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Mikayla
I
am a strong advocate for being prepared in all circumstances.
This includes SEX. Whether you are married, single, dating
or celebrating your “independence” – there
are items that all sexually active people should have on hand
– or at least should consider having. Being ready for
a sexual encounter is so important – and this means
more than emotionally and physically – but technically
“ready.”
 READY TO CONCEIVE?
I think many of us have been in the situation when we were
dating where we came across that special someone. The person
who seems to make our heart flutter a little faster, our insides
to turn to putty and our genitals to ignite with a fiery sensation.
How many times has this happened and the date turns sexual
- QUICKLY. Really, really sexual – as in the “I
have got to have you NOW” sexual? Then what happens?
You both realize that you do not have a condom, dental dam
or piece of saran wrap between you! Uggggh! Your heated sexual
night quickly turns into a giant disappointment where you
have two options: take the risk of getting pregnant or getting
a nasty STD or cooling off in a nice, cold shower!
If
this happened to you once – I will bet it never happened
again! For most people, great sex is NOT worth the risk of
having unprotected sex. This is my personal rule of thumb
– no condom = no sex! This is why CONDOMS
are my number 1 choice for practical sexual products!
Today
there are so many different types of condoms available that
there really is no excuse to not have them on hand if you
are single or dating – or even married and using them
as birth control. Condoms come in a variety of sizes, materials,
lubricated and unlubricated. For practical purposes –
I would suggest LURBICATED
CONDOMS WITH SPERMICIDE! This doubles your chance of protection
while also providing extra lubrication – you can never
go wrong with lubrication! So, single folks – stock
up on the CONDOMS!!!
ROMANTIC
REQUIREMENTS
 As a woman, I definitely know the secret
of setting a sexy mood for sex – or having it set for
me. There is something special about going into a room that
smells good, is lighted seductively and instantly puts you
in the “mood.” Romantic music playing softly in
the background, randomly placed candles throughout the room
and two people ready for loving! When I was single, I ALWAYS
had CANDLES on hand just for this reason – and I still
do! The newest rage in candles are special LOVER’S
CANDLES. These candles SMELL fantastic, provide that romantic
lighting and have a special bonus feature! They melt into
massage oil! Now, what better way to surprise a new lover
than with an impromptu massage?
Or,
you could take the traditional route and purchase a premium
massage oil like KHEPRA.
I find that the way to any man’s (or woman’s)
heart is through pampering! What better way to pamper your
prince or princess than with a nice, slow, seductive massage!
If you prefer to go immediately from rubbing to a romantic
romp – then invest in an EDIBLE
MASSAGE OIL! You can lick off the oil – and taste
your lover’s private parts to boot! Definitely massage
oils are on my must have on hand list!
Let
us not leave out a simple pleasure such as an ORAL
SEX LOTION! Edible lubes and lotions are a wonderful thing
to have on hand! Something as simple as SEX
TARTS ORAL SEX LUBE can really surprise a new lover or
remind your long time lover of how much fun you are in bed!
Oral sex lubes bring a little taste – and sometimes
a tingle – to your tongue teasing time! I definitely
think that all persons should have a variation of sex lotions
on hand!
Along
the same note, having a basic LURBICANT
(both a SILICONE
and a WATER
BASED) such as TooTimid’s
Personal Lubricant or Swiss
Navy Silicone Lube - as well as an ANAL
SEX LUBRICANT on hand is essential. While you may not
always need it – lubricants are an essential must have
for all sexually active couples – as well as single
folks enjoying private time! Lubes add a slickery sensation
to all sex acts – solo or couple – and they make
sex enjoyable and friction free!
There
are so many different lubes available now – KY is not
your only option anymore! There are heated lubes, cooling
lubes, edible lubes, masturbation lubes – you name it,
there is a lube for it! Let us not forget ANAL
LUBES! You may not be anticipating anal sex – but
if the opportunity arises – you will be prepared! Now,
while you can use a variety of lubricants for anal play –
I always suggest a good, thick silicone
based lubricant for anal play! Let’s face it –
being comfortable during anal exploration is very important
and adds to the safety (and do not forget the condoms either!)
TOYS,
TOYS, TOYS
Now, I understand if you do not feel like whipping out your
10
inch dildo with your new lover – but if you are
a toy advocate – like I am – then you will see
the logic in this next section. Toys can be an enhancement
for any type of sex play from masturbation to couple’s
play. Having sex toys on hand for sexual
encounters is really very basic to me – but it might
not be for other people.
