Which one is right for you
Recently, on the discussion forum, we had a poster pose the question of what is the difference between a DILDO
and a VIBRATOR
– and which one should she buy? This got me thinking, when did I know the difference between the two – and how many people don’t?
Well, the long and short of it is that DILDOS and DONGS are usually phallic shaped – meaning they resemble in some way a penis. They usually do not vibrate – although there are some out there that now do. For the most part they are more solid, heavier and mean to serve as an insertion toy without direct clitoral stimulation.
, on the other hand – well, vibrate. They can look phallic-like, or look like something totally abstract. They are usually lighter (although some can be heavy if they take a lot of batteries) and there are many, many varieties of VIBRATORS
, which sometimes are called MASSAGERS
. There is also a sub-species of vibes called DUAL ACTIONS. A DUAL ACTION does two things at once: provides insertion and some mode of clitoral stimulation. Dual Actions are often the preferred vibrator of many women – including myself. Finally, both DILDOS and VIBRATORS come in G-Spot stimulating styles – although there are more available in vibratory styles.
The difference also can lie in what these toys are made out of. Both come in SILICONE, JELLY, RUBBER, METAL and CYBERSKIN. However, DILDOS AND DONGS mainly come in glass. Both DILDOS and VIBRATORS come in a variety of sizes.
BEING A DILDO
Dildos come in a wide assortment of sizes and uses. There are small “plug” like ones that can be used for anal or vaginal use. There are BLOW UP DILDOS that pump up after insertion via a hand pump. There are REALLY LARGE ones, often called BIG BOYS – that are made to really provide a FULL feeling. Of course there are ones made specifically for STRAP ON HARNESSES – which also can be used for anal or vaginal stimulation. Finally, there are DOUBLE DONGS AND DILDOS
–which are often used by Lesbian couples to give stimulation to both women simultaneously. I am also sure there are many other uses for these special dildos – perhaps anal and vaginal penetration at the same time.
Some Dildos do vibrate – such as the COLLEGE STUD
. This phallic shaped dildo is waterproof, bendable and multi-speed. It does not give as much vibration as a vibrator does, but it provides a nice, subtle vibration. There is no clitoral stimulation with a Dildo – at least not serious stimulation. Some do have pleasure ridges, but oftentimes these fall short of actually working.
Some Dildos also come with SUCTION CUP BASES
– for hands free playing. Many can be suctioned to bathtub sides, hardwood floors or even headboards. For this reason, many women do like Dildos, because the fantasy aspect is there when you do not have to hold on to the toy – just anchor it and ride! Finally, most Dildos and Dongs are completely waterproof. The few that do vibrate are NOT, but all the others certainly are. Since most dildos are solid in their construction – using one for bathtub or shower fun is something to consider.
Now, Vibrators also have quite a few unique contributions. There are MINI-VIBES
– which are essentially as small as something you can easily palm in your hand. They can be inserted – but many are used solely for clitoral stimulation. Items such as the POCKET ROCKET
or HUSTLER MINI-VIBE
are often the go-to clitoral stimulators for women. Sometimes called MASSAGERS
, these vibrators “massage” a woman’s clit to orgasm!
On a similar note, bullets
are also tiny vibrators that are compacted into a bullet-shaped vibrating toy. The bullet can be inserted – but often is used for clitoral, nipple, anal or even testicular stimulation. BULLETS are available in metal or jelly and also come in an assortment of sizes – from tiny to somewhat large – and even dual. I often say that BULLETS are the best toy to have if you are only going to have one because they are so universal and easy to use –not to mention – economical.
Similar to Dildos, Vibrators come in a variety of lengths and girths. Some are smaller for beginner use and are unintimidating due to their non-phallic appearance. Jenna's Kitty Caress
vibrator would be a great example of this. These vibes can be used inserted or for clitoral stimulation like a large bullet. There are others like the PIXIE VIBE
that are small, petite and quiet. Then, on the other end of the spectrum, there are larger vibes such as the HEART-ON VIBE
– which is long and thick. This vibe also is textured, which is another quality that many vibrators have separate from DILDOS. The CHUBBY TEASER is another fairly large vibe that has a texture all over the shaft – tiny little pleasure nubbies. For many women, having a texture on the shaft can be another realm of pleasure.
While Dildos have the suction cup characteristics, Vibes can boast the HANDS FREE
characteristic. There are many vibes available that are completely hands free compliments of adjustable leg straps. An example of this would be the famous BUTTERFLY VIBE
– which has a small shaft to insert, clitoral stimulators, and a variety of speeds. These are popular for foreplay options and for attempting to wear out. The hands free vibes bring a whole, new level to the playing field.
