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Mikayla
Let me ask my faithful readers, how many of you are in long
distance relationships OR have partners who go out of town
for business on a regular basis? I am willing to bet that
there are many of you – including myself. With the war
raging on, so many men and women are pulled away from their
families and loved ones to serve. Phone sex may be the only
thing that these soldiers can look forward to – and
I am a firm believer that they- of all people – NEED
something too look forward to.
I am one of those “my hubby is away AGAIN” women
– who refuses to let the miles between me and my man
deter our active sex life! Yes, there is something to be said
for that adage “absence makes the heart grow fonder”
– but I prefer to say, “phone sex makes the relationship
or marriage HOTTER!”
For many people, phone sex does not come easily. It can feel
embarrassing – saying those deep, dark secret fantasies
to someone who is not with you physically. Perhaps some feel
it is dirty and only “phone sex operators” would
do such a thing. Even more probably like the idea and would
try it – but they have NO idea how to begin or what
to say. Well, look no further because I am going to share
with you my tried and true phone sex techniques that will
have both of you panting like a horny dog on both ends of
the line!
NO PLAN IS A GOOD PLAN
One of the most essential things to remember when having phone
sex is NOT to script out what you will say. Phone sex is about
EMOTION – the feelings you have while you are away from
your honey. If you attempt to script out what you are going
to say it will come off like a rehearsed eulogy – and
that would not turn on your partner or you.
Try to be spontaneous, don’t necessarily plan on having
phone sex – just let it happen. When you find yourself
talking to your lover on the phone and he (or she) says something
like, “I really miss you babe!” you can reply
in kind, “I miss you too” – OR you could
step it up and say, “I miss kissing and feeling you
on top of me.” Your lover will think, “Wow, where
did that come from” – and you will think, “Did
I just say that out loud?”
Phone sex is about raw emotion, the real thoughts you have
about your lover. Sure, you miss him/her, and you can’t
wait to see him – but what about your sensual and sexual
needs? What do you miss in that category? That is where phone
sex comes in.
TIMING IS EVERYTHING
OK, so I just said that “no plan is a good plan”
but here I am talking about timing – you must be confused.
Well, while I think that you should not plan what you are
going to say, or even if you are going to have phone sex –
there are still some times when phone sex is not a good idea.
For example, if you have small children (or children in general)
and they are hovering around, this is obviously NOT a good
time to be having phone sex. Kids hear everything –
even when they are not listening – so be mindful of
that. You might be horny, but your kids do not need to hear
it.
Secondly, if you find yourself on the phone with your lover
and he/she is relaying that it was a horrible day, he/she
has a headache, or has not eaten dinner yet, and they seem
kind of “blah” – this is also probably not
the best time. You both should feel a connection – and
if one of you is having a really, bad day – this is
not the time. Wait until dinner has been eaten and there has
been time to de-stress and relax. It will be much better received
at this point.
Finallly, be cognizant of where your honey is at the time
you decide to spout off something dirty or nasty. True story:
my hubby was at a convention and I called him at 10:00 pm
(not taking into consideration that it was 2 hours earlier
there) and I ASSUMED that he would be in his room, getting
ready for bed. He was actually sitting at a table with all
his bosses and co-workers about to order dinner. Anyway, he
has a Blackberry – which is not the most discreet phone
to use – pretty much everyone hears everything that
the person on the other end says. I say to him, “Hey
honey” and he replies, “hi sweetie” back
to me. Then I say, “I would LOVE to be sitting on the
floor in front of you sucking on your big, hard cock!”
I hear, instead of my hubby reciprocating his feelings, “WOW,
I would love to meet your wife!”
UGGGHHH! I knew at that point that I was going to be the topic
of discussion for dinner. I quickly said, “Call me later”
and hung up – TOTALLY embarrassed! What I found out
later – when my hubby called me back from a secure location
– was that while it was a bit embarrassing – all
the guys at the table were envious – and that made me
smile! Just a lesson on proper “timing.”
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