There
are so many ways to use toys to stimulate yourself and your
lover – and really the type of toys you invest in are
a personal choice. However, I firmly believe that all sexually
active people should at least consider having BULLETS
in their toy box. A bullet is such a simple toy – and
is usually pretty cheap. You can tease a man’s testicles,
nipples, and penis with a bullet. Imagine giving a new lover
a blowjob that included some extra “ball sack”
stimulation! Way to step it up a notch! Or, if you are single
and enjoying solo play – a bullet is one of the best
toys to have on hand for quick, clitoral stimulation! Then,
if you choose to get into a relationship – you will
have your trusty bullet to not only please him (or her) but
also to aid in your own clitoral stimulation during sex!
Along
the same lines, COUPLE’S
AROUSERS are wonderful to have on hand! I am not at all
suggesting that sex has to include a toy – but sometimes
you just want to add a little something to the party! Couple’s
Arousers are so universal and can be so much fun! What kind
you pick is really up to you – but seriously consider
adding one to your playtime!
Finally,
a simple toy to keep on hand would be a BASIC
VIBRATOR. In fact, quite a few of my male friends have
basic vibes in THEIR nightstands just to tease and play with
their lovers. I know, the idea of having a “back up”
vibe might seem a little odd to some of you – but it
really isn’t. While many women would not be so keen
on using a vibrator that was stored in her new man’s
nightstand – some women are intrigued by the possibilities!
Plus, if your new girl has
issues with using “that” toy – you can use
a condom to provide a nice, clean toy for her pleasure. OR,
better yet, invest in a few cheaper vibes that can stay in
the package. A vibrator doesn’t just have to be a woman’s
best friend – it can really be a man’s too. Besides,
a man who is willing to introduce a vibrator (or any toy)
to sex demonstrates that he is not afraid of “competing”
and has a firm understanding of his woman’s pleasure
points!
Now,
with the toys you MUST have a quality TOY CLEANER! While washing
with soap and water is usually more than sufficient, having
a toy cleaner to either SPRAY on or WIPE onto your toys before
and after use really helps to fight off any bacteria that
may be hiding. Toy cleaners are easy to use, discreet and
much easier than running to the bathroom before or after play!
I highly suggest that anyone who has toys invests in either
the SEX
TOY CLEANER SPRAY or the TOY
CLEANING WIPES! Safety and hygienic cleanliness are essential
to everybody!
FUN AND FROLICKING
This final category of sexual stock ups is all about fun and
frolicking! Some lovers like to venture into the land of bondage
– and if this is true of you – then there are
some must have products so that you are always prepared to
take control!
BLINDFOLDS
and SOFT
RESTRAINTS can be the two most essential and stimulating
products to have on hand. Whether you are in a new relationship
or an established one – a blindfold can bring your sex
to a whole new level! Taking away someone’s sight makes
everything a sensual surprise. Even people who do not get
into bondage can LOVE a blindfold.
SOFT
RESTAINTS are a little more…..conditional……
upon your lover wanting to play. However, there are many products
which are easy for beginners to use. For example, KINKY
CUFFS can be a great way to subtly restrain your lover.
They are soft, use velcro and are easy to remove. Or, the
UNDER
THE BED RESTRAINT SYSTEM can add a severely erotic mood
to your love making. The most important thing to remember
is to NEVER, EVER force anyone to be blindfolded or restrained
without their consent and understanding. While bondage play
might be acceptable for a new lover – it is not likely
the first thing you want to spring on them! Be considerate
and always ASK before doing!
YOU
CAN NEVER BE TOO PREPARED…
While not everything I mention in this article might be your
idea of what to have on hand for sex, the more important lesson
is TO BE PREPARED. If you are single and dating – safety
should be your number one concern! Using condoms really is
a MUST for all new relationships. No sex is worth your life
– PERIOD! Also, having products such as lubricants can
make any lovemaking session go smoothly (pun intended) –
and can come in handy when you least expect it.
Most
of these products are excellent for couples and for single
folks. Using toys is a great way to train and teach yourself
about pleasure (to better explain to your next lover!) There
is a whole world of toys out there – explore some and
spice up your sex life! Being prepared for any level of sexual
play is so important and can really turn a night of good sex
into FANTASTIC sex! I hope that I have caused you to pause
and think about your level of sexual preparedness! Cause let’s
face it – life can come at your pretty fast –
and if we are not paying attention, we might miss it!!
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