My hubby’s favorite kind of vibe is the LIGHT UP
version. He just LOVES to see the toy going in and out of me by only the glow of the lights inside! LIGHT UP VIBES bring and element of whimsy to the sex party – and an added source of light for undercover play. TERA PATRICK’S STROBING PENIS
is one of our absolute favorites! Once you try a light up vibe, your world has changed!
Also similar to the double dong is the DOUBLE PENETRATION
version of a vibrator. These unique and highly erotic toys are meant to stimulate you anally and vaginally simultaneously! While, I am not a big fan of these toys, many women swear by them – saying they deliver the all out perfect orgasm! The Dynamic Duo Vibe
vibe is probably the only one that I personally would recommend in this category. It actually worked and had a lot of positive attributes. If you are looking to really step up your play time – this one would do the trick right quick.
My favorite category of Vibes – and probably the hardest for me to pick favorites – are the DUAL ACTIONS
! Duals provide that much needed clitoral stimulation while providing insertion. You have heard the statistics – women orgasm faster and stronger when they have BOTH. So, Duals do this for you and most of them do it super well! Some of my top picks here are THE WATERPROOF RABBIT
! This one has everything! A nice, hefty size, great pleasure bumps, pleasure pearls that rotate and stimulate your insides, and a FANTASTIC clitoral stimulator! Combine all this with wonderful vibrations and you have yourself an orgasm! The CLASSIC iVIBE Rabbit
is also one of my firm faves! Having the power to go the distance, those pleasure pearls, and of course - the RABBIT EARS! Oh Momma! If you have never felt those ears tickling your clitoris –you have got to try! Duals are the way to go ladies – the one-stop orgasm shop!
A sort of sub-genre of the Duals are the G-SPOT VIBES
. Just as the name suggests, these vibes are meant to rub your G-Spot just right – and many do. Now, while not all toys (or any toy for that matter) can guarantee a G-Spot orgasm, most of these toys will do the trick. I can definitely vouch for the GLITTERING ROTATING G-SPOT – which has been a favorite of mine for almost 3 years now! I LOVE this toy and get a G-Spot O every time! JESSICA’S STROBING PROBE
is another that has consistently delivered results for me. Having an odd bent head – this toy always hits the mark! There are many G-spot vibes out there –and if you are a woman looking for a G-Spot orgasm, it is definitely time to invest in one!
Finally, totally unique to the Vibe category are ELECTIC POWERED
vibes and massagers! These special vibes answer that question “how long will the batteries last!” There are NO batteries, just charge and play! While more expensive than traditional vibes, they are well worth it for the life you get out of them. I personally own and recommend the HITATCHI MAGIC WAND
– a wonderful, intense, FAST orgasm every time – plus, you can use it for leg cramps and back rubs! What could be better than that? Also, my other top favorite is the SYNGERY System
– this is an all-inclusive pleasure fest! Unintimidating appearance, wonderful power, a multitude of pleasure heads –this system is an investment in YOUR pleasure – I guarantee it! All in all, electric powered toys are the wave of the future for sure!
BUT, WHICH ONE????
So, there you have the basic differences and similarities between the world of Dildos and the world of vibrators. Clearly, you have more options in the realm of vibes, but sometimes a gal is just looking for the simple route! Many women have asked: which one should I choose?
Simply, that answer has to come from you. Both have their pros and cons and special functions. It really depends on what you are looking to achieve. For fast orgasms: Vibes, specifically, Dual Actions
. For G-Spot – you can go with a harder, stiff, dildo, or you can try the G-Spot toys
. Universal Foreplay: Bullets
satisfy men and women equally. Anal play: there are more options in dildos and dong than vibes – but there are vibrating plugs – which are really nice. Fantasy / Role Playing: Dildos and Dongs
are more realistic looking – some VERY realistic looking. If you are contemplating a 3-some fantasy, or want to imagine a hunky man has come to visit – dildos are the way to go. Plain Ole’ Pleasure: I usually would go with a vibe – of your specific size – for this. Vibes can be used to stimulate, to insert, to give stimulation – vibes are the universal pleaser for most women. Having one on hand is never a bad thing.
So, as you can see, there is no easy answer to the question of which to buy. I think that if you peruse the site and see the different options, what you want will come to mind and you will find the toy that will satisfy those needs! You can also mix-n-match – get a dildo for insertion and a bullet for clitoral stim! Hey, why not? Your pleasure has no price tag right? Try to find a toy that looks appealing to you, not too big, not too small – something that makes your eyebrows lift! Try one, try them all – but please – TRY! Sexual enhancement products are changing at the drop of a hat – and the technology is getting more advanced! Why be left out of the pleasure zone? Get a vibe, dildo, bullet, dual action, g-spot or mini-vibe TODAY – you will be glad you did!