|  Have you ever had a guy take naked pictures of you “for
memory sake?” What about a movie, you know, your own
“personal porn?” You may be surprised to know
that having indecent pictures or movies is a very common admittance
for many people. You also may be wondering WHY someone would
videotape themselves having sex. The answer is simple: if
it is exciting and arousing to watch OTHER people having sex,
imagine how sexy it would be to watch YOURSELF having it?
Think about it, do you know how you look doing the nasty?
Do you have some sexy moves you would like to see? Well, the
easiest way to do this is to tape your sexcapades.
Are you feeling…..enticed? I’ll bet you are! So,
now that you have decided to tape your sexcapades, I’ll
bet you are wondering how to do it? Does one “act”
or just do the deed? Do you wear costumes, make-up, lingerie?
What about talking – is dirty talk necessary? What type
of equipment does it take to tape yourself? All these questions
will be answered as well as some basic ideas and advice.
GET YOUR TECHNO FREAK ON
Depending on what medium you decide on (video or picture)
the technology will vary. Let’s begin with pictures.
In this age of digital pictures, it is clearly the only way
to go. First, because you surely do not want the clerk at
Walgreens to see your naked butt plastered all over your films.
Second, because if that clerk sees naked you – he or
she will not develop your film- or they will turn it over
to the police! So, ditch the film and go digital baby!
Hopefully you have a digital camera already – but if
you do not, be prepared for an investment. The average, decent
digital camera with the basic features will run you about
$300. However, for this price you can get the assurance that
the only pictures that make it to print are the ones that
YOU print out! Keep in mind if you do not have a printer that
will print such pictures, you can only view them on the screen.
However, this can be just as exciting and very “in the
moment.”
Now, if you are more interested in porno over Playboy, you
can opt for the videography route. For many people this can
be an intimidating prospect. However, for many others it becomes
the beginning of a hot, steamy night of sex! There is fun
in the making of the film as well as fun in the watching!
So, if you are interested you have to have the right gear.
There are hundreds of different video cameras available –
from the very basic to the very advanced. You do not need
the highest tech ones on the market, but I would suggest you
look for a few basic features. First, make sure that it tapes
onto digital disk or onto mini-tape. If you can afford it,
digital disk is the way to go. Why? Well, you can pop the
disk right out of the camera and right into your DVD player!
Very easy! Second, make sure you can see the action on a pull
out screen. This will make it easier for you to set up where
you will put the camera. If you can see the “frame”
in the screen you will ensure that you get all the action.
Third, make sure you can zoom – cause sometimes a close-up
is needed. Fourth, try to get “image stabilization”
which eliminates the shaky appearance of the video if you
have movement of the camera – hence, if the floor is
“rocking” due to your sex action, then the picture
will still stay firm. Fifth, make sure the camera tapes well
in dim lighting. Unless you want the full porno experience
– complete with blaring lights – make sure the
camera tapes well in all light sources. If you have these
basic features you should come out with a good film –
and anything else is gravy.
Of course you can always go lower tech and just get the basic
of all basic features. It really depends on what your expectations
are for this camera, if you are going to use it for other
things you may just want to make the investment. A good, quality
video camera will likely cost around $400 - $500, but you
can use it for more than just personal porn!
I’M READY FOR MY CLOSE UP…
So, you have decided to make your personal porn, do you wear
costumes? What about make-up? Lingerie? Sexy shoes? Well,
the answer to this is: it is all up to you. My personal preference
for home movies of this genre is to make it fun and interesting.
This means some sort of role playing, costumes, and something
else before the sex. What my hubby and I found to be especially
exciting was playing “amateur photographer.” He
would pretend to be a photographer and I his willing model.
We would begin with the camera and clothes on – and
end with the video camera and clothes off!
This is not necessary – of course – but it can
really add a sense of imagination and whimsy (yes, I said
it) to your appearance on camera. Assuming and alter identity
helps many couples explore new avenues when it comes to sex
– and it doesn’t even have to be on camera. Role
playing allows both persons to become someone else –
someone different. In this manner, inhibitions can be lost
and the fun can truly begin. So, if you are thinking of making
your own movie, try to step things up with a little role playing
fun.
