into your mouth deeper with each motion - that will keep up your stamina and his arousal.
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6. SWITCH IT UP: Of course giving him head will be terrible if you only do the same old stuff. Avoid oral boredom! Make sure you switch it up with a few moments with just your hands, a flick of his sensitive frenulum (the bundle of nerves underneath his penis, connecting the head to the shaft), or maybe even give a little tug on his sensitive testicles. Lick him like an ice cream cone! Hum while he’s inside you to create exciting vibration sensations! Whatever you do, when he starts really enjoying himself, don’t stop whatever you’re doing!
7. ORAL SEX ASSISTANCE: Perhaps the reason why you are apprehensive to offer oral sex is your concern for the taste. First, don’t feel embarrassed to have him shower before the momentous occasion! Second, indulge in some delicious oral sex gels to sweeten the taste. Utilize some nice numbing mints or deep throat sprays to ease your mouth and throat, or amp up the sizzle with tingling sensations!
8. KEEP HIM WET: One issue that women have trouble with during oral sex is dry mouth. Unlike us ladies, men don’t produce any real natural lubricant to help our sliding lips and stroking hands. So, if you want to have a good oral experience, you’ve got to keep him wet! Your saliva is a great lubricant, but does dry up. You can try a flavored lubricant, edible oil or gel to make his glide a little easier on your taste buds and keep the motion going!
9. SHOW HIM A GOOD TIME: Moan. Look up at him. Grab his arms. Grab his bum with both hands and use just your mouth for a few moments. Just like you’re questioning whether he is enjoying what you’re doing, he’s hoping that you are having fun too! After a few convincing moans, squeezes, and licks, you’ll witness his incredibly hot reactions, and you’ll get to liking what you’re doing to him even more!
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10. JOIN IN THE FUN: Who said he gets to have all the action? Yes, you’re giving him some superior oral sex, but that doesn’t mean you are just left on the bed, or floor, or in the tub doing nothing! Go ahead and touch yourself! Try a little voyeuristic masturbation for him to watch while he’s inside you. The head you give will be so much better for both of you when you are both playing in the game! If you’re feeling more adventurous, climb on top of him and enjoy a mutual oral sex experience in the “69” position! It’s an incredible when you’re both aroused, feeding off each other’s moans!