by Mikayla

Ahhh, now you see what I mean! Hey, I understand completely, I was a LOSER MAGNET before I met my hubby. My exes worked at places like Taco Bell and Arby’s, were rude and insensitive, flunked out of college, disrespected me every chance they got, and my parent’s HATED EACH ONE! I, of course, was drawn to them like (insert cliché here) – you get the point.

Then, when I met my hubby – in college – found out he had a job, was on the way to a promotion, had stable relationships with his family, was loved by all – well, I went running! Luckily, he was persistent because he has been the BEST thing that has happened to me. I was also approaching 25 years old, and eventually, realized that I should be looking for a “marriage man” and not a “player.” That was when the “bad guy” started having less appeal for me!

This seems to be the common thread among many women – choose the loser for fun, and the good guy for marriage. Now, while not all women go through this quandary – some are smarter and realize that losers are time wasters – I can bet that most women have been TREMENDOUSLY attracted to at least 1 loser in their lifetime! Think about it, who was your “loser?”

This common scene from everyday life has been carried over in movies, soap operas, and TV shows. The eternal debate of Good versus Bad is alive and rampant all over popular TV. There are so many examples, Men In Trees, House, Boston Legal, and, of course, the wildly popular TV series LOST. All of these shows have men who are just plain….bad in one way or another. Whether it is a total disregard for those around him, or a “sex only” attitude toward the women they meet, these Hollywood hunks have the attention of audiences everywhere!

One of the most evident and direct comparisons on television comes from LOST. On this deserted island there is no shortage of drama, and there are two such guys – Jack and Sawyer – who can be easily compared as “good” and “dangerous.” While I am not an avid watcher of this series, what I am is familiar with what makes each guy appealing to women – they are HOT! However, there is more to compare here with these characters. To long and short it, here are the statistics for these two island dreamboats:

JACK – The “Good Guy” – played by Matthew Fox

~Very much a leader – his fellow islanders would follow him anywhere and seem to listen to him
~Trustworthy – he seems to radiate the epitome of “trust”
~Has a responsible “job” – he was a doctor before the plain crash – people trust doctors
~He puts other people before himself – he has a selfless attitude
~EXTREMELY moral – thinks before he acts

SAWYER – the “Dangerous Dude” – played by Joshua Lee Holloway

~He is a loner, doesn’t want to be “in” with the group
~He is rude and calls people nicknames that are anything but nice
~Does NOT have a job – was a con man and a thief before coming to the island
~Steals from his fellow islanders and hides the booty like a pirate
~Will admit his wrongdoings IF someone calls him on it

I can tell you, I would have chosen Sawyer just because of his cool, hip, name! He is a risk taker, seems like he is fun, and 12 years ago would have been IT for me! Jack, in my opinion is better looking, and has the qualities my 25 year old self would have looked for in a man. This quandary left me curious – out of these two guys, who would YOU choose?

When I asked some of my girlfriends who they would choose, there was an overall winner – do you want to know who it was? It was Jack, but only because my girlfriends LOVE Matthew Fox! The one friend of mine, Tracy, who picked Sawyer did so because she LOVES blondes! So, does it really boil down to who you are attracted to, to “blonde” versus “brunette” – or is it the character they play on TV?

My girlfriends indicated that for them it was more about fantasy and appearance! They were more attracted to Jack, and his good qualities made him more attractive. Sawyer, was a “cutie” but didn’t seem to stack up to Jack. I figured I had to change the question to fit what I was really after. I asked them, if Matthew Fox played Sawyer instead of Jack, would the choice be the same?

This really through them for a loop – because choosing a good looking guy (or one that they favored), who was now the “dangerous dude” changed their opinions! Out of the 6 friends that I asked who had chosen Jack before, 4 of them switched to Sawyer! Obviously, my friends are driven solely by LUST over common sense! Clearly, my small sampling of women was overwhelmingly swayed by looks over character! Is this really how women are still making their romantic decisions?

I can acknowledge that I too favor Jack – but in my “advanced” age, I do not know if I would choose him if he had the characteristics of Sawyer. This made me very curious – what do women look for in a man today? Are we as women still willing to sacrifice certain things to land the hottie? Or, as we get older do we tend to look for a combination of looks and common sense? I just have to throw this out there for our readers to answer!

I am very curious as to what women look for in a man today. Can you overlook a man’s “bad” qualities – especially if he is GOOD looking? Are women still drawn to the bad guy over the nice one? Would you pick Sawyer over Jack? Take our poll and let’s find out – who wins out with more women – Jack or Sawyer – Dangerous Dude versus Good Guy!

Come on ladies, think it through and let us know what you think!