Exploring Your Sexuality Through Gender-Neutral Sex Toys
Everyone deserves to experience the amazing pleasure our bodies are capable of having - regardless of gender, sexual orientation, or inaccessibility.
TooTimid is dedicated to helping you explore your gender and sexuality through masturbation and sex so you can encompass self-love through your self-exploration journey.
Pleasure is self-care and our selection of gender-neutral sex toys are designed with self-love in mind. We've compiled a list of our top gender-neutral toys for everyone to enjoy.
Here are our top picks, benefits of each, and how to use them!
Anal Toys
Anal toys are the perfect sex toys for every body because everybody has a butt! 😉
They call anal toys the ultimate neutralizer, as they are gender-neutral and all-inclusive.
If you are new to anal toys, you may want to start with either anal beads, or perhaps an anal beginner’s kit with butt plugs and other fun anal toys.
Anal Beads
Anal beads are pretty accessible and non-threatening toys.
They start with a smaller anal bead at one end, followed by a series of beads that gradually get bigger towards the other end.
At the opposite end of the smallest anal bead, you will also find a little loop that makes it easy to pull the anal beads out after insertion. And that’s the best part!
The idea is that you stimulate yourself to orgasm, and upon climax, pull the string of beads out for a more intense experience. Wow!
Benefits of Anal Beads:
- Intensifies orgasms during sex & masturbation
- Size gradually increases from small beads to larger beads
- Great for any experience level
Butt Plugs and Anal Training
If you are feeling a bit bolder, an anal butt plug or anal training kit may be a perfect starter anal toy for you.
Anal plugs are meant to be inserted and then worn for a certain period of time, to “train” the sphincters in your butt to get used to the feeling of having something inside there and to stretch them a bit, thus preparing you for the pleasures of anal penetrative sex, if you so desire.
We LOVE anal plugs because they come in so many different sizes, shapes, and pretty designs, like these beautiful decorative butt plugs that are so sexy adding a bit of bling-bling to your booty!
Some even come with plush faux fur tails for animal role-play, so you can let loose your wild side.
There are also colorful plugs like the multi-color silicone suction cup anal plug which is perfect for celebrating Pride Month, or the cute AF rainbow unicorn tail anal plug, which is sure to get you prancing with delight!
At TooTimid, we carry lots of fun butt play toys for any body, whether you are a beginner just exploring the pleasures of butt play or an anal expert looking for new adventures.
Benefits of Anal Plugs:
- Double penetration during masturbation & sex
- Provides a "fuller" feeling for more intense orgasms
- Various materials that are great for temperature play
- Intensifies orgasms
Vibrators
While vibrators have traditionally been designed for vulva-owners, everyone can get pleasured by a little intimate buzzing on their private parts.
There are lots of erogenous zones on the body that enjoy vibration stimulation from clits, nips, and penises, to the perineum, prostate, or P-spot.
Of course, there are so many types of vibrating marvels (because they are superheroes for your genitals!), that it may be a bit difficult to figure out which one is right for you.
A good way to decide, is first, figure out which part of the body you want to stimulate.
Smaller pinpoint vibrators are perfect for the clit and nipples, as well as air pulse pleasure toys that provide a gentle air tapping sensation your tingly parts to orgasmic bliss without overstimulation.
One of our bestsellers is a rechargeble clit vibrator that provides intense clitoral suction to emulate oral sex! This amazing vibe uses a pulsating, sucking action that will send you over the moon!
For Penises
For penis-owners, there are now vibrating massagers that have pliable wings that surround the penis and provide intense vibrating stimulation to the glans of the penis for out-of-this-world orgasmic sensations, like the Satisfyer Rechargeable Male Massage Wand.
These types of vibrating massager for penis-owners can also be used for endurance training or edging to increase your longer-lasting pleasure experiences.
Internal Stimulation
Internal stimulating sex toys are suited for all different genders and sexual orientations, so everyone can enjoy pleasure and exporation through different experiences.
The P-Spot
Let’s not forget internal vibrations for penetrative play. For people with prostates, there are vibrating P-spot toys like the Thumping Prostate Massager with Wireless Remote that provides deep, rumbling vibrations, while the pulsating pad at the tip "thumps" against the P-spot for mind-blowing orgasms! Whoa!
The thumping technology of this massager is designed to mimic the feeling of a 'come-hither' or fingering sensation on your prostate for out of this world orgasms!
When choosing a P-spot massager, make sure to look for toys that have a pronounced curve, like a crooked finger. The anal canal has a slight bend in it, so a curved toy will target the P-spot perfectly.
Benefits of prostate massage:
- Helps aide with erectile dysfunction (E.D.)
- Improves pre-mature ejaculation
- Reduces pelvic pain
- Helps enhance sexual performance
The G-Spot
For vagina owners, there are also vibrators that continuously massage the G-Spot for pleasure.
Like P-spot toys, G-spot vibes also have a pronounced curve so they can curl up and rub the G-spot which is located about 2-3 inches inside the vaginal canal.
Of course, every body is different, so it may take a bit of exploration to locate it. And, it is actually more of an “area” or zone, than a “spot”. But you can find it on the frontal wall of the vagina, around the area of the pelvic bone.
In fact, if you press down on this area during G-spot stimulation, it can intensify your pleasure and your orgasm.
