by Mikayla

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SEX TOYS AND MORE….
While reading this article you were probably surprised that I have not mentioned much about Sex Toys yet. This is because, quite frankly, you do not need a sex toy to orgasm. With that being said, there are MANY outstanding reasons that you may want to invest in a few sex toys – for yourself, and for your lover.

As previously mentioned, clitoral stimulation is one of the best ways to achieve orgasm. Along the same lines, the best way to have a powerful orgasm (sometimes faster too) is to have INSERTION and CLITORAL STIMULATION at the same time. Women are sensitive on the inside as well as the outside – and having both areas stimulated can really add to the sensations.

While fingers can do the trick, other items such as vibrators, dildos and dongs can really add a little more punch to the party. Not only that, but vibrators, bullets and clitoral pumps can really help to produce clitoral stimulation in a manner that any woman would love.

I always suggest that a woman know how to masturbate and climax without the aid of a sex toy first before she adds a battery operated toy to her playtime. This simply allows her to become more personally acquainted to her body and pleasure zones before adding more stimulation to the mix.

However, if you are an experienced masturbator – or, if you just can't get that orgasm with fingers alone – then there are so many options for you that you will never want for anything! As I have said over and over and over again – I believe every woman should own at least 1 vibrating bullet! A bullet is the best way to give yourself clitoral stimulation during masturbation or during sex with a partner. It can be used all over your body (breasts, nipples, balls, penis) and delivers a powerful punch to your best pleasure center. A bullet is a toy that you can use quickly, or tease yourself with for a long build-up. It is small and unobtrusive for wonderful partner sex and stimulation. Every woman must have one – period.

Vibrators, especially no frills kinds like SLIMLINES, can be the next best thing to a bullet. SLIMLINES are long bullets – in essence – and can be used externally or internally. Have a vibrator gives you so many options for stimulation. Run it over your body, up your stomach, down your thighs. Place it between your vaginal lips and let the slow buzz build. Place the tip directly on your clitoris for tremendous pleasure – or, insert it and use a finger for clitoral stimulation if you need it. Vibrators are totally multi-purpose and can really add to your play time.

Dual Action Vibrators are a woman’s best friend. They have the ability to do double duty – insertion and clitoral stim at the same time! While DUALS are truly a wonder – I will again stress that you should know how to climax without the aid of toys before you invest in any type. There are so many DUALS available – waterproof, spinning, big, small – you have to find what would work well for you. Duals do all the work for you – so for quick orgasms – or multiples – a DUAL is your best bet.

If you are just looking for a little extra stimulation – a Clitoral Pump can be an excellent investment. Especially if you are finding it a little harder to climax do to some clitoral desensitization. Clitoral Pumps work by pumping up the clitoral area and helping the clit to engorge with blood. This makes the clitoris more sensitive to anything you might want to do. Some pumps even have a vibrating function – see what works best for you.

Now, all of these toys definitely have their place. If you are using a toy to help stimulate yourself, let me give you some techniques and advice. First, remember the prior rules. Always take your time, go slow, build-up to the big bang. You can use toys like bullets or vibrators to help stimulate those sensitive areas. Then, use your fingers first to get yourself aroused and use the vibe or bullet to help get you to climax. Or, use the toy to stimulate your clitoris, brining you to the brink of orgasm – then STOP – and let yourself come back down.

I also suggest, if you have a DUAL ACTION or a VIBE that you love – bring yourself to orgasm first with your fingers and then go for more orgasms with the toys! Becoming multi-orgasmic can be a great gift to you and to your lover – so masturbating with a toy for the second or third rounds can be a great way to achieve that goal!

The main thing to remember whenever you are masturbating is to go slow, enjoy the ride and always use your toys as an ENHANCEMENT, not a replacement for self-touch. Once you have learned how to successfully give yourself an orgasm time and time again you can try new things, new techniques and new toys. Your lover will be so grateful that you know how to pleasure yourself and teach him how to pleasure you back!

WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT…
This article was meant to touch on many different ideals and concepts as well as to give some basic techniques for masturbation. Self-touch and pleasure is a very personal thing – if you have a way that works for you, good – GO FOR IT! However, always be open to new ideas and suggestions. If you have toys – GREAT – just remember to use your fingers for a slow build-up and then employ your toys. If you do not have toys – GET SOME! Sex toys are such an enhancement for any sex life – solo or with a partner. Do not be intimidated – find something and give yourself the gift of pleasure.

Always remember that masturbation is essential for a healthy and satisfying sex life – alone or with a partner. The better you can pleasure yourself, the easier it will be to explain to your partner how to do so. This article is meant to give you some basic truths, tips and techniques for self pleasure – if you want more information, feel free to read the suggestions on the discussion forum. Lastly, always remember that masturbation is a personal thing – do what you like and you will always come out a winner (pun intended!)

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