Also, keep in mind that the camera is unforgiving. If you
have stretch marks – they will appear. If you think
you need to loose 10 pounds – prepare to feel like it
is now 20! The camera captures what is there, and if you are
expecting to look like a porno princess – forget it!
Professional films are retouched and carefully shot –
so even if they had “normal people flaws” they
would not appear on film! You will be YOU – in all your
glory! The appeal of your home video is that it is YOU on
film and not an actor – that alone is worth the time
and effort.
TALK THE TALK AND WALK THE WALK…
What, exactly, does one SAY on a personal porn video? If you
are normally not a dirty talker, should you step it up for
the film and say the nasty things that always come into your
brain? The easy answer is again: it is your personal preference.
I am a big believer in doing what you want based on how the
mood strikes you. If you are in the moment and you decide
to cry out in pleasure – then DO IT! Do not let this
be the time that you feel censored – try to be yourself
only….sexier! Remember, you are going to watch this
tape (presumably) and you want to be talking the talk, so
to speak.
Now, if you are extremely uncomfortable with the dirty talk
– so much so that you call your vagina a “va-jay-jay”
or a penis the “little man” then you clearly have
no business dirty talking on tape. It will come out forced
and sound stupid. It also might be embarrassing for you to
watch yourself being blatantly sexual. So the decision is
really yours – talk dirty or not – but be true
to yourself. Perhaps after watching the video you will feel
more sexually charged and the next film will bear all your
dirtiest thoughts!
AND THE AVN GOES TO….
There is something naughty about filming yourself having sex.
Would it be even naughtier to film yourself doing something
you never do – such as ANAL
SEX? The jury is still out on this one as well, and is,
of course, one of those “do what you want” type
answers. As you are undoubtedly aware, porno stars tape every
type of sexual encounter – anal, toys, threesomes, oral
– you name it, it is probably on film somewhere. So,
if you are role playing and feel the moment strike you then
go for it, but I would stress the importance of being prepared
for all things.
For example, if you are in the moment and feeling especially
daring and decide anal sex would be a good twist for your
film – then go for it – as long as you are prepared.
This means – use lubrication, make sure both partners
are up for it and willing to spend the time to make it enjoyable.
Keep in mind that first time experiences with anal sex are
not always super enjoyable – and can be tense –
so you may want to reconsider documenting that on film. Sometimes
going with the moment can work out fantastic – and other
times it can serve as a reminder of a bad experience.
However, if you want to take this opportunity to step outside
your comfort zone (as if taping yourself isn’t enough)
then try to do something different at least. Allow yourself
to change positions, keep on your bra for that sexy look,
use sex toys, peer into the camera while you are climaxing
so you can see how you look, give your man some extra special
oral attention – whatever you do – just do it
with verve! Pretend you are up for the amateur AVN award and
give your very best performance – while staying true
to yourself and staying within your comfort zone!
SHARING AND VIEWING
Once your porno masterpiece has been recorded – watch
it! You can learn so much about yourself and your partner
by watching your facial expressions! See what really gets
him going when you are down between his legs, learn what techniques
get her to bite her lip! This is really a study in sexuality
– your own sexuality!
My last bit of advice is to make sure you keep close eyes
on your masterpiece! You would not want your mother in law
to inadvertently watch your sexcapades – or even worse
– YOUR KIDS! This is for your and your honey only (unless
you are daring enough to share with other adult friends) and
you should keep it labeled so you do not have an embarrassing
moment of confusion. Some people prefer to erase their films
for the sake of safety – this may be a good idea –
then you just tape a new one later.
Always remember that you need consent to tape anyone –
especially when it is sexual in nature- so before you decide
to go incognito with your camera – ask your partner’s
permission! This is a consensual, adult activity!
I hope that this short article inspires some of you to tape
your next night of fun – it just might be the beginning
of bigger and better things in the bedroom! Remember to stay
within your comfort zone, be prepared for all things, try
to be sexy and seductive while not going too far out of character
– and always have F U N!
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