The area where the internal G-spot is located feels spongier and wrinkled like a prune, whereas the surrounding tissue is smooth like the cheeks inside of your mouth.
Once it gets excited, it will swell up and become very noticeable, so then you will know you have found it. There are plenty of toys that pleasure this are very well, like the Rose G-Spot Vibe from TooTimid, or the Butterfly Kiss that tickles both the G-spot and the clitoris simultaneously for a double whammy combination style orgasm
G-spot and P-spot toys can also be interchangeable for the most part, so can work on either body part, for any gender.
Benefits of G-Spot Vibrators:
- Improves libido
- Helps achieve squirting orgasms, when possible
- Increases orgasms during self-pleasure
For Nipples
While we have already mentioned nipples, there is a whole selection of toys created just for stimulating this wonderful part of the body.
Nipple stimulation has been shown to light up the same area of the brain that activates when the clitoris, vagina, or cervix are stimulated, and some people can achieve orgasm via nipple stimulation called nipplegasms.
Nipple toys come in a wide variety of styles, from ones that squeeze and pinch, like nipple clamps, and others that suck, like nipple suckers and pumps.
Deciding which type to try depends on the sensation you would like to feel.
Nipple Suckers
Nipple suckers feel like having your nipples sucked and provides a mild erotic and sensual sensation. Some are small nubby toys, that you just squeeze and then apply to the nipples.
Others vibrate and pump the nipples mechanically to puff them up and bring more blood flow and sensitivity to the area.
Nipple Clamps
Nipple clamps on the other hand provide a very intense sensation, and if you have very sensitive nipples the stimulations provided by nipple clamps might be too intense… or you just may love them!
Nipple clamps are applied on the areola part of the nipples and should be adjusted so they are secure, but not too tight. You want to feel pressure, but not a lot of pain (although some enjoy the pain aspect as well).
They are then left on for a while (5-20 minutes), and they slowly numb the sensations in the nipples, which sounds counter-intuitive, but it’s not, because once you release the nipples—Pow!—all the sensation comes rushing back for a euphoric explosion to the senses.
Benefits of Nipple Clamps:
- Increases sensitivity & arousal for more powerful orgasms
- Helps achieve 'nipplegasm's'
Dildos & Strap-Ons
Dildos and strap-ons are an inclusive sex toy that can be used by anyone, for penetrative sex in the vagina or anus.
Many anal dildos feature a flared or suction cup base, so they can be stuck to a smooth, solid surface for hands-free pleasure.
These toys can also be used in a harness for strap-on sex as well with a partner.
Strap-On Play
Strap-on play can be enjoyed by anyone, either as the giver or the receiver.
As we already noted, every body has a butt, so strap-ons are great for pegging your partner, or faux penis to vagina sex.
Strap-Ons
Some penis owners use hollow strap-ons to give them a bigger, harder erection, especially if they have erectile difficulties.
This allows them to pleasure their partner without the worry of maintaining a hard-on. So, no pressure or performance anxiety. Bonus!
Vagina owners also enjoy being the givers of penetrative play and can strap on a faux penis to pleasure their partner regardless of gender.
Strap-on sex can also be used to explore gender-bending, and role reversal in relationships, which can be highly erotic for both partners.
There are specifically designed strapless strap-ons for vagina owners, in which one part is inserted in the giver’s vagina and the longer dildo part can be used to penetrate their partner.
This type of strap-on strengthens the givers pelvic floor as they use their kegel muscles to clench the strapless strap-on in place!
Benefits of Strap-Ons:
- Helps overcome erectile dysunfction (E.D.) difficulties
- Allows couples, regardless of gender, to participate in pegging or gender bending
- Can be used to increase the length & girth of a penis for enhanced pleasure
Strap-On Harnesses & Kits
Many other styles of strap-on dildos are used with a harness or come in a kit.
The advantage of a harness and strap-on is they are a gender-free sex toy that can be used by any body.
You can also mix and match dildos to suit the size and preference you desire.
Sensation Play & Kink
The last category of gender-neutral toys are sensation play and BDSM toys.
There is a huge selection of stimulating toys that fall into this category from sensory type feather ticklers, to paddles and whips for erotic spanking, to bedroom bondage toys (ropes, restraints, cuffs), masks, and ball gags, to sex swings and sex furniture.
There are so many options to explore here, it literally blows the mind!
You don’t have to enjoy pain, or domination and submission fantasies to enjoy kinky toys either.
Most are designed to stimulate the senses and raise the levels of your desire through play, suspense, and teasing.
Pain or Pleasure?
What’s your preference? Of course, a bit of erotic spanking, or sexual roleplay can always be exciting too, if that’s what you're into. Everyone is wired differently, and what may be pain for one person is orgasmic pleasure to another.
So, if you are looking for a thrilling adventure to spice up your sex life, sensation play, and kinky toys may be just the thing to try.
Solo Play or With a Partner
Gender-neutral sex toys can be explored solo via masturbation (or sexy self-care), or with a partner (or two!).
Because these toys are designed for every body, regardless of gender or sexual preference, they are the ideal toys to aid in erotic exploration and orgasmic pleasure.
Happy Orgasms!
We hope you enjoyed TooTimid’s Guide to gender-neutral sex toys for all bodies and had fun learning about all the different types of toys that can turn you on and get you off!
Just remember, choose your body part, select your toy, and experience the ultimate in pleasure… for any and all of your erogenous zones!
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