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Mikayla
 EXTREME
MAKEOVERS
While I always encourage women to be proud of their appearance,
size, stature and what-not, I find that it is imperative to
urge women to play up their assets and to take pride in their
appearance by wearing make-up, doing their hair, and accessorizing
with jewelry. Changing one, single thing about your appearance
can really call attention to yourself! Here are just some
basic ideas:
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Cut years off your life! Sometimes the right
hair-cut can make you look 100% different! Ditch the Fantastic
Sams and go to a higher quality salon. Ask the hairdresser
what works with your hair, your face style, your age.
They can suggest hair styles that will knock you out!
Spend the extra money and get the better results –
it will pay off in the future, I guarantee it.
• Color his world! Adding hair
highlights, low-lights, or even a fresh all over color
can really revamp your appearance in a way you have never
imagined! Once again, go for the pros! Do it yourself
hair color is OK, but it is NOT the best. Remember to
get an expert opinion – someone who will not suggest
going red when it will make your hair look like Bozo!
• Make-up an excuse to talk to him!
If you do not wear make-up, or wear very little remember
that you do not have to pile it on to make an impression.
Statistics show that men prefer a more natural look over
a too made up look. Some classy blush, nice lipstick and
basic eye color can do WONDERS for your appearance. Remember
to stay modern (no black eyeliner with hot pink eye shadows)
and to be classy. If you are uncomfortable with make-up,
just try something modest, like lipstick.
• TAME the Wild Beast! Now ladies,
you have got to take a critical look at a few things that
should be as plain as the nose on your face? What am I
talking about? EYEBROWS and FACIAL HAIR! If you have a
3:00 shadow or your eyebrows are one, continuous unit
– go get waxed! Not even just for the man, but for
the sake of your own self-esteem! Having a well groomed
face is a great way to start! |
In
short, having an overall, put-together appearance is a great
way to make him notice you! If you change something like your
hair or make-up – play it up! Combine the new outfit
with the new “you” and be confident and in charge.
One of the best ways to get people to notice you is through
confidence and looking good is a great confidence builder!
MATCH-MAKING
MOVES
Now, perhaps you are already set with all of the above. You
are confident, put together, well-groomed and feel good about
“you.” If this is the case, then how do you bring
yourself into his line of sight? INTERACT with HIM of course!
Finding time to just say “hello” and call attention
to yourself is the easiest way to get noticed. If you are
shy, and barely talk – STOP IT – and go say “good
morning” to Mr. Hot Pants! Pass by his desk a few times
a day, look at him and SMILE. If you find yourself behind
him in the lunch line or at the deli down the street –
SAY HELLO! Strike up a conversation – get yourself into
his mind somehow!
Note
of Interest: If you are already on casual speaking
terms, then step it up a bit. You can leave him a note on
his desk, something cute like, “Just thought of you
and it brightened my day.” While you might find this
childish, trust me – it works! Men love knowing that
you are thinking of them – and then they think of you
too!
Coffee
Break: Or, bring him his favorite afternoon coffee,
for no reason than you were at the Starbucks and knew he like
the Mocha Latte. Drop it off to him with a smile. This lets
him know you were thinking about him, and were considerate
enough to get him a coffee too.
Get
a Leg UP: Perhaps you are ready to step it up even
more – turn on the seductive charm! Well, in that case
it can be as simple as sitting on his desk, or in a chair
across from him, and crossing your legs seductively. Run your
hand up and down your leg, by your knee – absentmindedly
– as you are speaking to him. Then, when you get up,
walk slowly back to your office. Let him have the image of
your legs in his mind, and your ass as you walked away.
Bending
over to let him look down your blouse is not as cliché
as many women think. If it is done in the right context, for
a short second and without viewing the entire breast, it can
really be the thing that the guy notices about you. This does
NOT mean that you are a sexual object only, but if you have
the stuff ladies, showcase it and let him know! Men are simple
ladies; it doesn’t take much for the mind to wander.
Conversations
take a turn: Men do not only want a sexy, sultry woman –
they also want a woman who is smart! Showcase your intelligence
ladies by talking to him about more than the weather! While
I would not suggest marching up to him at lunch and asking
him what he currently thinks about the ozone layer and the
ramifications of global warming – I would suggest letting
him into the secret that you have a BODY and BRAINS to BOOT!
Letting a man know that you are intelligent is a good thing,
and if he only goes for stupid bimbos, then he wasn’t
right for you anyhow!
Touch
him: Find a reason to touch him. A tap on the shoulder,
a brush of your hand, a gentle nudge during a meeting. These
are all signs of your interest. As in grade school, when the
boy HIT the girl, it meant he liked her. In older years, a
subtle touch can say more than a thousand words! Once, I even
joined arms with a man I was after while walking through my
college campus. I just went up and put my arm through his
as we kept talking. While he looked very surprised, he did
ask me out that same night. I touched him – in more
ways than one!
I
am WOMAN: Confidence is one of the biggest turn-ons
for men! Make sure that whatever you do, you are sure of yourself.
Do not stutter, hesitate, look scared – just do it with
class and style. It is definitely a good start when you come
off in charge of yourself.
THIRSTY?
Eventually, if all the subtle clues have not worked in your
favor, it might be time to step it up one more notch! You
may have to ask him out for a drink (or coffee) just to chat.
The same rules apply to asking him out as to getting him to
notice you. Wear your best clothes, have a great hair day,
wear your favorite perfume and then just DO IT! Be confident,
stride up to him and simply say, “Hey Tom, I was wondering,
do you want to go have lunch?”
Remember,
if he says “no” – do NOT get disheartened.
Just say, “ok, maybe another time” and walk away.
Remember to still say hello to him and do not give him indication
that you were upset or hurt. Cause he might have a good reason
for refusing, and you do not want to overreact! Also, if this
does happen, you do not want to give him (or any other prospective
guys) reason to think you are less confident now. So, if you
find yourself being shot down – do not fret –
there are many more men in the sea!
FINAL
THOUGHTS
While this article touches on just a few of my suggestions
for roping in the man of your dreams, I think that the basics
are definitely covered! Remembering to take pride in YOU –
through the use of clothing, hair styling, make-up and shoes
– can bring YOU more confidence and set you apart from
the other ladies in the office. It matters less about what
you actually look like, and more about how you present yourself,
than you even know!
Getting
personal through light touching or conversations can bring
you into the forefront of his mind. Give him a reason to get
to know you. Let him know you are a sensitive, sexy and thoughtful
person. Bringing him a coffee or a bagel can really let him
know you are into him. Leave lasting impressions through your
conversational skills and your art of seduction. Giving him
a sneak peek to what he could have if he was to land you.
You
are a total package ladies – smart, witty, sexy, sultry
and kind hearted! Let him see as much of all of those qualities
as you can! Landing the man of your dreams can be easy or
hard – but it is not impossible. Be true to yourself,
do not change too much so that you are uncomfortable, and
remember that NO MAN is worth making you feel badly about
yourself – so take rejection in style!
I
hope that this article inspires you to find the love of your
life and go for him. I also hope that the men who read this
realize that the girl who gives you a coffee everyday isn’t
your secretary, but instead a woman who wants to get to know
you better! Good luck ladies, the hunt has begun!!!
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